my finacee has a few debts (caused by him mum using his credit card) he said he cant get a loan or stuff like that for another 7 years this mean when it comes to me and him needed a loan for a house or car i will have to take it out in my name we will need a loan for our wedding that we have planned for 2009 should i wait until 2014 before we get married and his debt cleaned
2007-04-16 00:00:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG Im sorry but this has bad bad bad bad written all over it.
Dont do it...
Are you SURE 100% CERTAIN it was his mum?
D O N O T take out any loans, especially not seeing as you will have to support him for the next however many years... des he have a job?
If he has to wait 7 years, does that mean he has gone bankrupt over these debts and need to wait out the cooling off period?
Even if his mum was the one that spent the money... which I doubt unless she is into drugs or gambling in a big way, to not care about her kids debts, what kind of person, knowingly watches their mother waste and blow so much money, that they are going to be in debt for the next 7 YEARS!
Dnt credit cards need signatures these days?
It doesnt add up.
I would be very cautious.
Im not saying wait because he has debt, Im saying make sure you know where the debt came from for certain, blaming someone else is the oldest trick in the book.
Be careful he is not trying to take advantage of you in any way.
If you CERTAIN he is not then dont wait, lifes too short, but go cautiously and think everything through, for both short term and long term effects.
2007-04-16 00:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long you should wait depends on the couple. Before you get married, you need to establish trust. Without this, you can't be sure if you're both right for each other. You need to make sure your love is true... ask yourself why, exactly, do you want to marry this person? You should wait until you are both ready, because divorce is expensive, time-consuming and heartbreaking. And staying in an unhealthy marriage is usually equally unpleasant.
2016-05-21 02:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means wait. If something would happen between the two of you, you would be stuck with all of his debt. The only way that I would buy a house or a car , if I were you, would be before you get married.(Only if you will be able to pay the note by yourself.) Put either in YOUR NAME ONLY. That way you are not stuck with bills from the marriage, in the event of a split.
2007-04-16 00:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt take out a loan for a wedding. you dont have to throw an elaborate over the top wedding. get married and then in a few years you can decide if you need a loan to buy a car or a house in your name. guys shouldnt have to pay for everything you know.
2007-04-16 00:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by fippypoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest I would. In the first place why is his mom using his credit card. In other words his mom has control of him or he is a real momies boy. To a certain extent thats ok like if his mom was in trouble or something but he has to be responsible about it. When he made the decision to want to marry you he auto maticaly should have put your interests first. I think you need to have a serious chat with him. Cause you dont want to be starting your marrage with financial depts cause trust finances often cause fights in a relationship. Thats one of the resons my last one ended
2007-04-16 00:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously are thinking about waiting until 2014 to get married? no, don't wait unless you really want to. go for a less expensive wedding, then just renew your vows in a bigger way later on. my husband had horrible credit, but that didn't stand in our way, and now it's getting better. his credit shouldn't stand in your way of marriage. you might not get a house right away, but if you just rent, it's not all bad.
2007-04-16 00:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to settle his debts before you marry. Has he filed for bankruptcy? I don't know how bad his situation is, but certainly even though they are his bills, it could cause both of you stress financially if the companies come after him.
2007-04-16 00:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just get married know and
have a big wed in 2014
why put your life on hold
you 'll still be happy
You do love each other rite
2007-04-16 00:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Janice M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out how true is it of what your fiancee claimed to be...marriage is a whole new commitment, responsibility, don't rush, think carefully, u don't have to wait that long, probably give him some time n come up with some solutions..
2007-04-16 00:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao hell never be debt free so go ahead and wait till he pays off his bills,and if you believe his mommy jacked his bills up your outta your mind.hes a bum come see me ill treat ya right ,i got cash baby and hung ok /?
2007-04-16 00:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋