Like she influnces him to be rude to my family, talks mess bout us, and is making him change. I hate her , what do i do serous answers
2007-04-16 06:21:02 · 12 answers · asked by A.F.B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately nothing you can really do.
If you have a good relationship with your bro, talk to him when he's on his own and tell him that you feel he's been different with you and your family since he's been married.
Maybe just hearing it will help him snap out of it.
I can't believe your parents will let him be rude to you and to them. I know my parents wouldn't allow me to speak to them disrespectfully no matter how old I was or who else was there.
Sometimes it's not a good idea to get involved but it really depends on how the two of you used to get on together?
I hope it works out. Try not to hate her though. Your bro obviously loves her.
2007-04-16 06:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is sit down and have a talk with your brother. Tell him, in as reasonable and understanding a way as possible, how your sister-in-law makes you feel and why. Tell him you are worried that she is driving him away from the rest of you. That is about it, though. And be careful! If you just start bad-mouthing her, he is going to lose his trust in you and the situation will be worse. And if you attack her instead, she will drive him even further away. Ultimately it is HIS life and he can live it however he wants. You cannot change this, but you CAN make him aware of the problem so that he has all the information. Then he can attempt to make the decision that is best for all involved. It wouldn't hurt you, either, to be nice to her. Hatred will destroy you and make you the aggressor. There is no quicker way to lose your brother (and yourself) than through hatred. Good luck!
2007-04-16 13:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you ever have an opportunity to be alone with him, you might want to point out to him those changes you have noticed that have distanced him from the rest of you so drastically, but you need to remember that he's married and he probably intends to spend the rest of his life with his woman, not with the family. Everyone needs to respect that. it's all in the marriage vows (if any are taken.)
I've seen this happen often and it's always the guy that changes, seldom, if ever does the girl.
Be prepared for whatever...you ladies sure can get a grip on a guy!
2007-04-16 13:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. I was in the same situation when my brother got married too. his wife was so mean to my whole family and he was so whipped he wouldn't tell her anything. Your brother loves you but he loves his wife in a different way and is going to do whatever he can to keep HER happy. That's how marriage works. What happened with my brother is that after a year or two of living under his wife's thumb, he got fed up and cheated on her. so she left him of course and he started dating again, but he wasn't happy because he really loved his wife(they were still married, just seperated). After a few months of being away from my brother though, his wife realized that it was her fault too that he cheated and that she was the lucky one for having a man that loved her for so long despite the fact that she treated him like crap. so they got back together and now my brother is the one in charge.
2007-04-16 13:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u r going threw to the T. My sis in law did the same thing and all I can tell u is that if ur bro did give a crap bout his fam. in the first place then he wouldnt be doin that. There is nothin u can do bout it he's gonna have to be the one to stand up and be a man. All u can do it take up for ur fam. when she does something to hurt ya'll.
2007-04-16 13:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by NickyNawlins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should face your brother with the fact that he's changed towards the family , and tell him directly that you no that is because of his wife . you should also tell him that you want nothing from him except to be as good as he was . and he should tell his wife this fact , that would make her not to take this as a kind of competition between her and the hole family . you shouldn't be afraid of his reaction , that won't be worst than he is now . if he didn't change you should avoid to meet his wife totally and try to treat him and his wife like strangers , until they realize that they are wrong and treat the family with respect .
2007-04-16 14:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hating, hate is a strong attractor of more of itself to the one doing the hating. Have you seen the info about THE SECRET, its been on Oprah and other talk shows. We are magnets for what our attention is on. If we hate then we attract more to hate, if we love then we attract more to love, if we are sad then we attract more to be sad about, if we are stressed then we attract more to be stressed about. I know that this is a hard concept to accept but it really does work and if you are determined that your brothers life is his own to do or let be done to him what he will then things will be more likly to change for the better. Change begins with self first, then watch those people and things around you and in your life start to change.
2007-04-16 13:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're married they are bound to change and grow together. As they grow together you will grow to accept the changes and learn where new boundary lines are formed. If you're fed up right now, spend some time away from them.
2007-04-16 13:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by bilowi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing; ride it out. In time, things may change, so be patient and check in with him periodically just to say "Hi" and catch up with family news. Don't _ever_ bad-mouth his wife, though.
2007-04-16 13:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do but limit the time you spend with him. He's a grown man.
2007-04-16 13:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋