how to let go?

Question

ive been with my b/f for 3 years and i know in my heart im wasting my time being with him, i love him so much and want my life to end with him in it but the things that have been happening latly are showing me hes just a dream, how do i let go, how do i know if its the right desicion....i cant seem to let go

Answer 1

Learning how to let go is one of the hardest things to do. Notice that i said "learning," because it is a learning process. First, you must ask yourself why you feel like you are wasting your time with him. Then, if you feel like you really are wasting your time with him, then the right decision is to let go, because it is not fair to him or to yourself to stay together if you are wasting time. Ask yourself this: where do you see yourself in 10 years? Do you see him with you, or do you see something else. Also, do you feel like the relationship is going to go someplace, or do you feel like it is just one big waste of time. You cannot let go only because you have invested yourself into the relationship, your time, and your heart and soul.....It is extraordinarily hard to just let go of something which you once put in a piece of yourself. Then, when you pull away (or feel like pulling away), it is almost impossible because pieces of you belong to that other person. You may not now see the advantage of letting go, and breaking up with him. But, if your heart is telling you that you are wasting your time, then the right thing to do is to move on, let him go, and find someone who fills your time, not wastes it. Best of luck.

Answer 2

This is a difficult question to answer without all the facts. Why precisely do you feel after three years that you're wasting your time? How is this guy not meeting your needs? Maybe you should have a heart to heart with him and find out his perspective on the relationship. It's entirely possible that he may feel the same, if so, there's your easy out if that's really what you want or maybe you two are facing a hurdle you can work through to come out stronger in your relationship. In any case, you'll never know until you talk to him. Good luck!

Answer 3

Accepting that desicion is the next step. When you do it, it needs to be a clean break. That will make the transition easier. Avoid the temptation to go back and just go on with your life.

Answer 4

I feel that pain.If your heart is telling you something, then listen.If you made a list of all the ways you love him.Then make a list of all the ways that you KNOW he loves you.Would they be equal?If not then you are the only one that is truly in love.One sided love always wears out, mine did but I waited 23 years for nothing.If you see yourself as being sad from now on, why wait.Once its over they will surprise you how fast they replace you.Good luck and be strong,don't waste your life...

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you feel sorry for him, not love him. That can be an emotional attachment too.

You need to remember that you need to be you're own person who loves yourself before you can truly give your love to someone else. Breaking it off and working on being independent, self-assured and confident for a year or so would be a new focus. Your view on relationships will mature and change for the better.

Answer 6

Well lovely I get were you are coming from, but maybe before you let him go you should think of the good and the bad things that he have done for you and if the bad outweighs the bad than let him go and if it is to hard to do that just think what is best for you and him.

Answer 7

first thing you need to do is figure out if you love yourself enough to do what's right for you...many of us find ourselves in relationships that aren't fulfilling because we've given up and believe that we'll never find anything better...start loving yourself and believing that you don't have to settle for less that what you deserve out of life and a relationship...never let give up on being truly as happy as you deserve to be and before long you wont have to worry about you letting go, you'll be asking "HOW CAN I GET RID OF THIS FOOL SO I CAN FIND A REAL MAN?".....good luck...and believe in yourself....

Answer 8

Letting go is harder than it looks.
Honestly, I've been able to let go.
You can move on, but still feel the same.
No other love will feel the same to you.
But you can have love again.
But, to let you just have to make your heart believe what your head does.
It's a matter of trickery.

Answer 9

it always takes time to get over long relationships but just go with your heart and everything will come together in the end even tho is seems like it wont =)

Answer 10

hunny i hate to tell yooh but even if yooh are strong yooh have to be devo to do this....if there was a way to do this then i wouldnt have been with muh guy for 6 years an i wouldnt be 7 months pregnant buh him still wondering if things are ever gonna change....i left once it was at the begging of muh pregnancy but i couldnt stay away cuz no 1 was like him an i missed him so much.....