Why does this always happen to me...serious answers only plz?

Question

That's not the real question, but read this:

I have an ex. We broke up like 3 1/2 yrs ago, but it was a missunderstanding: Someone called him and told him I was cheating on him, when I wasn't..EVER...so we stopped talking after that incident because he thought I cheated, and we moved on with our lives. He was my 1st love, and I never stopped loving him, but I moved on bcuz I thought he didn't like me anymore. I've got a bf now, and I luv him to death. I'd do anything for him. But a couple minutes ago, I get a text message from my ex saying he still has feelings for me.

It's crazy bcuz I thought we were done with each other, and now, bam! here he is showing up in my life again. How do I bury those feelings I had so me and my new bf can move on together? Or can I? But I never stopped loving him....I'm confused.

Serious answers only.

Answer 1

Does your current love meet your needs? Does he share the same vision that you have for your life? Is there a special energy that you know he can only give you? If you answered yes to all of these and you truly are happy, then let the old guy go.

Your 1st love has now come back. As time goes on, we stop remembering all of the bad things that happened between two people. We somehow develop a selective memory and only remember the good. Why did he break up with you? He wouldn't believe you and he wouldn't give you another chance. Do you want a man who doesn't trust you? Even though you did nothing wrong.

Think long and hard about this. Only you will know what to do. There will always be a special place in your heart for your 1st love. You can carry him in your heart, but you don't need to go back to him. Good luck. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 2

i think if you had a strong relationship in the beginning..he should have sat down and had a talk with you. he should have believed in you and trusted you. Relationships are built on trust..if you dont have that..you will never have a good solid foundation to build that relationship back up. i think you should just move on and continue in the relationship you are in now. if the new guys loves, respects you and you trust each other...that is a great foundation for a super relationship.

wish you the best...

dont go back just because ... its been 3 1/2 years now...he isnt the same person anymore.. you both have grown since then...

he may also just be coming around for a quickie...you know..since he doesnt have a girl at the moment...We have all done that and 90% of the time...its not a good idea...

Answer 3

First of all you need closure to be able to move on with the new bf. You should talk to your old bf because you want to make sure you are with the right person right now.
But don't think for a second, that you can only have feelings for one person at a time. You can easily have feelings for both. One might have some characteristics you like more than the other bf. But always remember, choices in life just give you more options.
The negative thing about the old BF, is that he threw your relationship away based on what somebody else said. That is a major negative in my mind. It was easy for him to walk away (scary for future) and wasn't based on trust.
I think you need to think about who will make you happy and be there for you and support you in the future. Which one is truly a friend to you. (not who is more attractive)

Good luck

Answer 4

Sounds like one of those questions you ask hoping to get the answer you want to hear. I think you already know what you want to do which is get back with him. One tip: make sure if it doesn't work out this time you are not going to want your current boyfriend back. I think you want your ex, but if you know that you won't want your current bf back then it's the best choice to make. I don't think you would be concerned at all if things were great with you guys. You wouldn't even give it a second thought. I say be with the ex or a new guy all together.

Answer 5

First loves are hard to forget. If this new relationship is what you want and you are happy, tell the ex that he had his chance but you are happy now. If the ex didn't trust you back then do you think he could trust you now even though nothing happened. What happens if you toss aside a really great guy and then get back with the ex, & the same thing happens. I can tell you from experience you will be very unhappy. Been there done that

Answer 6

I went through this situation earlier this year with my ex. He was my 1st love and I still to this day love him with all my heart but there sometimes that I just stop and think about our relationship and realize that maybe we broke up for a reason. You'll never be able to get over your ex and you'll always love him if he was your first love but just listen to your heart and be glad that he still likes you and you have this second chance to be with him because me and my ex still love each other but we both have someone so it wouldn't work to well. Good Luck and I hope I helped!

Answer 7

I know that you are confused.Listen he must think very poorly of you to really not believe that you cheated on him.I think he is between women and needs a sure fire girlfriend.he must know that you didn't cheap, but allowed the relationship to dissolve.He will bring up the cheating again,when he wants to get back out of the relationship.Stay where the guy trusts you and you are happy.Leave that dud alone he is just testing the waters, and you will be the only one hurt again.Make the right choice and delete him from your contact list..Be happy.

Answer 8

You have made decision to love someone else... It's your new life now. I bet your new bf love you too... You can't just turn him down... So just delete the text message from him and continue your life happily...

PS: If your old bf really love you he won't easily believe what his friend said that you cheating on him... If he really love you that much, he will believe in you more than anyone else in this world...

Answer 9

I would tell him the truth.
Tell him you never cheated on him so you've had a difficult time getting over him. Now you have, and it's unfair that he tries to enter your life.
Try to avoid mentioning that you still have feelings for him.
This situation could get very difficult, so either choose one or see both of them discreetly.
What you really need is some time to decide.

Answer 10

wow..this is a top decision that you need to make for yourself...

anyways dear this is only for my own opinion..why would you go back with the person who's doesnt have that TRUST TO YOU!!!

now suddently his coming back after 31/2yrs ago...are you sure you still have that feelings for him or your just getting so curious....cuz theres a big different on those...

any how my suggestion...try to figure out things by looking on their PRO'S AND CON'S....plus i rather be with the guy who love me more than i love him...

dear this is all up to you....but for me your ex dont have that right to run away to you without knowing the real truth...HOW ABOUT ONEDAY YOU GET BACK AGAIN WITH HIM??? DO YOU THINK HE WONT DO THE SAME AGAIN TO YOU???

like i mention this is all depend on your decision but try to think twice before you make that big step....and i really wish you the best....good luck!!! prayers really help to clear your mind!!!