he always hit me really hard and when i tell him too stop he doesnt he just tell me too make him shut up. so what should i do?
2007-04-16 02:49:55 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him.
NO ONE has the right to hit you.
YOU need to have more self esteem and stop taking this treatment. You are worth more than this guy is willing to give you emotionally.
If he tries stalking you after you break up (which he probably will), then get a restraining order against him. And keep on enforcing it by calling the police every time he shows up. He will either end up in jail for a time, or finally realize that you are not going to give in.
You need to start documenting the abuse NOW, before he goes so far as to kill you. Because if you let him get away with this behaviour now...he eventually will let his anger get away from him enough to not care just how hard he is hitting you, and HE WILL eventually kill you.
2007-04-16 02:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either enjoy being beat up or you still think he will change. After countless TV shows, newspaper reports and other sources you should know by now, that wont happen. He is happy to be able to Lord it over some one and that some one is you. You let him get away with this because he is a bully and likes to intimidate you and you must like it too because you haven't filed charges against him or sought other help. People like your boyfriend need help too, but are either too stupid, lazy or afraid to get help so they continue to do what they do and they know that just short of being dead, you won't do anything to stop them either.
2007-04-16 02:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart we teach people how to treat us. Sit him down and tell him how you feel when he hits you, tell him that it hurts when he hits you, and that it hurts your feelings when after you ask him not to that he disrespects your feelings and still do it. Ask him if he understands what you mean when you ask him not to hit you?. Then ask him what would he do if he,d ask someone to stop doing something that was hurting him or embarrassing him like hitting him up side his head. And every time they hit him he told them to stop, but they would,nt ask him what would he do?. If you can not get him to understand that hitting is a DEAL BREAKER. Then it,s time for you to save yourself from a life of A$$ beatings. No joke if he,s comfortable with hitting you,and you can not get him to see that, that behavior bothers you, then next will come the beatings, he,ll feel like if you stayed for the hittings, you,ll stay for the beatings. And in the future do not stay in any relationship where someone is hurting you, in any kind of way. Remember this "We teach people how to treat us". If when someone says something, or does something that hurts you let them know right then how you feel about it, not later, right then.And if they want to be in your life they will respect your wishes. But at the same time you have to do the same. Good Luck!!!! God Bless.
2007-04-16 04:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by msann601 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear: can you help me?what can i do about my boyfriend always hiting me?
I don't know how old you are, however my dear, whether your are 13 ,14, 15, 16, 17, 20, 30 or even 80, doesn't matter much. He is going to one day kill you any how. Be smart. I begg you to get out of that relationship. NOW!
good luck, let me know please, and e-mail me
2007-04-16 02:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're being serious and your boyfriend is actually hitting you, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! No matter what, you do NOT deserve to be in a relationship with someone that hits you and doesn't respect you. Leave him and move on with your life and find someone that treats you right!
2007-04-16 02:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Warn him that you'll leave him if he continues the beatings. If he will not change, break it up with him. He doesn't deserve your respect - not even 0.01 per cent! If that doesn't work try reporting it to your parents or the cops.
He does not have the right (at all) to hit you and to tell you to shut up after hurting you physically and emotionally!
2007-04-16 02:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE H*LL AWAY FROM HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!
You don't deserve this and it is not going to stop. Unless you like to be beat upon get away before you end up mutilated or dead. Regretfully some guys are like this and the only thing you can do is make sure you are not their punching bag.
There are facilities in place to help you get your life straightened out. Go to a battered women's shelter. They will provide room and board for you and help you get a job and keep you safe from this boyfriend. Don't wait for another beating.
2007-04-16 03:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops first. Then stop calling him your bf. He's a pansy two bit thug who needs to be hauled off to jail to become someone's b-i-t-c-h. Get some counseling and get a job of your own. Take it slow and don't get into any relationships immediately. Instead take your time and find a guy who can respect you and argues using with you using words and not his fists.
2007-04-16 02:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best you find a new boyfriend. That really is the best thing to do. He may try to play a control game, but, if you have friends it will get "nipped in the bud". Some guy will "Check his clock" for you and he will leave you alone.
2007-04-16 02:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Make a report & get a restraining order ASAP!
It's not going to be easy but it will only get worse & you may end up dead. There are PLENTY of other guys out there whom will treat you with the respect that you deserve.
2007-04-16 02:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Christina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋