I've been planning my wedding for almost a year and it's now less than three weeks away. I'm getting so frustrated waiting because my husband-to-be and I want our lives to get back to 'normal.' Neither of us are having second thoughts, we're just ready to get the whole thing over with, is this normal?
2007-04-16 06:09:03 · 31 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
EXACTLY how i feel! my wedding is june 2nd and i'm counting the seconds until it's over! i just want to be husband and wife and get rid of the stress! congrats on your wedding too :-)
2007-04-16 06:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by JM 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain ;) We haven't even set a firm date yet (sometime in Spring 2008) and I'm 'over it'. Personally, eloping would be my preference but at the same time I don't want to leave out family and close friends. I'm shy about getting up in front of everyone and 'performing' and I am not exactly dying to get gussied up and make small talk while wearing heels and probably an itchy dress for hours on end. Don't mean to sound anti-romantic, I'm just very shy. I'd much rather rent out my favorite restaurant (the whole building!) and have everyone eat tasty food until they can't see straight. I have mixed feelings to say the least, because I want to provide a nice time for our guests but I'm not necessarily comfortable as the hostess/coordinator/star of the show and it doesn't help that getting a guest list (contact information) together is like pulling teeth. Know what I mean? Plus I can think of tons of practical things we could use the money for, even though they are less meaningful expenses. So yes, to answer your question. Your feelings are normal. I'm ready to fast forward to having kids and living in a warm, comfy home with a fence for our pups and maybe a little garden. Nothing wrong with that :)
2007-04-16 08:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% normal. My wedding day didn't even really end up being fun (after all that planning). I spent the day running around like crazy and then the wedding whizzed by and the reception was a blur (no I didn't drink just a whirlwind). That night we got in the hot tub decided we were too tired ordered some food and fell asleep. That's how it'll be so it's totally dead on to want the day over with so you can be normal again. Weddings take over your life. I would NEVER do it again.
2007-04-16 06:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by bilowi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes l think it's perfectly normal to want your lives back. Planning a wedding can be frustrating and time consuming you will be happy you put the effort in and you will probably feel extremely relieved after it's over so you don't have to worry about it anymore. I wish you and your future husband all the luck and love in the world.
2007-04-16 06:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal...planning a wedding is so stressful!! I don't blame you... I just finished building our house and our wedding is about one month away! Talk about wanting a divorce before we are even married!! (j/k....we love each other to death...just stressed w/ all the decision making!!)
So hopefully it will come soon, and you both can get your lives back to "normal"....Congratulations to you, and have a great time at your reception enjoying all the hard work you put into it!!!
2007-04-16 06:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP! My husband and I went through the same thing. We basically got depressed a few weeks before the wedding. The planning was done, but it definitely does take over your life. So don't worry!! It is all worth it come the wedding day....hopefully you are going on a honeymoon...that was the best cure for us!!!
2007-04-16 06:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dangerous Person 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure.
This is common before a complex, emotional event.
Why not see if you can find something to do on the weekend, or during the week, that is NOT wedding-related, like a hike or a bike ride, or a movie? This will make it seem like the event is less "24/7," at least for an hour or two.
Good luck! Congratulations!
2007-04-16 06:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. My husband and I felt the same way. After our rehearsal and wedding, we were so glad we left immediately for our honeymoon so we could relax and just enjoy each other. All the planning and spending time with family and friends can wear you out. But in the end, it will definitely be worth it as you sit back and reflect on the wonderful wedding you had and time you spent with your family and friends.
2007-04-16 06:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some friends who are like that, but I never understood it. planning my wedding never rearranged my life nor should planning your unless you are getting into a big hype over things. if I could marry my husband again I would do it in a second as planning it and the day itself was the mst wonderful time of my life. i really feel pity for you that you dont feel the same way.
2007-04-16 11:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned, it's perfectly normal. I told my husband (to be) that I wished that we'd eloped instead of going through the wedding planning. Now that I've been married for a couple of years, I'm glad we had the ceremony. I have some lovely pictures of family members who are no longer with us and that is precious to me.
2007-04-16 06:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Completely! I planned mine over a year and a half, and now all I have is a book of pictures. When everyone starts getting into an argument over the color of the napkins, just breathe... And when your mother holds the purse strings over her head and says you can't walk down the aisle to "freebird" You grin and bear it. It'll be over soon, then comes the fun part, unwrapping the gifts!! Congrats! Live a long happy life together!
2007-04-16 06:14:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋