Even when you know they will be unable to attend? I'm throwing a baby shower for my sister-in-law and I'm wondering whether or not to send invitations to her Grandmother and Aunts.
2007-04-16 07:24:35 · 13 answers · asked by Mommy of 1.5 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes definately... although you know that they will not be able to attend it would be nice for those family members to know that they were thought of and are invited to such a special event... go for it
2007-04-16 07:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Beau-Ella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the SIL determine the guest list. If she gave you the names and addresses of her Grandmother and Aunts, then I would send them an invitation.
Personally, I sent invitations to my mom, sister, and grandmother even though they all lived out of town for both my baby showers. They were able to attend the first shower, but not the second (we moved out of state before the second one, so the distance was considerably greater.)
I appreciate receiving an invitation to a baby shower that's out of state just because it makes it easier to send a gift. You get the address, the date, and a much better idea of what the expectant mom needs for the baby. If she's registered, that's another great reason I like getting an invite (even if they know I probably won't be able to go) because then I can get her something from her baby registry online and just have it delivered.
I would say when in doubt, go ahead and send the invites, rather than risk hurting the feelings of the Grandmother and Aunts. This way they know they've been remembered and they have the option to send a gift if they'd like, or send their regrets otherwise. And who knows, it may turn out that one or all of them is in the mood for a road trip!!
2007-04-16 08:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A announcement after the birth is the polite thing to do, whether or not the person was invited to a shower. . If you want to send a personal note, and say how much you would have liked that person to be there, but you understand that time and distance prevented that, go ahead. It does sound a little like fishing for presents, I'd save that for the really close friends and family, who would understand that it is heartfelt. A please do not send a present request on the note would be nice, I'd send a present even if that was there, because it was included. If people expect an invite to the shower, then send them one, if it will prevent hard feelings later. Most people though, do not expect to be invited if they know they can't come, they wait for the birth announcement!. Hope this helps, and congratulations to the expectent parents.
2016-05-21 03:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun...
I would send out of town relatives and friends an invitation even if they can not attend. They may be hurt or upset if they don't recieve one. ven if they can not attend, they may want to send a gift. Invitations are not so expensive that you can't afford to spare a couple. Remember, they are still her family, even if they are not close by. Good luck and Happy Shower!!!
2007-04-16 10:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by rebel_cowgirl78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still send them invites because you will never know if a change in plans will allow them to come to the shower. If not then at least they'll have a little gift to remember that they have a new member of the family arriving (or already there).
2007-04-16 07:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Enamorada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately, I have been on both sides, the receiving side when I had my baby, and the giving side with family and close friends who were out of town. I happily sent gifts to those people, I wanted to send a gift anyway,and it gives those people a good time and place to send it, plus they can know where she registered and could ask the party giver what she needs. Good Luck!!
2007-04-16 08:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. Some of them called and regretfully said they couldn't attend and others made their way on down. Even still. I'm sure they would appreciate being invited even though you know/think they can't make it. You never know something could always change @ the last minute also.
2007-04-16 07:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes people may send a gift even if they can't come and a lot of people get offended if they don't get one.
2007-04-16 07:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they would be hurt they were not invited even if they can't attend.
2007-04-16 07:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why yes, they are an important part of the mom to be's life. im sure they will either put it in a family album,or something very special. i would be hurt if i didnt get one and being the grandma
2007-04-16 09:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋