hello. i am 26 yrs old and have a little sister thats 18 i'm her sister but also a best friend she confides in me. i try to guide her and help her make the right decisions. well when she found out she was 8 weeks pregnant i told her to keep it and i will help with raising the child, but she decided she wasn't ready and she a had a full scholorship to clark atl. so she decided to get and abortion on march 21, 2007. 2 weeks later which was april 6th she had uprotected sex but she says her boyfriend used the pull out method. i am extremly upset that she uses no form of birhtcontrol. she is so irresponsible but i pray she isn't pregnant cuz i will not let her have another abortion. her period is due tommorow 04/17 but could be late because of the abortion she had.
what are the chances that she could be pregnant from pre- nut.
when would we be able to find out if she is. keep in mind that she had an abortion a couple weeks ago so period may be late.
thanks so much
2007-04-16 07:24:53 · 17 answers · asked by shay 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First - I am glad you tried to talk her out of the abortion. That was a great thing - as a friend and a sister. Only time can tell right now - however, for the time being - please talk to her about not having sex if she isn't ready to be a mom. If she has too many abortions, she will hurt her body in so many ways, and later in life she may not be able to carry a baby full term. Plus - she could get STD's, AIDS, HIV, so much is resting on what types of decisions she is making now. It is great she wants to go to college, however, she needs to think about all of the things she will have to do to keep that scholarship, and it isn't just have an abortion everytime she gets pregnant. She needs to give up her lifestyles (not the condom!) and concentrate on school if that is where her mind really is. It will work out if she:
Stops having sex so much
Starts and finishes school
Then she will have the right education, and opportunity to make the money to start a family.
Plus - the pull out method is not 100% guarenteed. There is still 'pre-ejaculation' which can still get someone pregnant. The best form of safe sex is no sex.
I am not putting it down - it's a great thing...in the right timing of your life.
Good luck. And always be there for her.
2007-04-16 07:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion? How stupid is your sister? I am going through this with my best friend. She isn't ready to be a mom and she is 5 weeks pregnant. She went to Nashville to have an abortion. I am against abortion because it's wrong and the baby can feel it. If you're stupid enough to have sex and not think about the consiquences, then you should have to be responsibile for those consiquences and not take the easy way out. She's stupid and needs to be put on birth control if she's still having sex. Hell, if she isn't ready to be a mom, then she needs to stop doing it or have the man wrap it up. Those are the safest methods. A blood test will pick up a pregnancy earlier than a home pregnancy test. Have her take a home pregnancy test to see what the result is and then have a blood test done. Better safe than sorry. If she is pregnant, she needs to keep this one. Sometimes things happen for a reason and maybe a pregnancy happened to her to make her grow up. She needs to be responisble for her actions. After all, there are people out there like my husband and I who miscarry and can't seem to get pregnant right now. Tell her to grow up and be an adult. Good luck though!
2007-04-16 07:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie, it sounds like you are carrying the world on your shoulders and you are doing a wonderful job of taking care of your sister, big pat on the back for that!
Where are your parents? I believe they have the right to know, also, to help you get some of this weight off your shoulders, you are only 26 years old, and you have your life also to take care of!
Second of all, I had to have an abortion, due to the strong medications I was on and it was harming the fetus!!!!
And I was told no sex for a week because you are still fertile after terminating the pregnancy, and you will still have your "period" because you will be bleeding like a period, and since you are still fertile, you can get pregnant, and the pull-out method is not reliable, you can still get pregnant by that also, and condoms can break, so either she should substain for a while and keep in contact with her doctor, and if she does not start her period tomorrow, have her take a pregnancy test, or have her go to her doctor and have her take a blood test!
good luck, and I believe you should tell your parents about this also, it is your choice, but it sounds like you are carrying the world on your shoulders!
2007-04-16 07:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try teaching her about birth control, or take her to a Planned Parenthood for one of their classes on birth control, but since she's 18, and her own person, you can't make her *do* anything. If she's stupid and gets pregnant again, and decides to have another abortion, there's nothing you can do. It's her choice and resposibility. You can talk to her, but that's it. She's legally an adult. Maybe someday she'll learn.
As for the pre-***, her chances of getting pregnant are the same. There are sperm in pre-***. The withdrawal method has the lowest amount of effeciency of any type of birth control.
Wait about 4 -6 weeks and test her. Her hormones most likely be high enough to register on the test if she is pregnant.
You know, if anything, why don't you go the store and buy her some condoms and spermicide suppositories? Maybe she'll get the hint. The suppositories are inserted like a tampon, and you simply push the spermicide into the vagina. I used them myself and didn't get pregnant. It's not the same as hormonal birth control, but it's a lot better than the withdrawal method!
2007-04-16 07:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the only way you will know is to have her test 2 weeks after she has sex. If she doesn't get her period, test again a week later, just to be sure.
I am right there with you on this one! Good for you, for being a good big-sister. Maybe you could show her some photos of little fetuses in-utero and help her understand what she is messing around with. Has she seen a picture of a little fetus and how they look like a little baby already by the time they are like 9 weeks?
Maybe that will help her understand the precious life she would be possibly ending if she had another abortion.
2007-04-16 07:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! Well I had an abortion before and then two weeks later I went and had sex. Her period is going to be irregular because of the abortion. She may not get pregnant. My advise to you is to allow your sister to make her own mistakes. I know that you love her very much but she has to learn. Because if you keep inter veining and helping her get out of her own mess then she will keep doing crazy things and know that you are going to be there. She can get pregnant but her body is trying to regulate itself. Continue to pray for your sister. Next time God forbid that it happens again go to the Plan B pills you until 72 hours after unprotected sex. May God be with you.
2007-04-16 07:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by *ViRtUoUs WoMaN* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had a minimum chance but anyway could conceive again. So sorry, now is to late to take a Plan B. Her need to take a test in a two weeks. Her period may be in a month after abortion.
2007-04-16 07:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by vasanna01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, ...shes needs to go talk to her doctor and ask these questions...i'm 23 and my sister went through the same thing..she got pregnant and got an abortion then was having unsafe sex again later...its funny how they seem to never learn...if shes waiting for her period, be aware that it could be late (with or with out having sex). she is probably going to be alittle off down there no matter what...and if she must have sex, then she needs to be aware of what getting pregnant AGAIN can do to her uterus... she needs to go to a doctor and ask questions about the side effect of the abortion....my sister never got pregnant again but she could have just been lucky....as an older sister, be there for her and help advise her to be careful and go to the doctor, go with her and be there for her every step of the way....the boyfriend should really be there too...hope i was helpful and good luck to your sister.
2007-04-16 07:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by monetbaker22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you figure she would've learned her lesson. her body isn't in the best shape to be having sex anyway after such a procedure. it is irresponsible of her to not use any birth control method, and that needs to be pointed out to her. abortion is not birth control altough people like to treat it that way. i totally agree with you about not letting her get another one. i don't know what the chances are of her being pregnant. but i would definetely take her to the doc when you find out and get her on some birth control of some sort if she is going to be this careless. college takes a long time to get through and it will be impossible if she keeps doing this. good luck! she is lucky to have some one like you.
2007-04-16 07:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
if she is pregnant and wants to get an abortion u really can't not let her because its all her choice.
i do hate it when woman use abortions as a from of birth control. this is what your sister is doing, for some reason she thinks its easier to use no birth control and then get an abortion if she is in fact pregnant.
a woman can get pregnant anytime she has unprotected sex.
2007-04-16 07:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋