she is not really used to playing with other children and following the rules like they have at nursery, (eg sitting at the milk table only to drink milk), her speech is not as understandable as most of the other children in her class and i think she gets frustrated a lot and therefore threw a couple of tantrums today, any advice on how i can make the rest of the week at nursery better would be greatly appreciated
2007-04-16 04:48:37 · 27 answers · asked by CLAIRE W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my daughter had her first day today but it seemed to go ok.
just don't get down heartened and upset ans she will pick up on this...i know it sounds Corny but just keep supporting and encouraging and it will get better.
just remember it is only her first day and i am sure she is not the first child to throw a tantrum on their first day!
keep smiling!!!
2007-04-16 04:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by nicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sending a favourite toy with her, has she got a blankie or a favourite soft toy? This can make a child feel more secure. Did you leave her the whole day? If you can why not send her for 2-3 hours the first few days, then gradually longer and longer. She will get used to being there is may take a few weeks though, dont worry in a few weeks she wont want to come home and if this doesnt happen then it may not be the right nursery for her? Talk with her teacher about her speech problems, how can you both work together to help her? the key to a good parent teacher relationship is communication. PS Give your child extra hugs
2007-04-16 13:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by poshkeri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It WILL get better, I work at a pre-school for 3 and 4yr olds. I have seen many children come in on the first day, get upset, not want to sit still for register or snack, do exactly the opposite to what the teachers ask and snatch toys from other children. The staff are trained to be patient in these situations then gradually with the encourage and praise the nursery should be giving settle really quickly. Don't worry about it too much it's just a very new situation she's not used to.
2007-04-16 06:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was you at the nursery with her? It is not unusual for children to behave like that on their first day. They are getting to know the rules being in a large group of children and in a new hall with lots of new toys.
It is completely normal for them to become a bit overwhelmed by it all. If you are staying in with her I would suggest leaving and letting the staff deal with her behaviour. If mums are sitting in the room and staff ask you child to sit down with their milk for example the child sometimes thinks they don't really have to because mum is there.
It will take her a few goes to get to know the routine and the rules but it won't take long and tantrums are not really a problem either.
As for her speech pre-school is the best place for her. We often have children who come in who can't speak a word of English and it only takes a few weeks before they are talking and making themselves understood. I wouldn't worry about the other children not understanding her either because children have a good knack of communicating just by gestures with eachother.
2007-04-18 05:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by dmbz2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The staff of the nursery will understand her tantrums are frustration. Make sure you tell them the words she uses for using the toilet, and wanting a drink. Allow the staff to settle her into a routine of drinking milk when and where. All you need to do is support her and ensure she has basic social skills like. please. thank you, You can also help her to play with other children by taking her to the park or having children around. As for her speech, just repeat what she says so she can hear the correct way, but don`t make an issue about it. Praise her when you understand what she says.
Please don`t worry she will settle and then her social skills and speech will improve.
2007-04-16 05:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big event for your daughter - her first steps towards being more independent and can, for some children, be quite traumatic. There's not really an easy answer, but I think it is sometimes more difficult for a parent to cope with than their child! She will gradually become used to the routine and, as her speech improves, so will her confidence which should ease her frustration. She will begin to integrate and make new friends and will then, more than likely, be looking forward to her visits. If she cries when you leave her, then it is best not to stay, however hard this might be, as the minute you are out the door, she will be fine! Take it from me, I have experienced this and there is nothing worse than hearing your child screaming for you and having to leave them, like this! I do wish you both the very best of luck and I am sure that your daughter will settle!
2007-04-16 06:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Susan F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son started nursery in September and he was three and a half.I stopped work when he was first born and every were i went he came to.Also he is a only child and not really around a lot of children mostly adults so was really dreading him going.Used to go to sleep at night worrying he wouldn't fit in.But the first morning i took him they let the parents stay for short time.I still actually remember the first morning leaving him, walking out the door and i kept loOKing back.Just wanted to cry.But the teachers are there to make sure their well looked after and that they settle in ok.Even at the start i said if he doesn't like it by Christmas time was taking him out. But thankfully loves it now but took a bit of time. If you have any worries about her don't be afraid to ask the teacher as that's what their there for is to help. Hope all goes well
2007-04-20 00:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the teachers know their job she'll be fine. It will take a little time for her to get to know whats expected but thats normal.
I used to help out at my daughters nursery & saw a few kids that were just the same - they soon settled though as they got used to the routine.
Ask if you can maybe stay 10-15 mins 'till she does - not all nurserys allow it as it can do as much harm as good sometimes.
2007-04-16 05:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be strong and leave her there with her teacher. I know it is hard if you know they are going through a hard time. If she is not used to being around other children I think nursery will be the best thing for her and I am sure that you will notice her speech improving because she is with other children of her own age and they'll have their own little conversations. Good luck.
2007-04-17 06:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not unusuall. It takes anybody time to adjust to a new routine and rules. Give her time and support the pre school rules. If she thinks you don't feel a rule is important then she could be more diffucult for the pre school teachers when they enforce the rule. Baby talk is so cute but now that it is affecting her social skills it is time for you to start correcting the pronounciation of the words she says incorrectly. You will get a lot farther with your own "speech" instruction if you make it fun. Good Luck
2007-04-16 05:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by horsenuttss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 3 starting full time nursery,she was exactly the same,and still has a hard time listening and being told what to do!,she's 4 in november,we just take each day as it comes, she will get used to it.At the beginning we couldnt even get her to into the classroom!, but shes passed that now,and will go in without tears. It's perseverance. Dont worry too much.the teachers are used to this as theyre still so little, Just give her plenty of encouragement,and i'm sure youll all be fine.good luck
2007-04-16 04:55:12 · answer #11 · answered by thundercatbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋