I have a guy at work who knows that I will help him when he gets behind. As time passes he gets further and further behind knowing that I will come in and take up the slack as a good employee. He and the boss are "buddies", the boss just comments how funny it is that he's lazy and laughs it off. What I have struggled with is is what to do here. The Bible says we should work as onto the Lord. The obvious answer is to stop helping as much or confront him about it. I was thinking though if Jesus was standing right there instead of my supervisor....I would probably just not complain and go do the work anyway! What's your advice?
2007-04-15 18:02:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
LOL no he's not overworked at all. We recently switched jobs..when I did the job he is doing now I was helping him keep up. We switched jobs so he would have less work yet still he will not work. he reads the paper, talks on the phone, etc etc
2007-04-15 18:12:54 · update #1
You answered your own question. What would you do if Jesus was standing there watching?
2007-04-15 18:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Augustine 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a hard one. Depends on many factors. I guess you could give him a warning and then when he gets behind, as long as you have warned him, don't help. I would start will a small project that wasn't a life and death issue. Then be consistent. Don't help one time and not the next and then help the next. You are going to help break him of a bad habit. If he went to work somewhere else his poor habits will be his downfall. So in a sense you are really helping him. It is like an alcoholic and a well meaning person who "enables" the behavior by coming along and bailing them out. It is for his best interest that you stop. But warn him that you will do just that the next time. And stick with it, no matter how much he begs and manipulates you.
PS. Just read the rest of your post. Don't be a doormat. You are not doing him a service, the company a service or God. There is a difference between going the extra mile and being a smuck. Do not enable this man. Tough love, that is what you must do.
2007-04-15 18:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to not get slapped upside the head every day by this guy, if you know what I mean. This guy is taking advantage of you. I don't think Jesus would approve, do you? It is good that you are helping this guy, but when does it end? He needs to learn a lesson. You helping him is not helping him, get it?
Do not ever let someone continually, and I would even go so far as to say maliciously, take advantage of your good will. You are not to be a door mat for anyone, at any time.
I wonder if your boss will be laughing when missed deadlines and lost revenues are the result of his "buddies" laziness and contemptible attitude. Whatever the result, it should not be your concern, as you have done what you were to do as a faithful servant of the Lord.
2007-04-15 18:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be very difficult for you to have to deal with a lazy and abusive co-worker. I am also sure you have seen the scriptures about walking two miles instead of one. I doesn't make it any easier. I think it all comes down to your attitude. If you take up the slack with a bad attitude, you might as well not help him. Are you helping him out of a sense of obligation or to get noticed by your boss? then that is the wrong attitude. Jesus wants us to work as unto the lord but also to show His love and compassion to those who would spitefully use you. Pray for the guy. Help him with a cheerful heart because your father in heaven sees and will reward you. I am praying for you as well. Blessings...
2007-04-15 18:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask for a raise and book your holidays. Keep your job search quiet from your coworkers as well as your employer.
I would like to point out that if you have enough time to complete your own work and help another worker finish theirs you are not busy enough.
You are likely slated for downsizing while the employee asking for help is likely regarded as being overworked, very busy, struggling under a heavy workload. While you a regarded as slacking with spare time on your hands. The *lazy* one then seems more important to the company than you are.
2007-04-15 18:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by U-98 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could certainly say something if you felt it would be in good fellowship, but as an employer, I think you are better off to set expectations that will get the result you need and don't rely on someone else to have the same ethics as you. If you set defined expectations that have negative results if they aren't met, people will either do what they are being paid to do, or you have a justified reason for ultimately letting them go. It's that easy.
2007-04-15 18:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by rndyh77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 02:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with "sparkle1" she hit the nail right on the head..
GOOD WORK "Sparkle1"
People (even Christians) don't understand that to be a Christian does not mean to be taken advantage of.
Go back and re-study what Jesus was like...He took nothing off of no body..
He confronted with words (even tipped a few tables)..
The only thing we as Christians should not do is to Physically fight back if our faith is challenged.
2007-04-15 19:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rev R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are actually working as to the Lord, you will finish your own work and go to the boss and ask him if there is anything else you can do for him. Remember that the wise virgins did not share oil with the foolish virgins but rather told them to go and buy more. They were not going to risk running out themselves and being unable to attend the marriage feast.
2007-04-15 18:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've got a heart that seeks to please the Lord in everything you do...that is wonderful. Having said that tell the guy that your not going to wipe his butt anymore and let your boss deal with him. If not I would ask to Lord to open a new door for you in the career line! God Bless!!
2007-04-15 18:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by morningstar_gazer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries. You would be a much better person if you told him up front that you really can't do that any more. The idea is to help him become more mature in his attitude, more professional. If he needs to face the consequence then so be it. I would really suggest that you let him "own" his own work. It will be better for all involved.
JoMo
2007-04-15 18:10:12 · answer #11 · answered by JoMo Rising 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋