2007-04-16 06:57:01 · 15 answers · asked by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a nutshell I was selfish and accused her of things like flirting and paying too much attention to what other people thought of her as if my love wasn't enough. Trouble is I KNOW she really loved me but i had many things on my mind at the time and as she decided to blank me i just rambled on and on and went too far. Now she doesn't love me it seems and I'm gutted. I know it's my own fault for not be able to control my anxiety over events happening at home 260 miles away, and she did suggest to wait till morning and try to sort things out then, but i just thought she didnt care and said all sorts of stupid things. I really need her to forgive me, I truly love her and I'm at a loss as what to do as I'm so far away! I don't want to ring her incase it distresses her more, though I have apologised and she knows how sorry i am, i just feel so terrible and lost.
2007-04-16 07:13:02 · update #1
if there any feeling between the two of you that should be good enought
2007-04-16 07:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by william s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Petit Chou,
You are too intense, you worry too much and your insecurity is your worst enemy.
She knows you love her and, if you went overboard with accusations of flightiness, it was more a sign of fear of losing her than based on a real belief that she was looking elsewhere. Bear in mind that when she is back home with family, she is on a different wavelength, but it does not mean that you are not on her radar!
She is a sensible and remarkably intelligent girl . She knows how deeply you care for her. She may be cross, but I cannot believe that she has stopped loving you just because you have had a major upset. Give her time to cool down. Never mind the chocolates and all that lark. Is she still away? Have you tried writing to her stating all the reasons why you love her so much and why you lost the plot and overreacted?
I seem to recall that she teaches. If you want to make the grand gesture, a huge bouquet delivered to the staff-room where she works will go a long way in soothing ruffled feathers.
Perhaps you can do something absurd that will make her laugh and defuse the situation. You know what makes her tick: press the right buttons, but do so calmly and with kid gloves and a British sense of humour. If she feels hounded she might draw further back so a lighter touch will reassure her. Judging by her past contributions, she is a sparkling, gay and lively person who likes to keep people on their toes except when she suffers from migraine. You did not catch her on one of those days, I hope!
You say you have already apologised. There is a limit to the amount of humble pie you can eat, but you can try one of those humouristic cards that will make her smile with SORRY in big letters or a dog flat on its tummy with "Please can I get out of the doghouse now?".
By the way, I commented on your last answer and asked for precisions so as to try to help.
Bonne Chance!
2007-04-18 11:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by WISE OWL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have you offended her?
If you have hurt her pride - you must humble yourself.
If you have hurt her mind - you have to make her believe it is you that is the fool and it will never happen again.
If you have hurt her heart - you may well be forgiven, it will never be forgotten.
Ask yourself why you offended her. If it was something you did that you would NOT find offensive - are you always going to be nervous around her in case you repeat the offence?
If you did something that you thought she would not find out about - sooner or later it WILL be found out - never kid yourself about that.
If you did something whilst under the influence of your drug of choice - assure her AND MEAN it that you will never EVER put her faith in you up against a social dependency. Kick it.
Tell her you are sorry. Show her you are sorry and throw yourself on her mercy. Learn from this and if it is meant to be - it will be. If she is the person for you perhaps one of the traits that she should show you is a little mercy. Remind her that the person that has never made a mistake has never lived.
And if after all this she still wants to punish you - take as much as you can but always hold your head high.
It takes a big man to say sorry and mean it.
Good Luck - I'm sure it will all work out.
2007-04-16 14:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by isobellistowel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what you did to offend her, an apology of just words could be worthless. You should probably try some romantic gesture that she wouldn't even thin k you are capable of. show her that you pay attention to her wants and needs. "Do" something to sweep her off her feet. Don't just try to use words unless you are good at poetry. Try making her a CD of songs that tell her how you feel about her or try a candle lit bubble bath with all her favorite music playing low in the background. There are lots of things that could put you back in her good graces, but that all depends on what you did, how forgiving she is, and how well you know her.
2007-04-16 14:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by billy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her alot of flowers and things and make sure that you say something nice in a card. Tell her about your anxieties and tell her that from now on , you will wake up every morning thinking about what you are going to do that day to make her life better as you know that she has done for you for the past....years. Then tell her your sorry and you love her. Good luck!
2007-04-16 15:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by moomers81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the thing she likes. you know the things she wants. you can not apart from apologise make it up to her...
but find ways that show you still love her and want her to be the person in your life.
try little notes.
try flowers.
try a favourite song cd or tape.
try writing a letter.
try taking her out for a picnic.
sort out what ever has gone wrong in your life and then make sure you never do that again.
2007-04-16 14:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by si_at_home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what did you do to your sweetheart?? Well to make up to this sweetheart, buy her flowers, chocolate, tellybear with sorry on it, write a story note in your local newspaper, send her an email with 1000 sorrie, if it's really bad, look like your in a long run!! But hey good luck though.
2007-04-16 14:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isobellistowel and William s make a lot of sense. About all the other answers, I'd say: forget all that and give her the space she wants, as it seems all the excessive gestures would be construed as obsessive.
Be strong and live your life.
God bless
2007-04-16 16:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Serene 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer flowers (red roses), a dinner AND apologise.
2007-04-16 14:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Persa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first have a talk with her and get her a little gift, tell her why you are sorry and how much she means to you and then take her somewhere for a nice walk and explain to her your true feelings to her
2007-04-16 14:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by wingnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what happened, but actions speak louder than words.
2007-04-16 13:59:58 · answer #11 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋