From time to time my girlfriend of 5 months will tell a story about an old boyfriend. I haven't said anything to her, but it makes me uncomfortable and also makes me wonder why she is telling me about an old boyfriend. Is there some psychological reason she does this? I would never mention old girlfriends to a new girlfriend. Would you? Any answers are welcome.....
2007-04-16 06:57:20 · 25 answers · asked by GB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She does it because she enjoys it, and you listen.
2007-04-16 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Her ex was a large part of her life at one point. So, it's only natural that some of her stories will contain him. I wouldn't expect that she's trying to hurt you. This guy is part of her past and has helped form her into the person she is today. If you truly feel uncomfortable about it, just talk to her. Let her know the reasons you feel uncomfortable. She'll probably be more aware and sensitive to your feelings next time she wants to share a story.
2007-04-16 07:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're girlfriend might suffer from low self-esteem. She possibly keeps mentioning her ex boy-fiends to make you jealous, so you might think she is just too good of a catch.
When in reality it is very inappropriate for her to do that. She needs to concentrate on the present and her possible future with you rather then her relationships of the past that have obviously failed. I myself do not think I would ever talk about ex girlfriends unless it was a direct answer to a question.
2007-04-16 07:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by celtic farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this depends in what context she mentions them,,if its in the way of,,,such and such was soooooooo good at what you are attempting to do,i would say no,,not too good and she could be a tad more tactful BUT, if its along the lines of,,'oh,,disney world,,yes,me and such and such went there,,it was great', then she is just connecting two things from her past and present and you shouldnt take it as a bad sign or even that she thinks about him,,we all have a past and even tho you were not there with her she still had happy times with other people and some of those people were boyfriends,,,surely you have similar stories too,,,maybe its time you told some of your own,,not the tactless ones though.
2007-04-16 07:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess all of us have been guilty about mentioning old boyfriends and guys about old girlfriends, but just remember you have her, and those are memories from her past. And no matter how much you want to take them away from her, you cant. Just make newer, stronger, and better memories for her to keep. Also just tell her that they make you feel uncomfortable sometime, and if she loves you , she will understand.
2007-04-16 07:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is just telling a story in which her ex happened to be involved, I wouldn't worry about it. But, if it seems like it's for no apparent reason, you should say something. Just tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask her why she does it. And as for why, could it be that she's still hung up on him?
2007-04-16 07:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't just throw them away without telling him. If it's not a big deal just completely ignore them, I'd be surprised if he had loving memoirs of more than one ex-girlfriend. If you do really care about it, either bring it up at an appropriate time, or wheedle casually into the topic.
2016-04-01 04:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't realize it makes you uncomfortable. I used to do it. It is just something she is telling you from her past. Sometimes they use it as an example of something they do, did, have done in her life..... just let her know that you could care less about her old boyfriends so when she tells you a story, please leave them out. She'll stop.Good luck!!
2007-04-18 03:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by moomers81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're feeling uncomfortable with her saying this stuff, tell her. And the reason thats she's mentioning this because either she wants you to be jealous, so you will do stuff with her (dates, kissing, etc) or she just wants you know how great or bad her other relationships were so you can make them better. =]
2007-04-16 07:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by danielle the gr8t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its good to be open and honest about past relationships, because she is opening up to you about an ex, she is comfortable talking to you about her relationships, that is trust my friend. She may be using past situations with her ex to try and open up a conversation with you about something similar she is going thru with you. Or she may very well be just remembering something fun she did and wants to tell you about it. If you are in a serious relationship accept her, listen to her and ask her why she tells you these things. Maybe you wont be uncomfortable anymore. If you are still not comfortaable, tal to her and both of you work out a solution. Communication is key in a relationship.
2007-04-16 07:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here homie, if there is a particular boyfriend she mentions alot then she is still in love wit the guy. But if she doesn't she's probably jus tryin to make you hold on a little bit stronger. She's testin you. DONT GIVE IN, OR BREAK IT OFF WIT HER!! Big mistake if done.
2007-04-16 07:03:42 · answer #11 · answered by Mistro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋