my step mom made me cry?

Question

okay. my step mom is always getting on me to eat more and i eat alot it just dosnt show on me and today she broke me down and made me cry she said :shes like have u ever looked at ur self and compared ur self to other girls look at ur arms and face ur to skinny ur like anerxic and said thats y no boys like me and she like don't get mad im telling u nicely. and it broke my heart i no im a little skinny but not to anerxic i just hurt me bad how do i make my self FATTER to live up to my step moms standards.
im sick of crying. she does this alot at dinner she will yell at me if i dont lick my plate clean but tonight it made me cry.

Answer 1

It sounds like your stepmom is the one with problems, not you. It's ok to be skinny, it just means that you have a really high metabolism. That's a good thing. It's not wrong to be skinny. I suggest that you stop listening to your stepmom. Whenever she starts on you about your diet, just ignore her and eat what makes you feel full. it doesn't necessarily have to be everything on the plate, just so long as you feel nourished and energized.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about that.
I'm sure you just have a fast metoblasim. Talk to your stepmom (or write her a note) and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are not trying to starve yourself or anything and can't always wipe your plate clean because you get full. Set the note somewhere or talk to her when she's in a little bit better of a mood.
In the meantime, calm yourself down. Listen to some soft music, write, paint, draw-do whatever you like to do. Dry your tears and splash some water on your face, ok? Take some deep breaths too. Feel free to tell anybody at school about this problem if you want to. Or vent to the friends you feel you can trust and that will understand you.
Keep your chin up!! :)

Answer 3

First of all......... YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE UP TO ANYBODY elses STANDARDS. You have to live for urself and love for urself. it's ur body. If you are comfortable the way u r and u look, why bother. Some girls are big, some small, Some fat, some slim........ the point is ALL ARE NOT THE SAME.

Now abt boys...... Things will happen when it has to happen.
And seriously u dont have to lick a plate clean. But if YOU want to gain some weight....... carry on with a proper diet, eat on time and regular meals. See to that you dont over eat to make anybody else happy.

STAY FIT & TAKE CARE.

Answer 4

Shame on her/. Is your step mom fat? if she is, she is most likely jealous of you. I bet your adorable. Just be who you are please. You do not have to be a pig a the table to impress her. As long as you are eating what you require then you are exactly how you are meant to be. So, next time she calls you skinny or ugly or not worth a boys interest, just smile and know that she is only putting you down to feel better about her failings as a person or step parent. I am a step mom and I would never tell my step daughters they were anything but perfect! So, you go and be just your perfect LITTLE self. No more tears.
Love,
Tracylyn S
A Step Mom too

Answer 5

sorry to hear you are going through this.

first of all please make sure you are eating enough to keep up your energy level and to feed your brain -- it's very hard on the brain if we don't eat properly.

your step mom is probably concerned for you, although i agree, the badgering is a little rediculous. perhaps at the dinner table, fix your own plate, and take portions you can easily eat.

some people are naturally thin, and you possibly fit into this category?

you said you're "not too anorexic". are you anorexic? you can't be just a little anorexic. you either are or you are not.

if you are having issues with eating, there are many websites on anorexia, and you can look them up to see if you need some help. anorexia is a disorder which can lead to serious physical consequences if not treated.

meanwhile, ask your step mom and dad to sit down and talk with you. let them know how you are FEELING... they won't know until you tell them, hon.

take good care of you.

Answer 6

Well take it from an overweight girl--if you are thin and healthy, stay that way! She surely must be jealous. Her rantings do not sound like those of a concerned parent. I too had a step mom who like berating me when I was younger. (As an adult, she is now kind and generous, because she is no longer subsconciously threatened by my relationship with my dad.) Just ignore it while you are under her supervision. When she puts you down like this, it is because she has her own low self esteem issues. Just repeat to her firmly that you eat well and are healthy (make sure you do eat a healthy balanced diet) and you have good genes, and that you would like to stay thin and healthy so you can live longer, and you are not concerned about what other people think, especially teenage boys and girls.

Answer 7

:-(

Sorry!!..

You need to talk to the Dr. Only the Dr. can let you know if you are too skinny or unhealthy. Where is your dad when all this nonsense is going on? I'm sure step-mom is concerned and it seems she is not too good in the communicating area. Don't let her stress you out. Are you eating healthy foods and when you are supposed to?

Is there a Dad, grandmother, mother, older sister or brother? Some one you can talk to? To let them know how you are feeling and step-mom is making you cry. Please don't cry. I'm sure you are a beautiful healthy girl. Some times people say stupid things cause they don't know any better.

Don't cry!!.. Don't worry about the boys either.

Talk to the one person you trust with all your heart. Let that person know how you feel and have them take you to the Dr. Try to talk to your dad first, alone.

Good luck sweetie!!


***Some of these step-moms piss me off******

Answer 8

Don't worry about making yourself fatter.Everyone's body chemistry is different and you're likely meant to be small.
As long as you're healthy is the main thing.
Maybe try having a private talk with your dad and explain to him how you feel and that you were hurt by the way your stepmom spoke to you.Tell him that you can only eat so much and you can't stuff yourself with food to please her.That's not healthy either and will make you sick.
Then maybe the three of you could sit down and talk about it together.Overeating is no good for you and it should be a simple thing to get straightened out.

Answer 9

girl my mom is the same she is woried about my health she always plays the boy game where she says that no boys will like you i'm skinny not anorexic and my mom she is very nice about it just tell your dad tell him that hse keeps on telling you these mean things and you really are mad and tell her as long as i'm comfortable with my body i don't care what no body thinks and the most important thing is to be yourself you can't change who u are and there is nothing wrong with being a little skinny as long as your not to the part where your anorexic don't worry. and if she keeps on telling you after y=u said i have to be comfortable with my body then use a defense against her if she is big say then whay aren't u on a diet if she is skinny sa then u need to eat more or just tell her worry about herself good luck

Answer 10

She sounds like an idiot. Just try to ignore her as best you can. She may be acting this way because she cares, but does not show it in a caring way. You will never change her, or please her. If you eat plenty and are just naturally thin, a lot of people are gonna be jealous and mean. You have to find the strenght to be comfortable in your own skin. Everyone likes something different, you can never please all the people all the time, so at least try to please yourself. :)