My boyfriend is addicted to a video game. I come home from work before he does and as soon as he gets home he turns on his 2 TVs and 2 ps2s. He plays two TVs at one time.
He stays up playing until he falls asleep.He even plays for a hour or two before he goes to work. He doesnt do anything around the house. Or even leave the house at all.
We havent done anything together in weeks. I had no idea he was this addicted to the game until recent when I moved in with him. Since I moved in he no longer does anything but play this game.
I dont fuss because I want to love him for who he is...but its hurting our relationship. He tells me he loves me but this game is hurting our relationship. I go out without him and he gets mad. But yet he wont go anywhere with me.
What should I do?
2007-04-15 18:01:00 · 28 answers · asked by Navulam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to add..he dont leave the game at all on the weekend. He stays in his boxers all day and night playing his game.
2007-04-15 18:02:08 · update #1
he has been playing this game for 3 years but recently since I moved in plays all the time. I am guessing because I am there all the time so he thinks he dont have to do anything with me.
He plays everquest on ps2.
2007-04-15 18:11:14 · update #2
get used to it hes not gonna change... if yu wanna be happy together your gonna learn to like the video games too
2007-04-15 18:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by jujubeee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1) Maybe you could find a new hobby to do together? It would distract him from the video games and you two could get closer! :) 2) Invite him out more often with some mates so hes not stuck inside all day 3) If these dont work tell him straight you wish hed play less video games or u want him to spend more time with you. Just talk it throught gently with him 4) Ask yourself...Who does he love the most, you or the video games? 5) if all else fails, arrange a sneak attack on the xbox, so it 'accidently breaks' then hell have to stop playing ! Hope these ideas help and good luck :) xx
2016-04-01 03:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, playing video games is one thing. Playing video games on two tv's with two ps2's?? That's ridiculous!!
Look, you need to tell him how you feel. Tell him that even though he may enjoy playing video games, tell him you feel it's hurting your relationship because, well, there really ISN'T a relationship that is growing. He needs to understand that it's fine that he has his own form of entertainment once in awhile, but you'd like him to be able to be a boyfriend. Ask him if hes willing to throw his whole life away with you for a video game?
All in all, let him know how you feel, but don't go barging in there making it sound like its his fault, don't make any unnecessary accusations. Just let him know what your going through.
2007-04-15 18:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by sum1_keeps_taking_my_name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, find another place to live, in the event this does not work out. You need to confront him about this addiction and tell him that this is seriously damaging your relationship. Also, you need to up the ante and tell him that are going to leave if he does not spend some time with you and try to solve this problem. Video game addiction can be as serious as a drug addiction. Suggest that he find some professional help and tell him that you are willing to support him in this process. If he is unwilling to get help or compromise and spend more time with you, the choice is clear, you leave.
2007-04-15 18:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, let him know it's a problem for you. You say you don't want to fuss, but if you are having a crap relationship and it's all about this video game, what's more important? Start communicating. If he gets the message, he'll stop. If he doesn't....
First, sell both PS2's. No man should have 2 PS2's for himself. If one is yours, take it back.
Next, BURN THE VIDEO GAME TO A CRISP. Show him that it is ruining his relationship!
If he doesn't give in, go to an extreme. Take away all his electronics or something that shows ultimatum. If he really cares more about a video game than you, I pity him. If he cares more about a video game than you, ditch him. If he's hurting you and you've tried every door, it's the only option.
Again, just talk to him. TELL HIM IT'S A PROBLEM. It is far more valuable to hurt his feelings once to save your relationship than to lose this relationship. Good luck girl!
2007-04-15 18:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Nigel 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe you should let him know that playing this video game 24/7 is hurting you guys' relationship. Just let him know how you feel & if you all's love is really strong, he shouldn't have a problem with putting the game down to spend a few hours with you. Good luck!
2007-04-15 18:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that you moved in he might be thinking that he is spending all that time with you. You're in the room at all that time he's playing games, right? Wrong. Tell him about it. Addictions is like the 3rd person in the relationship - you are sharing him with his addiction, whatever it may be. Tell him that (a) he is clearly addicted (b) it's gotta change. Because you're in love with him, whole person, not with his back.
2007-04-15 18:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that does he want a relationship with the tv or u? He is not appreciating what he has and thats sad quality time is so important he needs to realise that or it will be too late one day when he looks up from the tv and u might not be there
2007-04-15 18:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear something skimpy and walk in front of the tv. If he does what most normal men would do then you know how to continue from then on. If he continues to play the video game, then you (him as well) have some serious talking to do.
2007-04-15 18:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unplug the tv for a night.
put up a fuss, seriously.
loving him for who he is is a nice thought, but if the game gets more attention than you do... If he isn't going to put forth any effort to be with you, and actually be the man you thought he was, find someone better for yourself and who has a future other than an unpaid game player.
2007-04-15 18:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mmm...i know someone with the same problem and they said if they don't stop play some much their going to leave ...so they made like a time line..on these days and times they can play games or do anything they want but on these days and times they have to do what you want....it might work or not...good luck
2007-04-15 18:11:39 · answer #11 · answered by Empty_Glass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋