i love my boyfriend more then anything but slowly it seems like he is taking over my life i have been spending lots of time with him and have been ditching my bestfriend for him! He gets mad at me if i hagout with anybody else even if it is with his friends! what sould i do?
2007-04-16 03:26:26 · 28 answers · asked by HAPPY! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GET YOUR LIFE BACK!!...its understandable within the first 3 months to want to spend lots of time..but in all respect for both parties involved, you both (I assume) had a life apart from each other before you met and so you can assume some of that life just knowing that you need those times apart to keep balance in the relationship
2007-04-16 03:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by sterling_love@sbcglobal.net 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends will come and go but best friends are there until the end. Friends will always be there when the guy is long gone. If you are feeling that your boyfriend is taking over your life - that is probably the case. Trust your gut-feeling. If the guy is worth that much and you love him, talk to him and tell him how you feel. Maybe suggest a friend night...you go out with your friends and he goes out with his. Good relationships do not consist of only being with each other. Couples need the away/down time from one another so the relationship does not get old. If he brushes you off, he is not worth it.
2007-04-16 03:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Patti-Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware. Him getting mad at you when you spend time with other people is a sure sign of him being insecure and could grow into him being possessive, and maybe even worse. Take time for your friends. If you keep ditching them for him if you guys break up you will end up alone. It's very important that you have time for yourself away from him to do your own thing and be with your friends. Take a look at the relationship and ask yourself if he makes the same sacrifices you are making. Loving your boyfriend is one thing, but don't let your entire world revolve around him. ☺
2007-04-16 03:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has control issues! He has no right to isolate you from your friends or anyone. This type of person is dangerous to your everyday life. Needing control over any situation tells you he has insecurity problems within himself. He is sick and needs counselling mentally. Do yourself a huge favour and find someone else to be with. In the long run you will feel trapped and unhappy staying with him. You will lose all your friends, what you don't want. Friends are a good thing. As time goes on this control thing with him will only get worse! Move On! Cocoa
2007-04-16 03:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is an overpossesive boyfriend, which is both a good thing and a bad thing. Its good becaue it shows he cares about spending time with you, but its bad because he expects you to give up your entire social life, which i remind you that u have had much longer, friends, etc... than your relationship with him.
What you need to do is discuss this personal time issue with him and make him understand that you need time to hang out with your friends as well. Tell him you value time together but everyone needs a little space. If he is not insecure or an ***, he will understand it. However, if which i hope it doesn;t come to this, he gets mad and continues to give you no personal space, you are in the wrong relationship. Overpossesive relationships don;t work..
i wish you all the best
2007-04-16 03:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any bf that doesn't let you have other friend time is not a good situation. This is the first sign of a possessive, controlling situation that will escalate and your best bet is to dump him and find someone that knows you need friends in your life to round out not only your life but your life with your bf. Friends enrich our lives, even couples! Real friends are always there for each other so if you ditch them for him, you will not have any friends left when you need them.
2007-04-16 03:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Major RED Flags!
He gets MAD at you if you hang out with ANYone else? This guy is a control freak.
Things between you aren't going to get better if he's wanting to prevent your having friends. If he's wanting to distance you from everyone but himself, it's not a healthy situation and it's a HUGE red flag.
You've already begun having second thoughts, and you're already aware there's a problem or you wouldn't have posted this question. Pay attention to your 'inner voice'. It's warning you, take heed!
Best of luck to you!
2007-04-16 03:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by clair_dlune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunni- you need space! Maybe a lil time apart will help. I know you love him but time is precious!! I mean I have a boyfriend who I love very much but I would never ditch my friends for him. Maybe you need to sit down with him and talk and just explain that you need your time. He may not be there for you till the end...you never can tell the future...but your friends will (unless you shut them out completety) So you have to do whats best.
It doesnt have to be a complete break up..maybe just not see eachother for a few days..he may even like that too-- hell get to see that there is time for him to get things done . I hope I helped!
2007-04-16 03:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jaceydonovn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never let anybody control you like this. You are your own person and you can choose what you want to do, not what is best for him. If this is what it's going to be like from now on, things could only get worse... perhaps take a step back from the relationship and tell him you cannot live like this. He will zap all your confidence sooner or later if you don't. Good luck :)
2007-04-16 03:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nicky T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is typical throughout history a women has always catered to her man. It is not your fault it is society. It happens with all relationship if you take a look around. The same girl that is mad at you would do the same thing next week if she had a man. It will ivolve and in time he will get over and you will learn to do both. It just takes time it took me 4 years to start balancing. If they are your friends they will stick around.
2007-04-16 03:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by olivia_j537 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋