I just jilted by my first boyfriend three month ago. At that time, one of my friends accompanies me during that hard time.Although he in Singapore and me in Malaysia.Recently he revealed to me that he likes me. I said that i can't accept him now,cause i not yet get over with my ex.He said that he won't care cause he trust me, and will help me to erase my memory with my ex.I know that he will be loyal to me.But, i just can't fall in love now. I don’t want to be unfair to him.
2007-04-16 02:59:51 · 10 answers · asked by the milky way 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, I didn't come here to lecture you like a preacher - if it's already in your mind - see it to the end. As you said, "Just let it be."
2007-04-16 03:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your heart will tell you. if u feel that this guy is not suitable for you and not likely to fall in love with or esp. in marriage, just be straight, gentle but firmly tell him so. But chances are that he will not give up.
Remember that men often look for sweet romance and do not have marriage in mind and it is not good that u should fall of love again.
But all in all, never go for handsome guys alone as that is asking for trouble. chemistry, personality and attitude towards life and others count a lot more important towards a successful and long lasting relationship.
But i will like to ask u in the 1st place, why did that singapore guy get so close to u while u have your bf? it is important to draw a line.
Edit: i just read through some of your questions and i am quite worried for you. u doesn't seem to know what u want.
2007-04-16 10:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be true to yourself. If you do not feel that you are ready to be with another man, you need to wait until you are ready. Your friend may say he doesn't care about your ex, but the truth is that no person can make you forget someone else. It takes time and effort on your behalf, and your friend needs to be patient and respectful while you sort through your emotions. To go with him now would be more unfair to him than to not go with him; he will expect your love, even if he says otherwise, and will be hurt that you cannot give it to him.
2007-04-16 10:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uve done the best thing already u let him kno where u stand and that u cant fall in love with anyone cause ur still gettin over ur ex. and if u do have feelings for him beyond friendship time will tell. right now he might not see it but he will appreciate ur honesty towards him and u wanting to get over ur ex first. u did the best thing remain a friend to him as he has been to u and if love is there and its meant to be itll be.
2007-04-16 10:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by mickeynminnie143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this new guy can't back off and give you space to sort things out then thats a problem in the making for the future. Take your time & pick up where you left off. Zoom out & prioritize your life. If it involves another man and your ready, then go go go girl!
2007-04-16 10:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you gave him a fair warning and if he still wants to be with you go for it. Obviously your ex doesn't want to be with you anymore so the best thing is to move on. You'll know when your ready so for the meantime just have fun.
2007-04-16 10:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by shortyrosas2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing the right thing is waiting before getting into another relationship. You do need time . . . .
Try spending time with friends and don't worry about people who think you should get into a relationship right now.
2007-04-16 10:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question?
Tell him if you take him now he will just be the rebound guy....and tell him he deserves a chance to be the right one...not the bandage on the wound of your broken relationship.
2007-04-16 10:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't, or don't want to?
Carrying around the baggage of your previous relationship is only going to weigh you down. Get rid of it and start you life anew. Forget your lying ex.
2007-04-16 10:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he already understands. just give yourself time, and keep telling him your not ready until you are. goodluck!
2007-04-16 10:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋