My 14 year old cousin wants to move with me and my parents because she has no friends where she lives and all her friends are where i live. She is severely depressed cuz her parents wont let her. She's crying right now. Her parents dont understand what she going through. Is there anyways shes able to move with us without permission of her family?
2007-04-15 12:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO -- IF she leaves the parental home and just moves in with you withOUT the permission of her parents -- it is called "Interference with Parental Custody" -- and IS a Crime with SERIOUS Jail Time and/or Fines attached.
You know, you may THINK her parents don't know what is going on with their child -- but ... let me tell you from PERSONAL experience (of a Long Term Single Parent), the Parents are well aware of the child's 'problems' and what the child's own behavioral difficulties are -- including the way that the child treats their own parents.
The difficulties are a TWO WAY STREET -- and what is NOT posted in this question is how difficult the child is to their PARENTS in the first place! What the child is doing is contributing to their unhappiness (including their raging hormones!) .. and although the child does NOT like the rules or restrictions the parents put in place, those are there for the REASON of SAFETY and BECAUSE THE PARENTS CARE!
The child right now needs to sit down, LOOK HARD in the MIRROR, and yes, take responsibility for the problems that they are causing in the HOME of their parents. You know it is NOT asking much for the child to honor the HOME RULES .. and their parents as well. As long as the parents are living a law-abiding life, providing for the family, putting a roof over her head, and yes, food in the stomach (and definitely caring for the child), then the BEST place for that child is WITH the PARENTS!
2007-04-15 13:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since others have mentioned emancipation …..that is not going to be an option in this situation for many reasons, which I’m not even going to go into because it would take too long, but just from what you’ve stated I can tell you that it’s NOT going to happen.
There’s nothing she can do. The only way another person can be awarded guardianship/custody of her against her parents wishes is if her parents are proven to be unfit. It take A LOT to prove a parent unfit, and there’s nothing you’ve stated that comes even remotely close to being unfit.
She’s going to have to tough it out and make some new friends. I know it’s hard, but in life we are constantly facing challenges/dealing with unpleasant situations. You have to learn HOW to deal with it, and you don’t do that by running away from it.
2007-04-15 16:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m afraid unless her parents are abusive towards her she couldn’t move out with out their permission. She could legally move out in 4 years, maybe even 3 . I know some people can do emancipation where she would become legally an adult, she could even get her own place since she would legally be an adult. However I very much doubt a court will give one, simple because she has no friends in her current neighborhood.
If she severely depressed her parents should get her into counseling.
2007-04-15 16:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless your friend gets legally emancipated by the courts, she can't move out of her house legally. She has to be able to prove to the courts that she can financially take care of herself and pay for a place of her own to live, etc. She needs to prove that she is responsible enough to complete her education and hold down a good job.
Life sometimes doesn't work out the way we want it to, especially as a teenager. Life seems so terrible when we are teen agers! I promise though that before your friend knows it she will be 18 years old and old enough to be on her own. It seems like forever but it really isn't. Hang in there and keep talking to your friend (cousin) in an encouraging way! Let her know that everything will be allright and that you are her friend and always will be.
Good Luck!
2007-04-15 13:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless she is being abused by her parents, there is no legal way a 14 yo can move out on their own. Then they need the help of Social Services and the legal system. If she is just wanting to be with you why don't you stay together for the summer and try that out?
2007-04-15 13:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Fauna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can get an emancipation from the court. To do that she will have to prove she can take care of herself. She will have to prove that it would be in her best interest to make this move. But to tell you the truth I don't really see that she has a good enough reason. It sounds like she just wants to be close to friends. She is very young and the people she considers friends are not going to support her and love her like her parents do. I would not encourage her to much sweetie, she is just wanting to have everything her way like a spoiled child. Her parents are being good parents, unless you have left something out. I know if she were my child and she was wanting to move out just to be with her friends I would be reluctant to oblige her. Sorry but you are going to have to be a big girl and tell her to suck it up and come spend the night more often.
2007-04-15 13:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to talk to the counselor at her school and maybe the counselor can persuade her parents but, heck, life isns't fair and she may just have to live with the fact she's in a neighborhood that she hates until she's 18 and old enough to move wherever she wants.
2007-04-15 12:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless there is abuse in her home, your parents should not let that happen. We all have to grow up wherever we are and running away somewhere else will not solve the problem. She needs help obviously, but not a move.
2007-04-16 09:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need the family's permission. The least you can do is talk to her parents about her problem. You can help your cousin by constantly calling her up by phone so she can talk to someone she can trust.
2007-04-15 13:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Reycen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good sir. I am a clairvoyant and I must confess, I have been watching your family. I can guarantee you that your nephew will not be a corrupting influence on your family, but a highly positive one. Certainly, he will bring many hardships. But ultimately, both he and your family will grow and develop from this into a healthy and happy family.
2016-05-21 00:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by pilar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋