how do i gain it back? he says the only way that he will for sure stay with me is if the baby is his. other than that he says i have to gain the trust back....... any men out there tell me how to do this?? anyone plz give me some suggestions.
2007-04-15 17:41:27 · 5 answers · asked by kassie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i AM NOT cheating n diz person was supposed to be my best friend thats telling him.
2007-04-15 18:09:16 · update #1
You said "a lot" of people are telling him about your cheating? I am going to assume you ARE cheating based on that statement. That being the case, why do you care? You obviously don't care about him. I suspect you are just looking for a meal ticket at the expense of this guy. The DNA is just what he will need to send you on down the road.
2007-04-15 17:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , the way i see it is either you are cheating on him, or making it look as if you are by being way to friendly and flirty with other guys, or Hes looking for a way out. If I were you Id break up with him. Tell him if he cant trust you then he doesnt really love you and you need to move on to someone who will trust you. And dont give in untill he comes crying back. If he sees someone else during this time then he was planning to all the long. If he pushes it off on you and says its because you want to find someone else just ignore it untill he apoligizes and begs for you to come back to him. dont give an inch if hes being angry and abusive and blaming you. best to just wait and see what happens. if hes gone hes gone and it means he was leaving anyway, better sooner than later. you should already have his trust, if he loves you then there is no question and whomever is telling him crap should be walking around with a black eye. Dont give him the upper hand by letting him treat you like that. What hes doing is abusive and mean. So take it away from him. Swallow hard, cross your fingers, and break it off with him untill he grows up.
2007-04-16 01:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by bigdee_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He believes you have been cheating just because he's heard this from his "friends"? If you have not cheated, then the trust should not be lost. You don't need to earn something back that you didn't lose.
I would be offended by his accusations, and hurt. He could pay for tests to be done to prove parenthood. Do you really love this person? Does he always accuse you of things?
Put him on the spot. Is he accusing you of cheating just to cover up his guilt for something? All just things to consider. I hope you don't allow yourself to think it's okay for him to bully you. You deserve better than that!!!
2007-04-16 00:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by BigRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you never had it to begin with if he is believing all these other rumors about you. Get rid of this guy, he isn't worth your time. The line "you have to gain my trust back" is an automatic get the hell out of there red flag. I would venture to say this guy is controlling and manipulative or will become that way in the future.
2007-04-16 00:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Left your boyfriend and be my gurl.
2007-04-16 00:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Raoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋