Why is it that sometimes when you want to be yourself, and when you do be yourself you get crucified for it? I know, there is almost everyone who says that I will always be myself, no matter what happens, no matter who comes in my life, who goes, who is of importance, who not… etc…etc...
Believe me, I used to be one of them (still hope I am in some instances). But somehow when you go through all different phases in life, you actually come to realise that it not only difficult to be ‘yourself’, but it is sometimes downright impossible. Impossible, not because you suddenly lost how to be yourself, or that you find that you cant… but just that it does not ‘fit’.
2007-04-16 04:35:20 · 13 answers · asked by G?ld?n ang?l 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Golden angels blowsa kiss at eware..
2007-04-16 04:44:35 · update #1
its hard because we need to change from ourself
we can not have the same way of living
we can not have the same way of thinking
we need to change from ourself that is why we seek to be like others
we try to act like them , we try to do evereything they as kind of change .
but usually we come back to our normal life
2007-04-16 08:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be yourself..then you need to change your life...really. In essence your cheating yourself, your family, and others by being this other person. If being you doesn't fit, change your life to where it does. Would it be scary? of course. Could it be painful? Yep. But, look at it this way, are willing to give up the rest of your life to someone who isn't the real you, to " fit".
I took that scary journey, and the end result was well worth everything I did, gave up, and moved around.
I am me again, and it feels great.
2007-04-16 11:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*I agree with you to some extent, that it is true we are told to "be ourselves" no matter who you come across or where you go.
*But...for some reason when we do "be ourselves" it does turn into a crucification like situation. I think that is because sometimes (because of societies influence) we all are led to think that people should act a certain way or think a certain way. And a lot of people have been sucked into thinking what society thinks is right or wrong on how you present yourself to others, that they forget to think for themselves.
*I would personally rather be myself and have people not like me for it, then pretend to be someone I'm not and have people like me for the wrong reasons...and knowing that I'm basically living a lie. It's ridiculous, what is everyones obsession with having to have EVERYONE like you?!
~It does not work that way, because there is always going to be someone who does not like you, no matter what you have, who you are...etc. They WON'T.
**So even though YES it does seem nearly impossible to be who you are around people...I agree to the full extent on that one. Still despite that, people just need to quit being so worried about what others think of them. I mean people are going to either like you or they won't, there is no in betweens. And if someone feels the need to not be themselves around other people for whatever reason(s) then...that is their choice. But they are not only lying to themselves but to those certain people, and what happens if you accidentally expose who you really are?
-Then you will have an even bigger problem, trying to explain yourself. So it's just easier to be who you are and have some people not like you for it, (there is a trillion other people in this world!) then to live a lie and pretend to be someone you aren't.
2007-04-16 11:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to not be 100% real at all times. It's one thing to lower or mininize your volume based on your social setting and another to do a complete jekyll/hyde based on the situation. I do what I feel is the best course of action at that particular moment, I am not afraid to pay for my mistakes if I make them, nor am I afraid to face those mistakes and tough situation so that I can learn from them. I apologize for errors but I regret nothing. I have never lived in the past nor am I planning on it.
2007-04-16 11:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sometimes it's hard to be different and strong in your own convictions but you can do it. You just have to realize that you are a wonderful, smart, worth while person and you are entitled to your own thoughts and opinions. It does get easier with age. I'm now 33 years old and l find each year l am stronger and more independent than the year before.
2007-04-16 11:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that it becomes difficult to be yourself by the friends you have, for example when I'm out with my boss, and we go fishing, like this weekend, I do not get pissed drunk and act like I act when I'm with my close and personal friends... They know me and accept me for who I am... I don't care what my friends will say about me, but for sure I wanna keep a good impression on my boss... SO this gives me double standards? I don't think so...
2007-04-16 11:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manal..whenever you feel you need to discuss things, feel free to email you.. I can use my 33!!! years of experience in helping you out. I would love to..
~Ashkon blows a kiss at Golden Angel..(NOTHING MORE!!!)
2007-04-16 11:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Cules 4 life: ASHKON IS BACK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with society. i feel you. you have to wear many masks, hopefully at home and with family and friends you are able to be yourself. they are the ones who matter anyway.
2007-04-16 11:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you change in life so you cant say who YOU really are after a while
2007-04-16 11:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shakespeare said it perfectly
to thy own self be true
and to walk that walk is glorious
to stop doing that, your soul slowly dies
be yourself
2007-04-16 11:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋