well. My bf is very attached and i'm attached to him as well. I just know i'm defenately not ready to settle down yet! i see so many attractive men who have great personalities and i can't help but feel attracted to them .. (i do think my bf is attractive too and i do love him so i'd never cheat on him)
Is it normal after awhile to be afraid of commitment? i don't know if i'm ready to settle down, i'm only 19 and he's talking about marriage and kids... i do want to be with him, he is special to me but i hate finding someone who feels like "the one" at such a young age. Now don't get me wrong, i DO love him a lot. I'm not unhappy but i can't get rid of these feelings...
2007-04-15 17:49:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, you didn't mention your bf's age. By the way, there's no harm of finding yourself attracted to other men. It's normal. The happy things is you know that the one you really love is your bf.
The best thing to do is to talk to him. Assure him that he's safe in your heart. Try to explain as clearly as possible the reasons why you aren't ready yet for such commitment. Tell him you're too young and it will be unfair if you'll splunge into that deep relationship not prepared yet.
If he really loves you, he'll understand.
Goodluck.
2007-04-15 17:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't get rid of these feelings, you just have to deal with them. I think it is very normal to be afraid of commitment, especially at 19. There are so many other things and other people in the world. With some of these other men, become friends and get to know them, there need not be anything romantic or sexual in a relationship for it to be rewarding. I would maybe be honest with your boyfriend and tell him that you do love him a lot but am not sure you want to get married or have kids right now in your life.
2007-04-15 17:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in almost the exact same situation last year. I had been dating a girl for about three years when I decided that I'm 19 and had spent the best years of high school and the first year of college attached to one girl. So we broke up. It hurt for a while, but I was glad to be able to do a lot of things with my friends and date different girls.
Sure my ex and I might get together again one day, but for now I'm trying to live life to the fullest.
Hope that helps.
2007-04-15 17:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by titansfan2490 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No physical stuff, right? If so, Stop NOW! It's time for a chill pill. Don't bring children into the equation until AFTER marriage. If you're playing, you could be paying.
You're cheating on him in your relationship if you're checking out other guys. You're not ready for commitment.
Get out on your own; support yourself, grow adult in mind and attitude. Take time to extend your education. If he can't wait then he can't. Don't let yourself be pressured into a half-hearted commitment. Make sure that that you can support yourself and any children that result from Any relationship.
2007-04-15 18:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by sharing_s_caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. Tell him that you're not ready to even think in that direction. You don't have to commit if you're not ready and he needs to know that from you.
You are totally normal to be afraid of commitment at this point. This fear is not something new BTW, I bet you weren't thinking of commitment the first day you've met him, but as relationship developed to this stage you realized that this is the question in the air, and you're not ready to answer it yet.
2007-04-15 17:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Has he been in a long term relationship or married before? Your young don't hurry things sweetie, don't limit yourself to just one man either, there is a whole world out there for you. When it is "right" you will want those kids & marriage. Listen to that quiet inner voice to guide you. Don't be pushed.
2007-04-15 17:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 19, how old is your boyfriend?
he also seems way too young to be even thinking of marriage and having a family. doesn't he know things are getting harder for people to survive without at least college education, and with the environment, people should be more useful and discover their true purpose, instead of just breeding more useless humans who waste energy, and resources of this planet
2007-04-15 17:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him, before things get too deep. you are young, so it's not bad that you are feeling that way, but if he is ready to settle down, you don't want to drag things out, even if you do love him.
2007-04-15 17:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you DO love him you wouldnt even look at other men , so , reconsider you emotions thorouly and try to make some sort of decision so that you dont get stuck with the wrong person
2007-04-15 17:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by should i ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being healthy to wait until you are older!
He's holding on too tightly!
Listen to your common sense & wait! If he really is in
love with you,he'll wait to,because it only makes the
best sense at your ages right now.
2007-04-15 17:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by babyd0ll621 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋