When does trying to accomodate the needs of one's partner mean giving up part of oneself? What should we be willing to change and what should we hold to in ourselves?
2007-04-15 18:19:08 · 18 answers · asked by Cybele 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing, plain and simple. They need to love you for you. You shouldn't have to change for someone.
2007-04-15 18:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enough to make it fun. The trick is not to avoid changing, but to grow together. Change is the only constant. Accomodate your partner when it's fun. Walk the other direction when it's not. If he/she follows and makes it fun, you've done it just right.
2007-04-16 01:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its little things lke you flirt too much then ya, but you have to WANT to change too. If you change just for him I gaurentee you will not last super long. By changing yourself, your putting his happiness infront of yours. You'll probably become not as happy and feel worn out. I think if you were meant to be together, one should not have to change the other
2007-04-16 01:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by briee89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it I'd say. Worry about are you having a good time. Really spend alot of time doing what you like or what she likes and ask your self is this my groove, does it flow for me, us. Or--- is it a constant struggle, way out there emotionally alot. If living riding a wild wave is for you ok. Alot try that but believe me find a relationship that is easy, easy is good.Constant hassel is not.
2007-04-16 01:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt ever have to change for a realationship yea you might change over time becasue of them by being with them but that isnt deliberate// the only thing that has to change is like your living bits at home like if they will move in and all. =] hope that helps just stay the same if they want yo to change who you are dont bother becuase they dont like you for who you are then. xxxxx
2007-04-16 01:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont change cause then you wouldnt be yourselves. But i agree with ichb or something like that hes right! It wont work if you 2 we're trying to change yourselves or each other.
2007-04-16 01:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who constantly tried to change my ways, when I did he still wasn't happy & wondered what happened to the "old" me the he used to love. People like that are never satisfied, be true to yourself.
2007-04-16 01:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by nadnerb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Core values - no, don't even try to change them. Habits - sure, all of them are subject to being reconsidered. Don't give up parts of yourslef, you will be not you anymore. Only change what you want to change in yourself.
2007-04-16 01:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who is in love with YOU, and loves everything about YOU, ESPECIALLY flaws! Don't change for a man...you think you are doing the relationship a favor, you're not.
2007-04-16 01:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by cdani425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you feel the need to, without starting feeling bad about yourself, and the other person is still comfortable with.
2007-04-16 01:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋