Well after we broke up...he went out with alot of girls....but now he wants to get back with me and I dont know if i should knowing he went out with all of those girls....and i really like him stilll but theres another problem one of my best friends does too. I dont know what to do..do you have any advice for me?
2007-04-15 15:07:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You broke up. He tried to move on with his life by going out with a variety of different girls. He decides you are the one he truly wants. If you still like him and the reasons you broke up were not because of violence and/or cheating--its ok for you to go back to him. Don't worry about one of your best friends she knows you had him first and he wants you back, you want him back. She should be happy for you and move on because if she lives by the good friend unspoken code she would never consider actually going out with him for real. You don't date your friends ex.
2007-04-15 15:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by mom_of_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he was YOUR boyfriend to begin with so you have firste dibs on him over your girlfriend. You need to let her know soon that the two of you may get back together before she falls too deeply for him.
It's up to you to decide whether you want him back or not.
Maybe you should give it another try and see how it goes this time.
Now that he has dated other girls, he realizes just how much in love with you he really is. If you feel the same way, then I think you should get back together.
Your girlfriend should have had the foresight to see the possibility of the two of you getting back together because it happens so often. She is really being a little out of line by stepping into your private relationship and trying to nab your ex boyfriend.
That's always a bad idea because couples get back together all the time. Don't worry about her feelings. She sure as heck wasn't thinking about yours when she dove right in, claiming she was interested in your ex. Very dumb.
Follow your heart.
2007-04-15 22:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends who broke up with who. And obviously after breaking up with someone, they'd want to go out with a bunch of girls. And maybe there's a reason why he wants to get back with you. Since your best friend likes him, and so do you, you should let the guy make the decision. And it's probably better to not get with the guy at all because it will cause problems with your friendship, and also might leave you confused. And if you really like him, then tell your best friend that, so she understands. It's probably best to let time go by, and wait to see what will happen.
2007-04-15 22:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Clara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i am a guy and i am saying this. it is a terriable idea. i have went out with about 3 or 4 of my exs more than once. if it didn't work out the first time it won't the secound. the guy is just going throught a phase where he misses old memories and will be over it and u in a short amount of time. this may sound wrong but if u email me. i want to ask u a few questions and i promise i will be able to answer ur question alot better. u prob. know what kind of question i am asking ( they are a little personal and if u don't want to answer idk i am just saying guys are horny and if that is the case then don't go back out with him for sure).
2007-04-15 22:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Caleb The Great 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself,why did the 2 of you break up in the first place.Whatever you do don't let your heart decide you really have to think about this.I took a ex back and we only lasted for a few months because all the girls he was with when we were not together ended up with him again.Just think long and hard about it and think of why you guys broke up in the place.
2007-04-15 22:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by happy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, going back with an ex is not a good idea. There was a reason that you broke up in the first place. Usually that reason doesn't magically disappear. if you made a mistake the first time, why repeat it again?
2007-04-15 22:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....a friend is not a friend if she goes out with your ex!! Thats a no no!!!! A major one!!! And maybe the reason why he went with all those other females is because he was trying to fill the void that he had when he lost you. Maybe. Just ask him...why? And it doesnt hurt to go back with him. If he sounds true.
2007-04-15 22:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by hotdnc.princessbabie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart but use your mind. Figure out why you guys left eachother in the first place and then put into account all of his fooling around. Think about it this way if you are having second thoughts you probably shouldn't do it.
2007-04-15 22:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by amasmomma05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sounds like the kinda thing that happened to me. i took a chance with my guy and i'm kinda happy. if you go back out with him just be carefull. things are going to be different. if your friend likes him too then maybe the 2 of you should sit down and talk about the reasons you both like him. if after the talk it seems that you like him more then go for it. if your friend is really your friend then she shouldn't get mad at you for it.
2007-04-15 22:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by baconbitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't really let him being with all those girls be an issue. Frankly it is more of a worry if he has only been with one, as obviously she really meant something to him. Sounds to me like he has been looking for something and maybe he has realised what he has lost with you, and wants it back.
2007-04-15 22:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lineya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋