what does he mean?!?!?! PLEASE HELP!?

Question

i have a good friend that is always texting me and calling me. He is one of my good friends and i have never liked him and have never thought of him in any other way. he says that he likes my best friend and the reason he doesn't call is because he doesn't want to bother her but he doesn't mind bothering me so he calls and text's me. but a few of our mutual friends have said that they think that he likes me. i didn't think so until today he said some things that we a little bit weird. lately he has all of a sudden become more interested in my life and has been asking me "how was your day" "are you tired" etc. which is normal for friends to ask each other. bu he always wants to know who i'm talking to and if its a guy then how close are we...and my friends told him that i got hurt while i was walking with a guy and he called me and was like 'interogating' me about the guy. he sent me an im and i told him i couldnt talk cuz i was having trouble...

....and i told him that i was having some trouble with a guy and he very defensively asked "who is this this guy that is giving you trouble"...he also asks me how my activities are....and just seems more interested than friends...but not enough to be like...a bf/gf kinda thing....so what do you think is going on in his head? does he like me? does he like my bff? why does he call me? PLEASE JUST TELL ME EVERYTHING YOU THINK ABT THIS SITUATION!

Answer 1

I don't think this guy likes you romantically. I think he just wants your undivided attention and gets frantic when he thinks someone is getting it instead. Sit your friend down and tell him tat he's creeping you out, ask him whats going on and to back off a bit. Explain that you just want to be friends with him and that you just want to do your own thing right now.

Answer 2

I've been in a similar situation, and it's a tough thing. I had a male best friend, and after awhile, he started seeming interested in me romantically. All of our friends would say things like what a cute couple we'd be, and how we were perfect for each other. We kind of flirted around for a while, but it never went any further than a couple kisses (but granted, we went to bars together, so we would laugh it off the next day) One of my friends became interested in him, so, trying to be a good friend, I told him I'd fix him up. Well, she ended up really liking him, and I was going crazy with jealousy. I got mad at him, even though I was the one who hooked them up. Long story short, things got to complicated, and we eventually stopped talking. It killed me, b/c we were such good friends, and I was more devastated about losing him as a friend.
Bottom line is, once you cross that line, it's hard to ever really go back to being friends. So you have to decide what's more important to you. Is it worth risking your friendship to see if something develops? And how strong are his feelings towards your friend? No one can answer this but you. But just be sure to not get pressured by friends who may think it's a good idea. They're not the ones who are risking a friendship, you are.
Good luck. I hope it works out better for you then it did for me! : )

Answer 3

It seems to me by all that you have said that the guy has definitely turned his interests on you. You think of him as a really good friend, and you talk frequently on the phone together, so maybe he was really calling to talk to you and wasn't concerned about your bestfriend. Does your bf like him ? My guess is no. Let me ask you a question, how would you feel if it were true and he really likes you now ? All the arrows are pointing in that direction. Would it make you happy or would it be a bummer? Is he a dream come true or a nightmare in the making? Will he still be a really good friend? Let me know what happens.

Answer 4

Here is a really easy way for you to difuse this situation- having been in a similar situation when I was in high school with a girl who I was friends with.

Next time that you are talking with your friend, and they are asking all sorts of questions about you, etc, thank them for being such a good friend. Make note of the fact that MOST guys are always just looking for way to hook up, but that you just appreciate the fact that isn't what he's looking for. Make note of how much you value your FRIENDSHIP with him and wouldn't want to change it FOR ANYTHING. Explain how being friends is so much more worthwhile than dating, and he really ought to take the hint that you aren't interested.

Best of luck!

Answer 5

It sounds to me like he's just trying to be your friend. Do your female friends ask you about your day, how you're feeling, and get upset if someone bothers you? If not, then your female friends need to be replaced with ones who do.

As for the guy, maybe he does "like" you. But, I think he also likes you as a friend. No romantic relationship can survive without friendship as well, so you should probably start getting used to the fact that males and females CAN be actual friends.

Answer 6

he is interesting in you.
I had encountered this problem before too, this guy who in the beginning likes my friend and called me every now and then to ask things about her but then come to the times that he called everyday, we become friends and went out (which I dun consider as date) but one day he expressed that he hope we can be together...that was 8 years ago unfortunately to me a friend is always a friend.
Gal, I think you are in the same situation, he definitely likes you, now is up to you =)

Answer 7

If you've been friends for a long time and his attitude towards you is more then friendly or as changed...ya def. intersted. He might like your friend too, but theres feelings for you too, you can like more then one person at a time. Also if you haven't been bestfriends for a long time *under a year* id say he probably does. Ride it out for a bit longer until you make any decisions.

Answer 8

based on your story, don't tell me you still can't tell that he's interested in you. it's very obvious.

probably he told you before that he likes your bestfriend so that you won't think anything weird about his actions towards you.

but i'm sure you know that it's also hard to jump to conclusions on your part. it won't be a nice situation when the guy denies his feelings for you to everybody. leaving you to look like you're the one after him.

maybe you can just wait for things to develop. let him continue with what he's doing. as long as he's not annoying you.

Answer 9

frist of all i would say hey dude whats up your acting like my brother or mother with all the questions. second make sure you dont complain to him about any guys since you see how possessive hes getting to be. and mostly i would actually slow down the contact with him it seems hes either very possessive which is scary or bored, but either way since your just friends then dont give him ideas to think otherwise

Answer 10

I really think he likes you. The question for you, Do you like him? He looks like a keeper. Ask him or just move into a kiss girl. Because you are going back and around in your head you are probably going nuts. Your thinking about him. It is you who likes him too.