I am a first time bride and need help. Should I send one that says this: Mr. and Mrs. ________
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of HIS daughter ___________.
Or I say it like this:
I am a first time bride and need help. Should I send one that says this: Mr. and Mrs. ________
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of THEIR daughter ___________.
2007-04-16 04:39:00 · 11 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would go Their. Maybe when you put the announcement in the paper you can add that "The bride is the daughter of Mr & Mrs __________ and the late (And put your mom's name). My step-daughter is going to do this when she and her fiance get married (She was 6 when her mom passed away.)
2007-04-16 04:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You don't include information about any deceased person, parent or not, on the invitations. Because they are deceased, they cannot be hosting the party. This is a tricky one, but it goes like this (assumes your stepmom has taken your dad's name):
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the honor of your prescence
at the marriage of
his daughter
Jessica Smith
to
Eric Jones
blah blah blah
Invitation wise, using "their" might be sweet and all that, but it completely negates that you have a biological mother. Don't do it, because while you might make some people happy, you'll offend a lot of others. When it comes down to it, no matter how close you are with your step mom, you're not her real daughter.
So, your first suggestion is correct!
2007-04-16 13:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mr. and Mrs.......................have the honor of announcing,the marriage of their daughter.............daughter of the late ...................(name of your mother)to Mr...............On...........(date).........(place)ect.......
Mr and Mrs(names...Father and Stepmother) Request the honorof your presense at the marriage of (your name) late and beloved mother of (your mothers name) at the marriage of their daughter (your name) To (grooms information).
If you like your step mom.......Include her name next to your fathers. They represent your future and the granparents that will be in the lives of your future children. You will never forget your mother or disrepect her in anyway by doing this. She is gone..........but will always hold the love in your heart. I am sure that where your mother is at today she understands more about things of our world because she is in a higher place. She wants all of you here that she ever loved to be happy. She would want your father to not be alone here and is glad that he has someone. She is not your mother but could be a very good friend to you in life. Do the best you can to make her feel included and cared about because she can be here for you now. Always look at her as a bonus in your life and she will be there for you. Not to replace your mother but to be someone that is there for you and your dad. I really wish you a wonderfull future on everything. Always know that your mother wishes it for you to. She sees you and she will be there in spirt on your great and wonderfull day!
2007-04-17 13:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't really know your stepmom, but I think she would be touched and honored for you to say that you are, in a way, her daughter. Obviously, you can't forget your biological mother, but if your stepmom really loves you and takes care of you, I would defenitely go for the 2nd invitation. But it all depends on your gut feeling, what YOU think about it. Good luck, and congratulations! Have a good life!!!
2007-04-16 12:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by ¿viva la gloria? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
THEIR daughter... and if you are having wedding programs, you can include a small passage or something mentioning your mom... when I married my dad had been gone for several years, we had a bouquet of flowers on the altar and a small passage saying the flowers on the altar are in honor of Susan's dad, he is with us in our hearts and in spirit.. Just a thought...
2007-04-16 14:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by bytchy_princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly acceptable for the invites to come from you and your husband to be. Thats what my Fiance and I did as she has her Father and her step father to invite. So no one would be upset we simply put
You are cordially invited to the wedding of x and x.
- Also I am paying for it so it is our wedding and no one elses!!!
2007-04-16 11:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you consider her to be a mom. If she is just your dads wife than the 1st one but if you consider her a "mom" even as a second one then the 2nd one
2007-04-16 11:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are asking because you care about the feelings of your Step Mom, or those of your Father.
This means, logically, she matters to you, and has for some time, or your fathers love for her matters to you. Enough for you to want to include her on the wedding invites.
Use THEIR daugther. Its not taking away from your birth mom at all. They are both your mom.
2007-04-16 11:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Minny 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Mr. and Mrs. ___________ request the honor of your presence at the marrieage of their daughter.
2007-04-16 11:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by RM 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with "Ryan's mom" and i would say their and include your your real mother also. That way you are paying respect to your dad, stepmom, and real mom.
2007-04-16 13:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋