Who else feel they have boring life?

Question

During weekdays, we get up, get dressed, breakfast, I drive my oldest to school, and the youngest at daycare, I go to work...
I finish work, get children from school / daycare, go home, prepare dinner, eat, prepare son's lunch for the next day, I help him with homework, prepare sons to go to bed, put sons to bed, do some laundry, clean up... I then go to bed myself at around 23h00.
Same routine all weekdays, all year long.

Anyone else the same?
I am a single mom. I love my sons, I'd die for them... still I feel like my life has no meaning.
When possible to go out, I just feel like staying in my comfy home and sleep.

Answer 1

Look at it this way-you may feel boring but to your sons, you are everything. Seriously, even though they themselves may not even realize it, you are their sun and moon. Those everyday mundane things you do are crucial to their well-being.

Try to find meaning in the little things-a good laugh, a good sandwich, a good friend.

FInally, make some time for yourself. You need a babysitter and a hobby to get out and do once or twice a week. This is YOUR time and it is important to have it.

Best-

Answer 2

I'm a married mom, and I'm tellin ya, it's that way all over. I have two funny, amazing, interesting kids, but when your day is ruled by routine, it's easy to get into the habit so much that you really can't recall one individual day that stands out.

It's okay to have those feelings. It doesn't make you a bad mom because you feel like even though you have your kids, something is lacking. That's the nature of parenting young children. You just (temporarily) lose your sense of self.

Two things have helped me with this.

First, I've developed some hobbies that have nothing to do with my kids. This doesn't mean I'm off doing something while they are unattended, it just means that for a little while each week, I try to fit in some time for something I enjoy. Kind of makes the cleaning and cooking and storytime and baths and everything more tolerable.

Also, I've started blogging. I'm telling you, if you regularly record the things that you've thought, or that have happened, things your kids have said or done, you can look back and see how wrong you are: the "meaning" in your life shines through when you aren't living it day-to-day. For example, I have one child with some speech delays. He started preschool about a year ago, and recently it really was bothering me that "he wasn't any better." Then, I read some blogs from about a year ago, and watched some videos, and looked at some pictures, and OH MY GOSH!!! My baby's growing up!!! It was then, when I looked at the whole year in review, that I was actually able to see what all the routine does for the kids, and how important all the little day-to-day habits and activities are.

Your life is definately not without meaning. You are charged with the VERY important task of preparing two human beings for adulthood, and everything that comes with it. That is a frikkin huge job!! If you focus on it too much, it can be completely overwhelming, and I think the boring life is actually a kind of defense mechanism. It allows us to live one day at a time, teaching what we need to, learning what we need to, and giving our kids another day of love and encouragement.

Thinking of the people in my life, the folks I have the most respect for are the ones who have lived "the boring life" for years and still are able to enjoy their lives. I know some people who have had children, and gave in to the restlessness, and I have no respect for them AT ALL because by giving in and searching for "meaning" in their lives, they've often abandoned their children, emotionally, mentally, and/or physically.

I would really suggest taking up blogging or journal writing. You'd be amazed at how eventful these boring days actually are.

Answer 3

I think everyone feels the way you do some of the time. I know that I do. Maybe we are lucky and don't know how good we have it - not having the "excitement" of wondering if we'll have food or a place to sleep or if our husband is coming home or not. You seem like a very caring Mom --- you are always there for your sons --- your life has more meaning than you know. Someday you'll get the "payoff" for this ---- happy, successful, well-adjusted sons who will make you so proud that you will know your life had meaning all along. Hang in there ---

Answer 4

This is certainly not boring! You just feel this way coz you need maybe to get out abit. You do this coz you love your sons and it is great that you are taking good care of them, and this is certainly not boring. Find out something you can do with them other that what you mention; a hobby you can all enjoy, go out to dinner once in a while with them, a friend, other family, etc. It is also clear you love your sons and your home - you can invite friends over for a barbecue, a movie, a bookclub, etc.

Also good for you to spend sometime out too with a friend, go to a movie, and get a babysitter for the evening once in a while.

I am a single mom of 2 boys, 2 girls and at times I feel that way.

Answer 5

I feel this way all the time. I am a 27 yr old stay at home mom to 2 kids. Some days I don't bother to change out of my sweatpants cause we really don't have money to be out shopping every day. I hardly have any friends left. The ones with kids still find time to party, but I feel so old and boring. I keep telling myself that when my kids are grown, I will be skinny again, and have a life again,lol.

Answer 6

Every one feels at some point in their routined lives that it's all so boring but it doesn't have to be!
Try to pick a diffrent activity each week to do. You could also find cheap and maybe free activities to do outside. Maybe a museum, park, aquarium, petting zoo, or take a sunday day trip. But you must always break it up somehow but dont forget to give yourself "you" time! Thats very important also. Even if it's a canle lit bath with a good dirt magazine and tea. Rock it out. Trust me, you'd feel so much better. Everybody gets those feelings at some point but theres always a way to break them up. Hope that helps a little.

Answer 7

well i feel the same as you do. I have 3 kids and work full time. I work at 1730 and get home sometime between 0230-0600. I take the kids to school around 0720 and pray that the 3 yr old will take a long nap around 0800. I'm here a lone and the husband goes to work all day. I don't have time for anything because I'm tring to catnap all day to get ready for my shift at the hospital and I'm taking care of AJ all morning and doing house stuff. I get the older kids home by 0315 and that is that. on my days off I sleep.....there is no life for me and I'm 40 on top of that. I think as we become parents our routine changes from partying in our single days to providing a stable inviroment for our youngsters and making sure we are here for them at a moment's notice. it's too much trouble to keep them on the go and that price of gas...yikes!!! So, I stay home,talk on the phone and answer questions on yahoo......how fun!!!

Answer 8

Well I help my wife with childcare, housework, laundry and such I also take care of the yard work, discipline my children when needed. Work on the cars when they need it or arrange that. I work 50 hours at our store, 30 hours a week for the church, I am a Minister, and spend time with my kids. I don't find my life boring but rewarding, life is what you make out of it, count it a joy you have two boys who love you and appreciate you for all you do. Ask your hubby to help out more. I know it's hard but the rewards are plenty. God Bless.

Answer 9

I am a stay at home mom of 3 kids. I sometimes feel like I am missing out on something in my boring routine. I then realize how lucky I am to be a mom and wife. I just lose sight of that sometimes. I wouldn't trade the boring moments for anything. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

i have no car no job and only get to see my hubby 1 day a week....i get up with the baby at 7, we eat we play we eat lunch take a nap(i clean) we play some omre she eats dinner at 5 takes a bath at 8 and is in bed by 10....i get thoes few min to my self for playing on line but for the moste part my conversations consist of "did you poop? do you need a diapper change?" or "lets play a game savi...what is this? is it a ball? what color is the ball?" i miss grown up conversations and doing grown up things. fot the first time in 9 months i will be going to the movies on may 14th to see shreck 3! yeah me! se you are not the only one who is boared wiht your life...i still love my baby.