i'm getting married this fall, but unlike my friends who are getting married soon too, i'm not really excited about it like them? my friends send all these group emails to me saying how excited they are, how they're doing all the shopping and cake-picking, and stuff. but i don't feel that way. when people ask me if i'm excited about getting married, i have to say no cuz i'm not? is that normal?
2007-04-15 14:16:58 · 12 answers · asked by frazzlesnap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends...is it married life you are not excited about or the actual wedding? Personally i am really excited about being married to the man i love, but i'm not excited about the wedding at all. I'm not really a party person and i hate being the centre of attention, plus the planning is so stressful and i don't really find it fun at all. But i can't wait to start a life together with my man.
If you're not excited about being married, that might be a problem. If you don't really want this, chances are it won't work out and you might not be happy while in this relationship. However if its just the wedding you're not excited about, thats perfectly fine and normal.
2007-04-15 15:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to repost the answer I left for another question on here (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Am3wDkasOKwuIo6mMAHx0DXsy6IX?qid=20070416100903AAbVtCD&show=7#profile-info-465d65cc06964944aad099a02bae0b64aa), which I think answers your question as well:
I feel your pain ;) We haven't even set a firm date yet (sometime in Spring 2008) and I'm 'over it'. Personally, eloping would be my preference but at the same time I don't want to leave out family and close friends. I'm shy about getting up in front of everyone and 'performing' and I am not exactly dying to get gussied up and make small talk while wearing heels and probably an itchy dress for hours on end. Don't mean to sound anti-romantic, I'm just very shy. I'd much rather rent out my favorite restaurant (the whole building!) and have everyone eat tasty food until they can't see straight. I have mixed feelings to say the least, because I want to provide a nice time for our guests but I'm not necessarily comfortable as the hostess/coordinator/star of the show and it doesn't help that getting a guest list (contact information) together is like pulling teeth. Know what I mean? Plus I can think of tons of practical things we could use the money for, even though they are less meaningful expenses. So yes, to answer your question. Your feelings are normal. I'm ready to fast forward to having kids and living in a warm, comfy home with a fence for our pups and maybe a little garden. Nothing wrong with that :)
2007-04-16 09:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your intended? Have you been together long? Have you had success in your families with marriages? Did you grow up with the hope dreams that most girls do about getting married? A lot of the excitement of marrying is all in the planning....and you might just be the kind of person that takes things in stride. There is nothing wrong with that - but there should be some level of excitement and joy in your heart about marrying the man of your dreams - unless.....
2007-04-15 14:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said you are just being level-headed about this.
I am getting married this fall, and honestly the wedding itself is for my fiance's and my families. I'm really not excited about the wedding...but I am excited about the marriage. It seems like no one understands why I feel this way... and it sounds like you are the same as me.
Don't worry about it. Maybe you will get more excited when the time comes, maybe not. But as long as you and your man feel the way you do, just be happy with him. :)
2007-04-15 14:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some brides get crazy, "Queen for a Day". You, on the other hand sound level headed. It's not about the party, it's about the rest of your life. Some people get hung up on petty details. I think you realize that this is important. Maybe even a little scared. If more people actually thought this out, there wouldn't be so many divorces.
2007-04-15 14:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of two things....either you are just this way and things don't excite you. Or you don't love him and shouldn't marry him.
I'm not excited either, but I do love the man. I'm just not a wedding person and I can't imagine all the planning and stuff that I'm not good at.
2007-04-15 14:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by SelfGrill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, why aren't you excited like them. Are you excited about being married? What's your relationship with your intended? Only you know the answers here.
I wish you the best
2007-04-15 15:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by jeaniesfloral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel, i got married in january , and i hated all that planning stuff, i wanted to marry my man i love my man i am just not a planner. i hated it all till the night before the wedding , when it was all pulled together and could finally relax . rope in your mom or mom inlaw , they love that crap, ask them for help on colours and flowers , cheat, i told them what i wanted and gave them the money and the jlob of running around getting it all
2007-04-15 16:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it just hasn't hit you yet. See part of you doesn't believe it happing so you can't get too excited about it. Once it sinks in you'll be just as excited as your friends are.
2007-04-15 14:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have something else on your mind at the moment, or maybe you just don't have the same feelings as you once thought. Maybe its second thoughts, and that's perfectly normal.
2007-04-15 14:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋