ok, here goes. I have a very good friend, I met him at work some 4 months ago. we atarted seeing each other a lot, going out, visiting etc, he had a girlfriend, but the relationship was clearly breaking up. they finally did break up this week, on Friday we went out with his friends, ended up kissing and went back to his place... and over the weekend, we have "met" like this twice more. the thing is, he keeps saying that he is still confused and doesn't know what to do, or doesn't want to get involved so soon... stuff like that. but also, he keeps kissing and hugging me, even when he is not in bed with me, saying he loves me, I am his great friend etc. I really don't know what to think. we have always talked so much and enjoyed spending time together, in these past months, it would be terrible to loose that, but know, I think we are on a whole new level. i do care about him a lot, and I am sure he cares about me, but this situation is so confusing, I don't know what's happening????
2007-04-15 13:42:25 · 23 answers · asked by mimma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For now, he needs sex. Maybe you'll have a serious relationship with him later. Enjoy.
2007-04-15 23:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Pascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the story of the radio announcer that recently got fired. He called some young college women who are on a basketball team "nappy haired h*s. Well I think the last word describes you. You are that one thing to this guy and the part of you he likes best is the part between your legs.
Ok you said you met him four months ago at work. So that means you started working in the same place as he or visa versa only four months ago. He must have seen you and said to himself "oh what a pretty (the last word is used for a female canine)". He may not even have a girl friend. What he does have is a willing slice of anus.
I suggest you go and make sure he has not given you a sexually transmitted disease. Start going to church. Join a social group at your church for singles for your age group, and find yourself a good man to marry and than you will no longer be some guys "female dog", nappy haired h*", slice of anus, and any other term to describe someone who can't control themselves.
SWEETHEART
Did it ever occur to you that this sex fiend might be married and using you for his pleasure on the side. I think you should think logically about how you met him and who his friends were. Did anyone drop any hints while you were with him and his friends. Also he has probably told his "friends" all about what a great piece of a** you are. Steer clear of him or you might become the shared piece on the side for a bunch of married men.
2007-04-15 19:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is advice you are probably not going to like but this is what I would do and I suppose that is the whole point of this site! Stay away from each other socially. He needs to get his head round the break up, even if it was long overdue, and learn to be on his own again otherwise, what you two have will be spoilt and will probably end up being physical and then fizzle out. He has half admitted his confusion to you so maybe some time away from each other will help. Hope you work it out. xx
2007-04-15 23:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you went to bed with him too soon and you should have waited more months to pass.
I think that this guy is using you to get over his ex. If I were you I would give him some time so that he will start to settle down and will have his mind clearer than ever. Then when you see him settled down, then would be the most appropriate time for you to move into a relationship with this guy. I know that you love him and you don't want to loose him but be very careful dear so that you won't get hurt by his actions.
Hope this helps dear and good luck hun.
2007-04-15 19:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Falcon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be on the rebound right now and just need a close friend. It could work out for the two of you but take it slow and easy. I am not so sure he is wanting a real relationship right now. If you are happy with the situation without any strings (relationship) then continue as you have been.
2007-04-15 13:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, right now you guys are for lack of better words.... f***k buddies... friends with "benifits" you have to be clear on what you want.... are you cool with that? If he is saying I love you then something is wrong, either he is just saying what he thinks he needs to say to continue the benifits or he has very strong feelings for you and doesnt know what to do. So here is what you need to do, talk to him. If you guys are not that serious and its just a "buddie" situation then he needs to lay off the i love you talk and what not...... cause that does not help you. If you both are feeling the same way... then why not go for it... you know not every rebound relationship is a rebound.... i know some that ended up getting married and are happy to this day.... follow you heart sweetie.
2007-04-15 13:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Kisses 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's happening is he still loves his ex girlfriend and he is letting you no that when they get back together you are history as far as being his girlfriend goes.When a man is hurting he eases his pain by finding another girl and this is where you come in.Just because he tells you he loves you it is
just empty words that goes with sex.Your just f uck buddies and that is as far as it's going to go for him.You really need to back away from him and see what he does.If he is serious about you he will come and tell you,but if he isn't you just made it easy for him to stop seeing you,which is what he was planning to do all along.
2007-04-15 15:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your on his rebound at the moment i know you don't think so because you spent to much time together...this guy has dumped his girl friend because of you and now he is not sure it was the right thing to do.....I'm not saying he don't like you but you need to step back and not sleep with him till he has made up his mind....i feel like this guy will go back to his girlfriend.....and your friend ship Will never be the same....if you want this man step back and be the person you was before....and see what happens but be care full you might get hurt....good luck x
2007-04-15 21:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by missnicedell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting him get into bed after only knowing him for 4 months & during that time he had another girlfriend.
have you been pressurising him to leave his girlfriend.
I think so.
I do not believe that this relationship will go far.
If you need to find another boyfriend if he leaves you, can I suggest that you dont let him in your bed for at least 6 months & if he stays he might be right for you.
I only do 1 night stands myself but then I am just a male S***
dont you get a name like me, be a lady.
2007-04-15 13:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say wait a while longer so that he can figure out what he wants.Step back (I know its hard) for a while. And that way you will know if he is really for you or not or if this is just a moment of time that you enjoy together.
2007-04-15 13:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by rblt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you like him and are good friends with him i would try to stay away from him for a while to give him some time to figure out what he really wants.
2007-04-15 13:49:23 · answer #11 · answered by blablablaxo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋