ok my crush has shown some interest in me lately (finally) and we are friends we used to talk all the time but about 5 months ago i stopped talking to him on the phone as much because i like him and wanted time to get over that so i could truely be the friend he wanted me to be and not some crazy person stalking him. well now that we are hanging out again the feelings are still there for him an he is starting to show so signs he likes me to. so here are my questions, how long should i wait before i call him and should i make a move on him. or should i wait for him to make a big move on me. when did like get so confusing i thought when i was 31 i would be done with having these problems. help me
2007-04-15 21:03:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have feelings for him, and you think he feels the same, tell him how you feel. If you are 31, I assume he is around that age as well, so you should not have any problem having a mature conversation regarding your feelings for one another.
Good luck!
2007-04-15 21:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Speedy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your concept of things almost make no sence. Is that some sort of "time makes the heart fonder" kind of thinking. You seem somewhat unexperienced for a 31 year old but its not all that uncommon these days (im 24 btw).
You have self worth issues, you dont see yourself worthy of this guy, which is silly when he is so keen on you. You need to get over them and find some worth in yourself (isnt hard when you think of it) and then go for it. Best of luck
2007-04-16 04:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look girl, no guy worth his salt likes to be chased after. Whoever said "We can just be friends not lovers", is an idiot. It never works. Lay off of the guy for as long as you can stand it. Don't call him, or be around for him. When and if he does get back to you, the first few times play it cool and casual. On about your 4th. date tell him how you feel and say these words. " I need a permenant, loving relationship". If he stammers and stutters. Walk away and get involved with someone else. I would also suggest professional counciling for yourself. Please don't take that as a putdown....(Read the last few lines of my Profile). A good therapist can really turn your head around. No one should be in this type of pain. It sounds to me the guys kind of flakey. What has he been doing while he is away from you? I really don't want to tell you, you probably already know. I can tell your not drugged up or boozed out, which is great. But start getting your **** together about this Crush. If he does'nt recipricate.....get on your bad motor scooter and ride, baby!!!
2007-04-16 04:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by InLikeFlynn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, time is not waiting on you. Go over and see him and have a talk with him and see how he feels. Maybe he is waiting for you to make a move. Get on that before someone else does. Make sure he likes women 1st and doesn't perfer men.
2007-04-16 04:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by uponthis1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it girl what can you lose you want it then have it. Im 36 and still havin problems he he good luck
2007-04-16 04:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait, please don't wait make you movee ASAP.
2007-04-16 04:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him do that. in my opion?
2007-04-16 04:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋