Are you happy being miserable?

Question

My teenage daugher seems to find everything to complain about. From the constant pain all over that she seems to have to there not being anything in house to eat (although I always ask if she wants anything specific when I go shopping). Mostly she's in a good mood and a pleasure to be with, but when she's moody - don't give her the wrong answer to question or all hell breaks loose.

Thanks all - Chip R, my life is far from dull.

Answer 1

sounds like she's seeking attention

Answer 2

I'm the same. And I don't know why I'm upset half the time and I can't help it. Don't say thing's like Why are you always like this because often we don't have an answer. I know the thing that works for me is to be left alone for a little while so I can calm down and later I laugh because I realise how stupid it was to be upset about nothing. If I knew why your daughter, me and teenagers everywhere suddenly are annoyed I'd tell you but I have no idea...it just kinda happens and when it does even though you can see people getting upset you can't stop yourself because everything builds up. Good Luck with it though, i think it's just being a teenager.

Answer 3

I think its not so much a case of being happy being miserable, but being comfortable making people avoid you whilst you learn to deal with your own feelings of growing up and all the hell that comes with that.

Most teenages go through angst, and its perfectly normal. Her hormones are probably all over the place and her body seems to appear to be a different shape every time she looks in the mirror, her emotions are so complex compared to being a little girl and it takes a lot of time to learn how to deal with that.

Imagine going through the menopause at 15 and still having to learn everything new and know what you want to be for the rest of your life whilst trying to find someone to love and still carry on as normal.

Jsut be grateful for the good times, it doesn't last forever and when you get your menopause, you can get her back ;0)

Answer 4

Teens at that age are going from being little girls to women There bodies are going through alot of changes and hormone surges.Buy a table for two put in a corner.Put an invitation (fancy)and a reserved sign on it .The invition read that it is an open invation to talk .Put her favorite drink there and 2 cups (My daughters favorite was cappicinno) This table is reserved just for the 2 of you .Each child has will have a diiferent scenerio.My son I would stop get his favorite food fill the tank full of gas and go on a open highway till he talked about what was on his mind or I ran out of gas ( Sounds drastic but it worked)

Answer 5

i think it's just cos she's a teen and going through hormone changes i was a horrible brat when i was growing up but once i got to 15 i totally changed mind you my mum had 5 years of me being the worst daughter ever try talking to her when she's in a good mood ask her if there's anything she'd like to talk about explain you'd love for the 2 of you to try and get on better maybe try spending some quality time with her and try being a little patient i have 4 daughters who are 8,6 and twins are 5 so if there anything like me i'll have complete hell for about 9 years going by how i was omg!!!

Answer 6

she is probably going through a phase in life but some people make this phase a life long journey

take her shopping with you. if she does not pick out what she wants then its her own fault. you are not a mind reader as she is old enough to make some of her own decesions. also don't cater to her too much as she sounds like she is spoiled and you worry to much about her feelings when she seems to totaly disregard your feelings.

if she does not change her ways she will be setting herself up for a lot of problems in life as i too am moody and know that I am the author of my own misfortune.

We all have choices in life. If we chose to be moody and petty, then we will suffer the consequences of our own folly.

If "all Hell Breaks loose" she sounds out of control and has to pay the consequences of her bad behavior. You can cover it up and hide her bad temper but the world will not put up with this behavior and soon she will be in a world of hurt. Its up to you the parent to correct the "all hell breaking loose" before she runs up against a world that is very mean to moody people.

I know from experience.

"this busy world and I shall never agree"

Answer 7

hi.. i am a teenage girl myself and am quite the same!! i sit in my room most of the time and am always getting told off for being stressy about something.... you should try taking her out for the day...for some one on one time... some people believe tht this is attention seeking...but i have a sister that is exactly that and it tolls on me badly.... it makes me feel as though i am the one that is left out! it may be interesting to know if you have any other children/ good friends that could be making her feel the same way.... she may just want you to spend some quality time with her alone!

Answer 8

I admit, there is a few exhilaration on hand in experiencing the detrimental thoughts. i do no longer understand what it truly is; every time my melancholy kicks in and that i'm mendacity in my mattress sobbing into my pillowcase, some small component to me is status returned, removed from the deluge, thinking "Huh. i'm a classic man or woman. i'm able to experiencing the finished selection of human emotion. that's solid." despite the fact that, i do in contrast to feeling unhappy in many situations. i could plenty want being predominantly happy. that's significant for me to experience each and every of the sentiments, nonetheless.

Answer 9

you can only be happy once you have been miserable, if you don't know this then you shouldn't be a parent...Maybe your life has been too good and you are trying to find falts in your daughter to over compensate for your dull life. Don't live vicariously thru your daughter's mistakes, i know your parentrs were over-pretective, but don't let your daughter get the out dated sense of controll your parents had over u.

Answer 10

The first three words of your post explain the entire situation completely:

My teenage daughter.

Teenagers complain about EVERYTHING. It's what they do. If they aren't complaining, they're sulking. If they're not complaining or sulking, they're being impertinent and smart-mouthed. If they aren't doing any of THAT, then they're asleep.

Teenagers suck. Give it a couple of years, and you'll have your normal daughter back :)

Answer 11

Miserable is a fashion to teenagers!