I met this girl two years ago and we became best friends.... Well, I ended up falling in love with her and she had a b/f.... A few weeks ago she broke up with him and came over to hang out with me and a couple of our friends. About a week later, she said we needed to talk and she asked how I felt about her dating my roommate..... I flipped, and we got into a huge argument that threatened our friendship.... A couple days later, I kinda got over it and told them to date. They still haven't but I keep telling them that I will be fine. One reason I'm pushing them is so that i will be hurt enought to only be friends with her. She says he makes her very happy and really that's all I want, is for her to be happy.... If this doesn't help me move on, what will? Do I have the right idea?
2007-04-16 08:17:58 · 15 answers · asked by Metallico 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I told her that I fell in love with her, she said she doesn't love me the same way....
2007-04-16 08:24:11 · update #1
stop thinking about everyone else, and do whats right for you
I'm not sure what is right for you, but you don't have the right idea ... don't be a victim, and don't put yourself in situations where you know you will fail ... find happiness inside yourself, and the rest will follow
2007-04-16 08:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friendship.
How does your roommate feel? How strong is his loyalty to you? It is clear the girl in this story has none.
Perhaps you need to evaluate just what it is about her that you love. At your age, hormones have more to do with attraction and love than real L O V E. Lust is easy, real love is hard because it takes work on everyone's part.
I would walk away from the entire thing and move on without her in your life at all and if that involves losing your roommate then so be it.
2007-04-16 08:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Scout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw.
Well maybe she needs to know how you feel, unless you think she totally wouldn;t go for you like that. I mean seeing her with your roommate is not going to help you, just make you more upset. Its nice that you want her to be happy. Maybe she likes you too but doesn't want to ruin the friendship by telling you.
I know its hard. i used to have guy friends who fell in love with me and all I wanted to be was friends. Well they always ended up not being my friend anymore cuz they couldnt stand being around me while i was dating other guys. Its sad that a lot of friendships end this way. I've never been able to have a guy friend who didn't want to be with me eventually.
2007-04-16 08:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I’m in the same situation, I wanna date my guy friend’s friend, but he doesn’t like that idea, it won’t help you move on, seriously, if anything, it’ll probably just make you kinda jealous and upset that she’s with him and not you, even though you’ve been in love with her for 2 years, so yeah…not heading the right direction, but then again, people are different, if you see that she’s happy, you may just be content with that and find happiness of your own, I don’t know, good luck though, babe, I’m sure you’re a great guy.
2007-04-16 08:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by TheBeautifulMess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but there is likely only two ways that you'll be able to move on:
1. Find your own girlfriend.
2. MOVE ON. That means stop being their friends. Get away from them. Find a new roommate. Distance yourself. Out of sight, out of mind.
As long as you are constantly in sight of them, and have no other means of occupying your emotions, you'll be a victim of jealousy and frustration. There are exceptions for some exceptionally people who are able to manipulate their feelings easily and quickly, but most people would be unable to really deal with this situation on their own. That is the sad truth of it.
Good luck!
2007-04-16 08:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok now this is a real question. ASK HER OUT!!!!!!! Derrrrrr. You will never ever be satisfied with just being her friend. And seeing her date other people is going to be even more painful. You know what you have to do. Work up the courage and tell her how you really feel.
I wish you luck. =P
2007-04-16 08:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by FU! -.~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it hurts you to be around that right now, but to give you some time..... I am sure she will understand, and lay low for a while.. you dont mention your room mates feelings of if you care what he thinks...... I would be honest not a pouty "go ahead"... how are you going to feel coming home and they are making out on the couch.. or bumping noises in the other room.... if you really like her alot, you cant live in that enviroment and stay sane.
2007-04-16 08:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, go out and get you some girls in YOUR life. not just friends but lovers also. she knows what she is doing to you. she sounds like someone that you will not remain friends with throughout your lifetime. why do you wanna hurt yourself over this nothing *** stuff. ??? give yourself a make over and get it pimpin dude!!! turn your pain into joy and start having fun and leave them to their pathetic selves. you can want the best for her, but dude, go get the best for yourself. let today be the first day of the rest of your life!!!!!!!!! put out the sign and watch the girls line up.
2007-04-16 08:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by triple o.g. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend Ryan has been my best friend for 8 years.
He's in love with me., and every time i start to date someone i talk to him first to see how he would take this. He always says it's fine ...but i know inside how much it kills him and I hurts me so much but I just can see me and him together ...so maybe she just cant see you and her together. So be like Ryan take it and endure it for if it's meant to be it will and the pain is worth every minute.
2007-04-16 08:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's just not that into you. Just move on and keep her as your friend. We all need as many friends as we can get. Girl friends and boyfriends come and go, but friends are for life.
2007-04-16 09:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by sunmoons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋