If your daughter was 14 and 7 months would you let her date a guy 18?

Question

SHe and him have been friends for about 7 years, OUr familys are very good friends, he even works for my husband. DO oyu see any reason not to let them date? i will take any answer this is going up against her father

I would like to mention that they are both extremly strong christains and that him pressuring her to have sex is no problem you can tell by the way he treats her that he geneulenly cares and that there is no pressure to have sex at all.

I'm not saying just because they are christans that theres no sex drive i did want to say it before but my daughters been raped and he gets that and doesnt want to get involed like that until marriage.

Answer 1

No, guys at that age think about one thing, they tend not to be about commitment and there hormones drive most of the actions they do. Your daughter is still very young and impressionable, she could be quite strong willed and resist the urge to sleep with him but do you want to gamble with the odds?

Answer 2

Dont think so, just for the fact their ages are so far appart. And although he may say he has no expectations from her sexually im sure in a few years when shes still only 16 and hes 20 he will have a problem. Even mentally i think he could either make her grow up too fast or he might never grow up!!! At 14 you should be hanging with your friends and whispering about the cute boys at your school. Not getting into a serious relationship which, if anything were to go wrong, would be very awkward concidering your familys are so close. Although saying this, you know your daughter and the guy better than me so if you feel they could do it. Then thats your decision.

Answer 3

I have a daughter 13 and there is no way I would let her date an 18 year old even a year from now.. 18 is a legal adult and it seems to me that if they have been ok as friends for 7 years that they should be able to continue to friends, he is 18 and will be interested in sex is the only reason he would want to now start dating her rather than remaining just friends..
I see it as trouble waiting to happen.. no matter how good a young man he is..

ok he is a good christian .. so why can he not wait to "date" your daughter?.. another thing to consider is if you do let them date and they break up.. there will be issues between the families and their friendship not to mention the work situation with your husband..

Just really not a good idea

Answer 4

HI, I'm 17 and my bf is 22. Its a 5 year age difference and my parents are comfortable about us being together. I think the important part is communication. You said they have been friends for 7 years and that your families are good friends, so you obviously know what kind of guy he is. The only reason I can see that they shouldn't date would be sex, if you think that he is only trying to be her bf so that he can get some, then I wouldn't let them date. But if he genuinely cares about her, I really don't see any problem. As the parent you have to be the judge of character here, trust your gut. If you don't feel that its right, then don't allow it. She will probably be mad but just because their not a couple doesn't mean they have to stop being friends.

Answer 5

En Oh.
NO!
I know a girl who got pregnant to an older guy.
And now she seems as miserable as anything whenever I see her.
She was even like that when she just began going out with him.
1 day b4 she got asked out she was happy as a clam.
U do the math.
Bsides, if I cant stand a 15 yo and im 17 what makes the girl think that the guy will stand her for too long.
She would not be mature enough for him and he will eventually dump her.
I say prevent em getting 2gether and save the young lady from alot of emotional distraught.

Answer 6

My question is why would an 18 year old want to date a 14 year old?

They're at completely different points in life, he's working, probably going to school, can drive. While she's still a child, can't get a drivers permit or work.

But if you really feel like letting them because they're family friends do in house dating. One of my friends had to do this (she was 15 he was 18) until she was 16. He can come over to your house and they can hang out there, upstairs or whatever, but no car dates until she's older. If he's serious about her, he'll do it because it's not an unreasonable request since technically it's illegal for them to date. Plus it keeps your daugther out of sticky situations.

Answer 7

I would not allow my daughter lol, regardless of the 7 months, becuz i would look at her birth certificate everyday that would say she was 14.

The difference between them being 18 and 22 and her being 14 and 18 is because she is under age. She's barely hitting High School, he's suppose to have his life together, when she's only in the preperation of it. If anything was to happen between them, regardless of their beliefs, I would be held responsible for her. Statutory rape...lol how could I forget that...uhh lets see here..its illegal, there's something wrong with him if he is into a 14 year old, and 4 years is big.

that 's 4 years of College, High School, Jobs, careers, life, and daughter's life. I see this relationship like i see underage drinking. A 14 year old drinking is damaging.

Answer 8

Hell no.Don't even think about letting her date him.I was 15 when i met my kids dad and i thought i knew him well but i was wrong,i was with him for over 10 years and he wasn't all what he was cracked up to be.His mum is very shocked for how he is now and she has even told me that he is not the guy she thought he was he mentally abused me physically abuse me, i am no longer with him but me life is still hell because he won't leave me alone.Please don't let you daughter date until she is at least 18 i don't want her to go through anything like this and besides she is just too young,she should be thinking about her school and studying nit thinking about dating any guy that is 4 years older then her.And no i would not not let my daughter date at 14,my daughter is 10 and i have told her that she can't date any guy till she has finished school.

Answer 9

I dont think so. A 14 year old doesnt have the maturity level to handle a relationship. Especially not with an adult. She should focus on school and friendships and not intimate relationships. I mean after this 18 year old male may want to have sex with your daughter...after all he is an adult, and that would be against the law.

Answer 10

That's great that you've know his family and him for many years. But your daughter is 14 1/2yrs old....even at 15 that is way too young to be dating* an 18yr old who is now an adult* He should be with someone his own age. This is outragious that you would have to even think about it... IF she is still interested when she is 18 and IF he's still interested when he will be 21.....then talk about it again..but for now........my answer would be Definately do not allow them to date*