My fiance and I have been together for a few months and I recently took a cut in hours at my job and I'm looking to work an additional job even though I'm about to relocate to where he is. He on the other hand is financially stable and has a six figure income. My tuition for grad school is due and I have some other things that need to be paid and instead of struggling, should I just ask him for assistance? He has offered before and I declined and said I have things under control. I don't know if it's due to pride or because I've never asked anyone for anything, but it's hard for me. It shouldn't be that way because this is a man who says he loves me and I love him. Also, being that I've declined before, what would be a good way to bring this up to him instead of just hinting around?
2007-04-15 18:33:56 · 7 answers · asked by mistyerious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I've been married for only a few years now, but dated my wife for 4 years before marrying. When I proposed, and she accepted, it was for keeps :)
So, I will answer your question with a question- what will happen to his 6-figure income once you're married? My guess is that, if all goes well, you both share ownership of money, property, etc. Which means, any debt you accrue before going into the marriage will be there when you get married. SO, I would say that if you are seriously intending on getting married, then I don't see a problem with it- especially since he has already offered. I helped my wife before we were married, and now she is the primary income earner while I'm in grad school. :) Best of luck!
2007-04-15 18:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by USArmy_Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell him that you can't afford everything and would he mind lending you some money until you get things sorted out? You could also ask him to help you make up a budget so you could keep things under control and not have to worry about asking him again in the future. If you're going to marry this man you need to get comfortable with discussing things like finances with him and doing a little household budget is a great place to start.
A good way to bring it up is to start a budget then ask him for his help with it. If he's smart he should see that it's going to be a bit tight and then you can ask him for a loan.
2007-04-16 01:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and are planning to spend the rest of your life with him, ther is no reason why he can not assist in your future together. Shortly you will be sharing in all expenses. It is for both of your benefits if you have a higher education, and are able to secure a better position in the working world.
2007-04-16 01:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can borrow some money. Write it down. Sign the paper. Pay him back. Avoid being on Judge Judy.
2007-04-16 01:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, and wants to be your husband someday...his money is yours and your money is his....he would not want to see you in any financial troubles...financial stability is the first step to a good marriage
2007-04-16 01:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by cdani425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him for it your gnan be marrying him ull have to combine the money and the resposibility including paying the bills together he will understand
2007-04-16 01:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by kassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna marry him
how can you not feel comfortable askin him for money
maybe you arent ready to even get married
2007-04-16 01:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Eliana Lombay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋