He expects me to be cool with it, because I understand were he is coming from with his reasons. I'm still hurt and upset. What am I suppose to do, just act like everything is normal? He is acting strange too, he is kinda distant from me a little, but he still says he loves me and all that. He's been kinda a butt head too though. I don't know what's wrong with him, is he stressing?
2007-04-16 02:33:16 · 18 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Did he ask you to get married? If he did and allowed you to prepare up to the last minute this is cruel. I would take a break from him to give him something to think about! Infact I would really think a lot about him to. You just don't commit to something like getting married and back down the day before. What does that say about his character, his stability with the way he looks at things in life? What about you......your suppose to be the most important person in his life and he is already emotionally abusing you! You may want to believe he is the right person for you .........but he isn't. I don't believe that he is stressing I believe he is not sure of himself, and the feelings that he has for you. I don't think I would want to be with someone that wasn't sure about me and not stable with his own emotions. I would be so terribly hurt at this point that I couldn't even talk with him! I would remove myself from him and wish him all the luck in the world and hope that he finds himself and comes to know what it is that he wants out of life. I would sugest that you don't think he would be able to do that with you around! Do this in a letter and mail it to him. Don't give him the satisfaction of explaning anything to you...........there is no excuse for his behavior! not one day before you and him were to be married! Move on with your life and leave yourself open to someone that has the courage to commit when the time is right. This isn't the right time and his actions are proff of that! I know you are hurting and very disapointed and your emotions are in a whirlwind. You will need time to sort things out. Things will get better and you will see things more clearly when you do. I am truely sorry for your disappointment. Best wishes always sweetie.
2007-04-17 07:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-29 15:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that guy coz seeing him will only aggravate your pain. He doesn't seem to love you as he claims otherwise he wouldn't have left you like that. Count yourself lucky that he cancelled the wedding otherwise you would have been trapped in a loveless marriage. Don't let him stress you anymore and tell him that straight to his face. You may not believe me now but you will find true love sooner than you think. All the best of luck!
2007-04-16 02:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by su 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset!
Cancel the wedding and make sure you get some money from him for things that have already been bought for the wedding and can't be returned.
Just move on with both your lives he's obviously got issues!
2007-04-16 05:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by erink1799 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have told you more an advance but maybe he wasn't sure how to tell you. If he wants to wait I would, don't push the issue he has his reasons for doing so and if you love him you need to respect that. Talk to him about the way he is acting
2007-04-16 05:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get married to this guy, I broke up 2 weeks before my wedding and a couple of years later I found someone better and have been married now for 5 yrs on the 19th. this guy is not ready at all for this don't let keep hurting you.
2007-04-16 02:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by km t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick his butt....and get on with your own life. He is not worth it at all if he canceled your wedding the day before you were supposed to get married.....
Who knows if he is stressing or what...to me it says he is very immature and not ready to marry anyone.....
2007-04-16 03:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how hurt you are, he's hurting too. It took alot of guts for him to do that.
I got married and 2 years later was divorced. My ex said that he didn't want to get married - but didn't have the courage to tell me. There was so much pain, and I truly feel for you. But, give yourself time and allow yourself to grieve for the situation.
Best of luck to you.
2007-04-16 03:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by diney2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read all the questions you've posted about your relationship with your boyfriend. I think you should be grateful and move on with your life. Return the wedding presents and thank everyone for all their help during this time.
IF you have any questions about what you should do, I suggest you read your own questions and your own words. Then decide what to do.
2007-04-16 02:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously having second thoughts about marrying you. Maybe you should think about it to if he is acting in this manner. Take some time apart and get your head straight.
2007-04-16 02:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋