Where can a woman today find single men with old-fashioned values?

Question

Among other things, I'm looking for a man who:

- Believes in honesty, hard work, and keeping one's word as being vitally important in and of themselves.

- Drinks very little or not at all.

- Believes in waiting for sex until after marriage.

I'm a spiritual person, but I don't believe in a specific sect, and I have a hard time with churches who claim to have exclusive possession of "the real truth". Therefore, I don't attend church, and I'm not tied to finding someone of any specific religion.

My question is - where can I find a man who shares my general value system? I'm twenty-four years old, and it's proving incredibly difficult to find potential relationships. Most men today (and women, for that matter) simply have a drastically different set of ethics than I do.

I'm open to all suggestions: specific websites, specific locations, general types of locations, churches I might not have considered . . . anything.

I live in New York City.

Answer 1

I share your values, but am not single.

I also have a hard time with any church that claims to be "the church". I don't normally go to church either. However, one thing that I have realized is that there is no perfect church. Spirituality can be perfect, but religion is man-made and is imperfect - obviously.

I would recommend to you that you find an open minded church and just show up a few Sundays. You don't have to join, just show up and meet people and listen to what they are preaching about. You don't have to agree with everything. You can just listen to the message and take what you will from it. And trust me, I am not trying to trick you into going to church cause I don't even go. I just think this is where you will find what you are looking for and maybe even someone open minded enough to discuss your spirituality and your issues with specific sects. Maybe you could even find a church to do the same.

I know people like whom you are looking for and the majority of them are in church on Sunday.

New York City really can't be helping you either. You really need to look south or west to find a man raised in the country with these type of values.

I would assume you've already gone through match.com and others... If not, try it... Maybe... or craigslist.org. - this one is free.

Answer 2

As far as dating goes it doesn't really matter but for marriage, old fashion is the only viable option. I know that there are many women that believe that pop culture and the media dictates what men find attractive but the truth is, what most men find attractive hasn't changed much over the past few hundred years. When given a choice, most men that can afford it, will choose a traditional woman. One of the biggest problems though it that the standard of living has decreased over the decades. In the 50's it was possible for a man to own a home and support his wife and kids with a single paycheck. Now days, some people have to work 2 jobs just to support themselves.

Answer 3

- Believes in honesty, hard work, and keeping one's word as being vitally important in and of themselves.

- I very much believe in that.

- Drinks very little or not at all.

- I drink about 1 maybe 2 times a week.

- Believes in waiting for sex until after marriage.

- Humm, lol not sure. depends on the person. But I could imagine some women are worth waiting for.

Well I don't know where to find people like you described but I once heard just be yourself and don't actually go looking for a mate, because the sooner or later you'll find the right person. It all takes time.

Answer 4

As a former New Yorker, I can appreciate your problem though when I was 24 I don't remember your problem to be a common one.

When I was 24 I did not have any issues being single in fact I wanted to be single cause I was in college at the time and then I left NY at 25

However,if you would like to discuss this further,
I know I would, and I could prob give you some ideas just find me & send me an e-mail
>CK

Answer 5

honey I know dozens of guys like that. And sorry but I do go to a church (however many churches don't properly represent Jesus and that should either change there 'title' or change there behavior if you ask me. So I can kinda see your side of being pissed off at some church go'ers).

and all those guys I know all want a girl who is right with God, and as Jesus Christ said, "I am the way the truth and the life, no one gets to the Father (ie:God) but by me."

find a good church, there is plenty.

-from a girl who's blessed, in more ways than one.

Answer 6

- Believes in honesty, hard work, and keeping one's word as being vitally important in and of themselves.
That's ALL ME.

- Drinks very little or not at all.
Dry as a bone.

- Believes in waiting for sex until after marriage.
Why do it otherwise?

-I'm not tied to finding someone of any specific religion.
I do, but I like to think as logically as much as the NEXT person. Does my religion have the Ultimate Answer? I don't know, but I like to think it does.

-where can I find a man who shares my general value system?
Would you believe the drug/sex/rock-n-roll-obssessed state of southern California?

-I live in New York City.
Of course you do. EVERY young woman who is searching for ME in her life lives clear across the country. :S

Answer 7

This is a difficult question-I was going to suggest church but you tried that-Have you tried another church or maybe a singles club-these guys are out there but hard to find. Have you tried civic group or newspaper articles which are loading with information on this topic. Happy hunting.

Answer 8

church sounds like your answer. That and prayer. The apostle paul says that it would be good if you were to stay as I am (single). He was saying that so that he could devote his time to God. But he went on to say if you cannot stand to be single then it would be better to marry then to burn. I would suggest a fast and pray for a time period that God lays on your heart. Meditate on God's word find what his true call for your life really is. A particular scripture will come in this time of focus towards God and regenerating your mind on the washing water of his word. Look for the meaning behind that scripture or scriptures and proceed as the Lord would want. But with out a pastor that you trust to give you guidance on what you find in your meditation time because you will need someone to confirm what the lord has said to you. The Prophet Sammuel's mother was looking for God to give her a son (her womb was barren) and she fasted and prayed in the temple and the clergyman said so be it done according to your faith I believe was his response. She later had Sammuel who Annointed King David King of Israel King David's Lineage brought forth Jesus. Pray seek God. You will find what God has instore for your life.

Answer 9

You sound kind if desperate. That could be bad for you. Slow down and let it happen. Stop trying so hard to make it happen. you're only twenty four, and there's plenty of time. Believe me there are a lot worse things than biding your time.

Answer 10

I am going to say what I always say to ppl who ask this question all the time maybe not in the same words but similar.

You dont find love, love finds you. A friend of mine once said that ppl search for love in the wrong places,search for advice from the wrong faces but we need to search where love is the only possibility??? So... what do you think?