Any ideas on how to cope? PLEASE HELP!?

Question

OK, so tomoro i go back to school after two weeks of holidays. Before the holidays i started to harm myslef because i find school an life while in school horrible and sometimes unbearable and i have even thought about suicide.
I havnt self harmed for the last two weeks while i have been on holidays, and i dont want to go back to it, but school streeses me out and upsets me so much that sometimes i just cant help it.Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal wth all the strees and emotions and the urge to self harm/ commit suicide?
Please Help!
Some other stuff:
im only in yr. 9...School, thats not the only problem, i am still sad on holidays, but school and friends and classes and homework, just pushes me over the edge.I have problems with friends at school, being that i have none in any of my classes.
Everyone expects me to be the best and that stresses me heaps.I cant go and talk to cousellors @ school, I've been there be4 and they made me feel worse because he forgot who i was.

Answer 1

I know you will find this hard to believe, but high school is nothing to stress over. You probably will never see most of those kids again for one thing. For another they are so worried about themselves on the inside that they probably don't even notice anyone else's problems. Do you notice their problems? You probably think they have it altogether and lead perfect lives. They don't.

Cutting isn't good because you can get infections and it will leave scars that you won't want others to see someday which no matter how careful you are they will see them.

Find something that you absolutely love to do and then do it. Take the focus off yourself. Volunteer to help at a nursing home. Ask at the library if you can read to kids or teach an adult how to read. There are plenty of things you can do. Before you know it, high school will be over.

As for suicide, if people are honest, they will tell you they all think about it at one time or another. It's the final solution when everything else seems so hopeless. But the truth is we all struggle at some point or another - you just have to hold on until the struggle is past. When you feel that way, push it from your thoughts. If you can't do that, then talk to your parents or someone you trust. There is no shame in talking.

I wish you the very best little one.

Answer 2

Do see a professional therapist. You have lots to say, and need a trained listener who isn't responsible for 400 students at the same time. There is a national, and probably a local suicide hot line you can call for help.
I'm glad you haven't self-harmed in the last 2 weeks, make it a goal not to do that once school starts again. Give your parents lots of hugs, it will help.
The therapist can give you things to do to lessen the stress. It's something we all have to learn in this world. One exercise that works well, and can be done almost anywhere is: take a deep breath, hold it 2 to 3 seconds, then slowly blow it out of pursed lips. I love it because it works so well. While you are doing it, picture all your stress just blowing out with your breath.

Answer 3

I know it will not be easy to go back to school tomorrow. But you can do it. What you really need right at this moment is someone to talk to. How open are you with your parent(s)? Do you feel as though you can talk to them about how you feel? Is there another person older than you whom you trust that you feel that you can tell about how you're feeling? If not, please call this number: 1-800-273-8255 or 1-800-784-2433. (stay on the line and don't hang up). You didn't say what state you lived in and that's okay, but call either one of those numbers and they will talk to you about your problems. Either way, please, please, do not self-harm. There are people that love you and need you in their lives. Remember, you can always email me as well, and I would be happy to talk to you. I am not a professional...just a person who has many years of life experience and have gone through some of the same feelings that you are going through right now. I know sometimes, you feel as though you can't make it another minute, but you can, and you will. Just call those numbers. Take care hun, be safe.

Answer 4

Have you spoken to your parents darling? You may want to go to counseling outside of what the school offers.

At your age, your hormones are playing a big role, so you are not alone in this.

Perhaps someone on here is a licensed therapist and might be able to give you more advice.

Meanwhile, distracting yourself with the PC, music, television or a book might help you through the night.

Answer 5

You definitely got it rough,no doubt about that. I'm not in school anymore but I remember it wasn't that great for me either. Is it the people that stress you out or is it just your lack of self-confidence? I thought I had "lots of friends" in school until I really needed one. Friends come and go, that's life, but it isn't worth hurting yourself over. Get tuff girl, be your own, lead your own way, if you do you will draw strong people to you, that's the kind of friends you need! Stop wasting time on "wussies" and what they think. Take care of yourself,for yourself,and for the ones who do care about you and do give a crap!

Answer 6

Do you have a family Doctor? Please talk to your mom or dad and have them arrange an appointment with the doctor and tell the doctor what the problem is -- just as you expressed it to us. Hope you can get some medical help outside of school.

You need to nip the problem in the bud, turn things around and make it better.

Answer 7

You need to get some help for your problems. If you cant cope with school then why dont you ask your parents to homeschool you.

Answer 8

yea 2 points stupid freshman and ur not the only one with feelins go kiss a guy emo