Modern Day Modesty............Christians, do you support it?

Question

Ok, i've grown up all of my liffe being taught modesty is beautiful, and i agree with it. "Raw meat only attracts dogs," someone once told me, and i believe it. I think modesty shows high moral standards and someone close to our Father in Heaven. I don't think modesty is enforced enough. There are so many girls(and guys too) walking around in clothes that show so much. What ever hapenned to the good old knee leangth shorts, shirts with sleeves, and pants that actually cover us like they were intended to do? I'm not saying women should be wearing bonetts and long dresses, or men wear suits all of the time, but where did good modesty go? what d oyou think about it?

Oh, by the way, I am 14 years old. I'm just kind of curious what everyone's oppinion is to me being 14 and having these standards in my life.

Sorry, I had a bad typo..the title was suppose to be "Modern Day Modesty...Christians, do you support it?"
I feel kind-of dim-witted now

Ok..I can't figure out if i made a typo or not, so just bear with me for the time being.....sorry

I don't mean to say I'm more Godly, there are just times I feel kind-of alone at school because so little people dress modestly. At school we had to do these presentations. Our principal told the entire grade, about 300 students, the modesty standards for it and I heard MANY girls saying that they didn't have ANYTHING that fits into the standards. It kind of disturbs me. i watch how many of the guys look at girls who dress immodestly, like all they are is a body, nothing else. i don't want guys looking at me that way. I want to be thought of as a person, how about you.

Thanks Beatlefan for changing around some of your words. It makes me feel a bit more comfortable reading your answer;

Answer 1

Modern popular culture on society is definitely the problem here, it teaches the kids to act unreserved. I disagree with the statement "religion tells you to be ashamed of your body" thats crap. Religion, particularly Christianity tells you to be proud of your body. Tell me, who is more proud of their body, the girl wearing the slutty clothing, or the girl covering herself up? Which one is treating it with more respect? Exactly. Modesty IS beautiful. It doesn't reflect well upon the girl/woman who is dressed without sense of dignity. Also, honestly, I find your last statement kind of amusing, seeing as you are trolling for compliments. But I do find your standards to be positive.

Answer 2

Well sweetie, it's just an example the difference between the World and the body. Modesty is important this is true. We are not to cause another to stumble. Meaning you don't purposefully go around wearing short skirts and haulter tops to make men stare... that is causing them to sin... Now just so you know... this is important... if you are dressing modestly... say just a pair of comfy jeans and a teeshirt... some guy could very well still lust after you... then you have NOT sinned. Some times there is nothing we can do to keep someone from stumbling. And be very careful of people who would tell you that anywoman is sinning if a man is attracted to her.

The lack of modesty just shows where peoples hearts are. Many people will rather be looking good to the world than to God. Just hold on to the Lord and seek after him... and people will see christ in you first. That it what its truely important.

Answer 3

I don't need the Christ to tell me to dress modestly, I have some not very nice predatory males giving me problems in the summer, when I am trying to dress cooler, and I pray for the weather to cool down more so I can cover up more, and that is when I am wearing an ankle length skirt, and a tank top, but it just gets too freakin hot where I live to make dressing "modestly" feasible, and I don't think it is so much a lack of modesty on my part as not very nice males without any respect for women.....For that matter I have not very nice predatory males giving me problems in the winter in an ankle length skirt with my arms covered, and a higher neckline, so yeah, it's nice that you want to be modest, but no matter how you dress, some guys just plain aren't respectful of women, period, but if dressing in a way you consider "modest" makes you feel better, go for it.... Guys should be raised to be respectful of women no matter what they are wearing or not, and women should respect themselves no matter what they are wearing of not. Chicky is right, no matter what you believe, you can't impose your standards on others.

Edit: I will say this about school clothing standards, alot of girls your age dress way to grown up for thier age, but that is really up to thier parents what they will allow, and if you set a standard for yourself regardless of what the other girls are doing, that is a good thing at any age.

Answer 4

Good for you that you don’t feel the need to follow fashion trends and dress like everybody else. My only caution, be sure that in your modest dress you don’t come to think that this makes you more Godly than other girls. I believe in living by example, but that includes attitudes as well. I’m not suggesting you would do that, but it seems worth saying because we have probably all known that type.

Answer 5

You don't have to be a Christian, or have any religious faith to wear modest clothing.
Just as there are atheists, humanists etc. who believe in kindness and generosity.
Of course, you can look good wearing clothing that covers more, that goes without saying.
What I predict is that there will be a trend toward less promiscuity among young people, it will be more of a cultural thing.

Answer 6

I think that religion teaches many to be ashamed of their body and to think of sex as a sin or weakness. Clearly- this goes against human nature (or the Catholic church wouldn't have $1.5Billion against it (so far) in sexual abuse judgments.

It bothers me more that any prime time TV show can have people casually shooting each other, but if one female nipple shows up, somehow we all should be 17 years old to see it.

I think we need to be a bit more open about sexuality and acknowledge who and what we are, rather than hide it.

Personally- I'm very monogamous and always have been. I believe that we all need to be true and honest with each other- but mostly with ourselves.

Answer 7

I greatly admire your sense for modesty. Fashion trends do not agree with your standards, but God does.
I am not too worried about most sleeveless tops on girls/women, but short shorts and low necks can be distracting.

Answer 8

Funnily enough, countries where attitudes to nudity and sex are most relaxed are also the countries which have the lowest rates of abortion and teenage pregnancy. We would be better off if every beach was a nudist beach and swimming pools didn't allow people to swim in clothes - it's completely pointless anyway, quite apart from being uncomfortable.

Answer 9

>>I'm just kind of curious what everyone's oppinion is to me being 14 and having these standards in my life.<<

I think you are a very wise and wonderful young lady!

Answer 10

God love you . look at the beautiful of your father in heaven

he will show you the way.
may God bless you.

have you being baptized, if not GO.