She has been in prison most my life till I was 15 . Since then she has been notthing but a pain. She is a theif and a drug addict . Anyway last thusrsday she went to jail for trying to steal steaks . She is mad at me because I wouldnt bond her out for $ 500.00 that i didnt have I am 22 and almost 9 months pregnant . I did go pick her car up , It was on empty with a flat tire now she is yelling at me saying I did it . No one touched her car since I got it to my house . I was sick all weekend and shes mad cause I didnt go visit her plus she will be out on wensday . What do I tell her she is always treating me like crap .
2007-04-16 03:28:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her point blank that you don't owe her anything! She was never there for you while you were growing up and all she wants to do now is use you for her own personal gain. Tell her you are expecting a baby any time and whatever money or spare time you have you are going to devote to the baby.
Tell her you are not going to be used by her and mean it!
2007-04-16 03:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that this is happening to you. Drug addiction is a really hard thing to have to deal with when it is a family member, someone that you love. Nothing is going to change until your mom gets some help and it doesn't seem like she is there yet. You are about to have a child of your own and you don't want to expose her/him to that. I think you should practice some tough love with your mom and tell her that if she wants you to help her that she is going to have to help herself and go into rehab or you can not be there for her. I know she is your mom, but you have to decide what you want for your life and for the rest of your family's life. Right now your mom cannot be the mom that you need and you enabling her is not going to make it any better. I think that you did the right thing by not bailing her out whether you had the money or not. You do not have to take care of her; she is a grown woman and needs to take responsibility for herself. You might have to let her go if she won't get the help that she needs. Talk to her and let her know how you feel and go from there. Don't feel bad about letting your mother go, because in actuality that is not your mother; she is a drug addict and a thief who is under the influence of a substance. If she wants help, help her out as much as you can and if she slips, cut her off. I hope everything works out for you and have a safe delivery.
2007-04-16 10:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wash my hands of her. She treats you like crap.
If you still live with her, move out. There are places that you can go for help, so you don't have to stay there and take her crap.
If you don't live with her, stop contacting her. Ignore her calls and don't answer the door when she stops by. Put her car at her place or just leave it abandoned somewhere.
She doesn't deserve to be bonded out.
I'd disown her. You don't need your child around someone like that.
Tough love.
2007-04-16 10:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22 years old and an adult. Act like one. Your mother is seriously messed up. Do you want your baby around someone like that? You may have sprung from her womb, but she is not your mother. Giving birth does not entitle them to ruin your life. You are not responsible for helping her in anyway.
Me, I'd be looking at relocating to another town, far away.
2007-04-16 10:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her because she's your mom, but you don't like her right now. Tell her that you're upset and frustrated with her treatment of you, and that if she wants anything to do with the child you're carrying that she'll shape up her life. She's always going to treat you like a doormat if you let her. She'll be mad if you stand up for yourself, but she won't treat you poorly anymore.
2007-04-16 11:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want to please our mothers and feel their love for us. Unfortunately, some mom's are not capable of giving us what we need. You are an adult now with your own child on the way. Time to think about yourself. You need to let your mom know that the relationship as it is now is not a healthy one and you need to distance yourself from it. If your mom should ever get her act together, you can make babysteps at rebuilding your relationship - but on your terms.
2007-04-16 10:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by lappel_5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you can't keep bailing her out of situations that are entirely in her control. You are pregnant, you have other things to be worrying/stressing about than your mother causing too many problems. Tell her that if she doesn't wisen up, then you're not going to save her *** anymore, and you will refuse to see her. I hope things work out for you and the baby too!
2007-04-16 10:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by No. 41 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant change the way she acts. The only thing you have the power to change is how you deal with her. I had a similar situation. Unfortunately i have had to cut my mom out of my life. It has made me a healthier person. Maybe someday in the future she will change.
2007-04-16 10:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by bolt1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's really sad, i'm sorry. i doubt that there is anything you can do or say to change her ways, just try to focus on providing a happy and stable life for the baby on the way, so your baby will have a better childhood than you did. it's not your responsibility to pay for your mother's screw ups, you've done nothing wrong.
2007-04-16 10:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your mom treat you like this forget about her and live your own life with your husband
nothing cna stop you from doing this since she treat you like tihs.who want a mother like her for treating her daughter like this
2007-04-16 10:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by jo li 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋