I am 16 years old and I started dating a guy that I dated before. He treated me well than and he does now. I left him before because I did not want a relationship. My parents really like him. I am mad at him because he told me that he has slept with two girls. Do I have the right to be mad at him and be in a fight with him? I will say this...he knows that I am not ready for a sexual relationship. He has never pressured me and I beleive he never. I am just very mad at him for being with two girls after I left him.
2007-04-15 13:37:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are right for being upset. but remember that HE told YOU and thats better than you finding out some other way. are these girls your best friends? if i were you i would talk it over with him.
2007-04-15 13:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... This is a double sided question..
The answer depends on the circumstances:
If he cheated on you while you two were still together, then yes, you have a right to be mad.
If he was with other girls while you were NOT with him, IE while you two were split up after you dumped (left) him. Then you have no right to be angry.
You told him that you didn't want a relationship, then left him. He wasn't under any obligation to wait for you.
2007-04-15 20:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Henry W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to let what happened before you were together GO!!!! You have No right to be mad it has nothing to do with your relationship with him unless you let it. It will make you fight. And thats not good. Be more secure. He is with you.
2007-04-15 20:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not with him at the time, I think you should forgive him. Yes, I certainly can understand you being mad. Now, if he does this while you are together that is a different matter entirely.
2007-04-15 20:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling... But let me put it this way. I'm not the first girl my bf has been with (they were before me of course) but it still hurts. I know he loves me and those other girls were his past and he regrets it etc. But it makes me feel almost sick from the pain of knowing I waited for him and he didnt for me. Its normal to be upset, talk to him about it. I eventually realized it wasnt worth killing our relationship over with constant fights and although it still really hurts I've tried to let it go.
2007-04-15 20:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by js95116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing he can do about it now. He was ready to have sex and had every right to experience it. Not everybody is going to have the same standards you have. Don't be mad at him.
2007-04-15 20:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should be mad at him and you should leave him in the dust. He is not for you. He sounds selfish and self centered. You deserve better. Look for a guy that meets your standards and expectations, and he will find you also.
2007-04-15 20:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you care. Just follow your heart if it bothers you to much to get over than break up with him you will only hurt yoour self. If not then try to keep away from the thoughts that hurt you so that you can both move on.
2007-04-15 20:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but you are way off base here. If you two had no relationship , he had the right to see, sleep or slap anyone he wanted too. You need to apologize and fix this if you want to stay with him.
2007-04-15 20:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to imagine him with someone else, but the fact of the matter is, you 2 weren't together. He had every right to do what he wanted. He was under the impression that you didn't want to be with him so he was moving on. It's hard to deal with, I know. But you might be overreacting.
2007-04-15 20:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by mel_kuchta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋