okay so my parents HATE my boyfriend, a lot. they think he is like the scum of the earth and if he ever wants to come over again he has to have a "talk" with my DAD >:[ my boyfriend said he'd talk but idk is there any way to gain trust back in my mother from him?
because she can't stand him and we've broken tons of rules (at school and my house)...
any help would be appreciated thanks
:D
2007-04-16 08:02:55 · 9 answers · asked by katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know at your age this sounds utterly impossible to even imagine. But...if your parents (who are older and far more experienced) hate this guy...there just might be a reason for it.
Why do they hate him? You said they think he is the scum of the earth. Well is he? What did he do?
You've broken tons of rules so he is a bad influence on you. Have your grades dropped? Have you given up all your activities to be with him? Does he isolate you from other friends?
Perhaps your parents are right and you need to let this relationship go. No reason to ruin your entire life b/c you think you really care about someone in high school. Years from now you will look back on this loser and think, Oh Why Oh Why did I do all that stupid stuff?
I don't expect to get best answer for this cause I know some kid who says "parents are mean, screw them" will agree with your point of view more at this stage in your life. But seriously if you want your parents to respect you and view you as an adult, you have to think like an adult. Why do your parents hate you associating with someone who breaks all the rules? You are a smart girl--you know the answer to that.
So if he regains your mothers trust--has he changed any? Do you want to regain her trust so you can break rules together--and destroy her trust again?
2007-04-16 08:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take an objective look as WHY they hate him.
They just might be *GASP* right about him.
You can only gain trust by showing them that you can be mature enough not to break rules at school and your house.
While you at home you play by your parents rules. You will do better working with them than against them. Please remember that the only reason they have those rules is because they really love you and want the best for you.
Sometimes parents can go to far, but try looking at things from their perspective first.
Peace and Good Luck.
2007-04-16 15:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken trust takes a while to re-build. Obey their rules. Have your boyfriend come over and talk with your parents. If he does that he will look like more of a man, as opposed to a naughty little boy. In time they may come to accept him. Keep in mind for most parents you could marry an actual prince and they will think he is not "good enough" for you.
2007-04-16 15:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Nels N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have live longer than you, they are more experienced and by now they should be able to judge the character of a person.
In other words, if they think that your boyfriend is scum, is because he probably is.
Your Dad will probably want to discuss with him the rules of the house and he will ask from him a commitment to obey them; and which as soon as he breaks them (and he will) it will be demonstrated that he is not worthy of their trust and will be branded a liar for the rest of his natural life.
Friendly word of advice, get rid of him
2007-04-16 15:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rex Deus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your parents' point of view: He doesn't respect them or their house. They know you aren't perfect, but they want you to want more out of life.
From my point of view: I'm guessing you're in you teens. He's a boyfriend. In five years you'll hardly remember his name, or what you ever saw in him.
Your parents probably see what you can't see right now. I'm sure they think you're better than this guy. My folks were the same way. Five years after I graduated college my bad-boy high school boyfriend washed my car at a local car wash. Boy, I dodged a bullet!
2007-04-16 15:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but you are stupid for letting a guy come between you and your parents. I know parents can suck at times but you only get one set. Guys come and go all the time.
As for this guy he has to find his own way to gain your parents trust you've got enough problems to deal with and your own relationship to mend with them. If he cares for you he should man up and so should you.
2007-04-16 15:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anita J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right. And you're both totally immature if you can't even follow simple rules at school and at home-- how will you survive in the real world if you can't even managed high school rules?
2007-04-16 15:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME IN OCTOBER. MY B/F DID HAVE A TALK WITH MY PARENTS AND THE OUTCOME... WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER. YOUR SITUATION MAY BE DIFFERENT. I SAY GO FOR IT. THE GOOD PART ABOUT IT IS THAT I FOUND SOMEONE ELSE BETTER.
2007-04-16 15:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by passion4fashion07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if this is the person you plan on spending a lot of time with in your life then they need to learn to get along......
2007-04-16 15:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by ~*.`Lil Sweety`.*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋