My soon to be husband seems to think all men are lusting after me if they so much as talk to me.He tries to play it off as me being so attractive that he understands why they do but this is starting to cause some major fights at our house.If i was a model maybe but just an everyday stay at home mom,please advice on how i can talk to him and tell him that his thoughts are wrong and that i only have eyes for him.
2007-04-16 03:39:02 · 11 answers · asked by blubabygirl1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the information that you gave, the only way to convince him that his thoughts are wrong is to stop talking to men all together and only talk to him. The problem is that it seems to me that this is not who you are; you have male friends. Also, you mentioned that if men are talking to you that he thinks you are cheating? That is a little extreme and I think that it is going to be a problem in you marriage if you are going to marry this man. You need to find out where this is coming from and you need to find out if your fiance can deal with the fact that you have male friends.
What you need to remember is that most men know that if a man has any kind of "relationship" with a woman most likely because he wants to sleep with her. I know that many women do not believe this, but it is quite true. If you want to continue these "friendships", then you will have to make some adjustments: Don't talk to them when he is not around, always let him know when you talk or see one of them and when some guy is talking to you, make sure that you introduce your fiance if he doesn't them.
You need to decide what you are willing to deal with. Do you want to deal with jealousy and accusations for the next 30 or 40 years? I am not sure if he will change or not, but a conversations definitely needs to be had about this for you to determine if he can handle who you are as a woman or not.
2007-04-16 03:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies haven shown that men think of sex every so many seconds ( I can't remember the exact number but it's less than a minute). Even as they get older they still think of it every hour. So at some point in your day you are conversing with a guy thinking about sex. Don't you think your husband to be knows how men think? Can't you tell when women hit on him? Of course because you know what to look for.
I think the real question is why you need so much attention from other men.
Now, if I'm misunderstanding your situation, then I'd advise you not get married until you work out his jealousy issues.
Good luck.
2007-04-16 03:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by alikilee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probvably insecure. most guys are if something has happened in the past that involved an ex leaving for a guy friend or whatever. tell him that no matter what has happened in the past that ur not the type tio leave someone u love for another guy especciallly a friend. then explain to ur guy friends thsat they may need to step back some(NOT STOP BEING FRIENDS) so that ur man is more secure
2007-04-16 03:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by smileygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer understand of your limitiation yet my heart and my love understand no boundries and that i will love as a lot of human beings as i needed advert infinitum. the subject for me may be time, i will in ordinary terms be with, help, preserve and supply my dedicated time to a superb type of folk. Now love is love, so how can a mom love her mom, her little ones and her husband and in all danger siblings yet no longer have sufficient love for basically 2 adult adult males or vis versa. Youll positively say those are distinctive, and mayhaps for you they are yet as quickly as I strip away all the different emotions love basically sounds like like to me no matter who its directed at. Now I even have an completely distinctive relationship and compiliation of feeligns for my spouse then I do for my sister, mom or close woman freinds. so so which you could respond to an oblique question for if i ought to be dedicated as a husband to 2 lady, nicely that comes down alot to how plenty desires those lady have. some lady dont want or want thier guy 24/7, and subsequently go away him a superb type of room for different expressions of his time, and if he chosen that component to be emotionally close and supportive to a distinctive person, guy or lady, I dont see that as any worse then spending teh comparable time drooling on the T.V. positively many will disagree. however this back surely relies upon on the adulthood, honesty and intentions of all in contact.
2016-10-22 07:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he knows how all men think... yes that does include him. He thinks about other women, sorry but it is totallly normal. Doesnt mean he will act on it anymore than any of your guy friends. If these guys have been your friends before you met him then he needs to get over it.
2007-04-16 03:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of guy friends, and although I told my boyfriend this when we first met, recently theres been some issues with me "being on the phone for hours with my homeboys" and "never wanting to talk to him".
To say that a female can only associate with other females, to me is stereotypical. Your fiance needs to understand that yes you do have guy friends, but you chose HIM.
2007-04-16 03:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys prefer girls to remain with female friends because they feel more comfortable with that. It's not that they don't trust you, it's more along the lines of they have low self-esteem and it raises their feelings to believe in their minds that they are the only guy in your life. They don't want to know that you have another guy in your life. Even if you're able to see that you only have 'eyes for him', he may not see that. Guys are terriritoral. They want to keep what they get.
2007-04-16 03:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gothic_Maiden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are just suspicious because they think we're going to cheat. They have trust issues that needs to be resolved.
2007-04-16 03:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by bettyboop_littlebettybop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur pic resembles to one of the girl who was close to my heart..!!
Anyways,ur husband is right to think that.Wife is not a public property.
2007-04-16 03:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy can be a very ugly thing, and it can wreck a good relationship. You maybe ought to tell your fiancee this.
2007-04-16 03:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋