What are some things that guests enjoy most at weddings? When you go to a wedding what makes it memorable for you, what do you enjoy most? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.
2007-04-15 13:43:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well I am not sure what I most enjoy but I can give some advice. I'll tell you what I really don't like at weddings. I really don't like DJs who feel it is their day and not the bride and grooms. Several times DJs will stop the show so they can do these lil "events"--dance to the music and everytime the music stops he will ask a couple to step off the floor and eventually give a prize to the Best Dancer. "Who has been married the longest" dance. "Who is the oldest person here" game. It's completely annoying to watch a DJ feel he has to put on a performance.
I love the dancing and being able to see everyone in the family that I don't get a chance to see often.
One of the other things I don't enjoy is the wait. At my own wedding I made sure that the caterer allowed people to start eatting before we got there. Sometimes it takes forever for the photographer to finish pictures and the couple to get there. I've read on here before that some couples refuse to have any pictures taken before the wedding to increase the wait time for the guests. I've also heard of couples taking a Tour of the city in their limo while the guests are all waiting--sometimes for up to 2 hours to see the bride and groom. The point of the reception is for them to see you. If you aren't planning on showing up for over an hour, at least give them something to eat and drink while they wait and don't be shocked if a lot of them don't wait.
Another thing I dislike is a furious bridezilla or mother-of-the-bride. They have been stressed out for so long about this wedding and it finally gets here. And I will go ahead and tell you this--it isn't going to go perfect. Something will go wrong. It rained at mine so I didn't get pictures in the antique car I used. Sometimes the DJ mispronouces a bridesmaids name or the caterer didn't get something perfectly done. But I see brides storming around with a horrible look on their faces, mothers looking as if this is the worst day of their lives....and the photographer snapping 100 pictures of that expression. These brides can't be pleased with the album when they get it back. They look furious or enraged and so all the wedding day pictures will look horrible. Even if something doesn't go perfectly, be calm and happy! This is your wedding day! The happiest day of your life, the day that you've been looking forward to since you were a lil girl.
You will have more pictures of you taken that day than any other day of your life. Make sure you really want that expression captured forever.
A wedding is memorable for me if I don't feel like my every move is calculated. I went to a wedding once (my cousin) but I had to leave early. The reception started at 5. We had assigned seating. And we were dismissed to go to the food by each table. I had to leave early and was starving but I couldn't get food until my table was called. I snuck down there anyway. Then all the guests were called back downstairs in order to go through the brides receiving line. Then watched a string of dances. B&G did 2 dances. Bride and dad, son and mom. bride with her new father-in-law while groom danced with new mother-in-law. B&G with both their parents on the dance floor for a rehearsed dance. Then bridesmaids and groomsmen. We were all sick of watching by the end of it. No one knew when they could talk to the bride and wish her goodluck. Then when it came for the bouquet and garter toss she called out names of the single people that hadn't gone to the dancefloor. It was ridiculous. Everyone was miserable b/c it felt like like we were in kindegarden. We know its your special day--but we are adults and can entertain ourselves. We want to see the bride and groom and wish them goodluck--not listen to the DJ, eat food, or ohh and ahh over flowers.
Congratulations and make sure to take time to de-stress each day.
2007-04-15 15:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me it is the over all wedding. To start I have to know that the couple is right for each other (nothing you can do but know that you love each other and it is what you want) then the ceremony, the beautiful dresses and flowers (after our wedding I really look at the details, some weddings have a lot and some don't but I really appreciate it all because I know it is hard work) and I really like watching the bride walk down the asile and see the look on the bride's face.
To me a reception should be fun and relaxed, the harder part is over the vows and been said and you are finally married. For my reception I wanted to make it fun and relaxed but yet elegant. Which it was. I really like when there is dancing. The best wedding I ever went to (besides mine) was a couple from my old church. At the reception they had lots of fun dancing and they also had dances for little kids (hokey pokey and so on) well the adults were also up there dancing (including the bride and groom) I think the kids dancing is what stuck out and the fact that the bride and groom let loose and danced they talked too but the wedding and reception is about the couple to me. So, the most rememerable thing to me is the bride and groom having some fun as there first day married! Good luck with the wedding and best of wishes.
2007-04-15 21:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride and groom are having a good time is what makes it a good wedding for me. The food and music can be fantastic, the decor beautiful, but if the bride and groom arent enjoying the day thats what I remember.
Accept that when you wake up that morning that something inevitably will go wrong, it might be minor or it might be major, and roll with whatever happens. There is no such thing as 100% right when it comes to weddings, but what makes things perfect is a great love affair that everyone is there to celebrate. Really enjoy the day and roll with the punches, if you can look at your husband(!) and only see the major thing which is that you have stood up in front of your friends and family and pledged your lives and eternal love for eachother and let your joy show in your every move that day, everyone and I mean everyone will always remember that yours was a great wedding!
Best of luck to you!
2007-04-15 20:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bride and groom really set the tone...if they are ready for fun at the reception, everyone else will follow and have a blast. Oh, and it doesn't hurt to hire an Elvis impersonator to get the party started either!!
2007-04-15 21:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good food, be sure you get to talk with every guest you know, and be sure in your speech, you say something like:
"we like to especially thank each and every one of you for taking the time out of your schedule to share this special moment with us"
2007-04-15 21:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always enjoy Drinking and Dancing!
2007-04-15 20:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the church organ the flowers the bridal dress and the bridesmaids the elegant dress tux for the men the cake cutting the group picture for afterward
2007-04-15 21:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who getting married it what matters most of all. Not the cake or place or anything else. what I'll rember most is who got married.
2007-04-15 20:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dancing! We had a great DJ and they are still talking about it.
2007-04-15 21:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋