My mother is obese and it bothers me that she tells me to?

Question

go running. She is always on my case about the little sh*t, like keeping my room spotless and doing chores without her asking. I'm a good kid and don't ever break the law and gets really good grades. It has bothered me since i was little, how do I talk to her about it, or should I even say anything? What can I do to help her? I have no idea what to do to get it to stop bothering me, please help.

Answer 1

Understand a little bit about why she is the way she is, is a good start. Chances are its in two flavors, ether she doesn't know the best way to raise a kiddo and figures this is the best way(it isn't to far off really, she does o you explinations for why she feels it needs to be this way) or another possibility is that she feels in control when things are clean, that everything is right and in its place. Ether way your dealing with a situation were try to get her to talk about it is the only way to help you short of you just dealing with it tell you can get out.... I'm guessing that chances are you guys don't talk about to much or else you would have a channel to vent to her and she would be getting these question and not me... might be time for you to swollow some pride and ask her why she really believes this well make you a better kid, or why she feels this is the only way to relate to you.... whats dad say about this? If he isn't in the picture then maybe thats why she holds on to this stuff so much... if he is maybe you've got a good enough relationship with him to confront mom? As you can see there is no simple fix for this stuff and its pretty much in everyones family in one form or anther.... sometimes it gets bad enough that consuling is needed. But understand a couple generations ago moms and dads sent there kids away to big colleages and the city to become better people.... this doesn't happen just because of colleage which made it so that the grandparents became insecure in there ability to raise there kids, which inturn made there kids insecure when raising there own kids, which in turn makes you life a living heck.... its a bad stat of affairs when your parents havn't don't have a concert best way to raise you, so they have to come up with there own, which is enough to make anyone insecure. So most of the time parents are driven by one core insecure, one core fear, that you'll make the same mistakes they made. And the only real way for them to be assure against this, and they don't know, is if you talk to her and let her know how good of a kiddo you are thru and thru... anything short of that is just coping with this situation not fixing it... good luck on your choice, this is way beyond anyones ability to answer your question in just one easy way....