Fat, skinny, short, tall, blonde, brunette...there are so many "makes" of people, that it's simply impossible to definitively state what is beautiful and what is not. Nobody is perfect and you'll find that looks can only take someone so far. In the end, it is someone's personality that is the deal breaker. I hate to say this, but if you are fat (as you claim you are), dating is going to be more difficult for you simply because humans are pre-programmed to search out mates who appear to be healthy. (I'd read Dr. Nancy Etcoff's book "Surivival of the Prettiest" to understand the evolutionary reasons for this).
That being said, you are going to have to search within for your strengths and use them to attract females. Perhaps you're funny? Perhaps you have an extensive, wide array of interests? Perhaps you are caring and sensitive? Perhaps you are artistic? Perhaps you are altruistic? The list can go on forever. The point is that you can use any of the aforementioned strengths to attract women. As a woman, I can frankly say that self-confidence and self-respect are two very endearing traits for a man to have.
If you're shy, timid, and lack self-confidence, don't be afraid to use "props" to strike up a conversation with a woman (I know this sounds silly, but it works). For example, ask to borrow a pen from a girl, then when she gives it to you, crack a joke. Females also like compliments. I recall one time at the gym, I was stretching and going through some yoga poses and a guy asked me if I were a dancer. Weird conversation starter, perhaps, but it led to a 10 minute conversation.
My last comment to you is to keep your head up high. Dating is not easy for ANYONE. Trust me.The right one will come along in time.
2007-04-15 11:55:52
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answered by Angel 2
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There is no way to MAKE a woman like you. Some women like Big men, Some dont, its all in who the particular women is attracted to. Are you fat, or is it muscle? Do you have good face? Nice hair? Most Importantly, Do you have an attractive personality? Being fat isn't somethng women should go by, alothough sadly, many do. I understand the women needs to be atracted to the man, But Weight itself does NOT Matter! If you wash, have nice hair, and dress right, the weight wont be a problem. Also, ask yourself, Is my personality right? Becasue I know that I dont even care about who men look, I see the inside and make the person look on the outside how they are on the inside, For instance, the most attractive guy in the owrld could be full of himself and snobby, and I would see him as FUGLY With warts all over his face and gross teeth. I think the best thing you can do Is Be a gentleman, stay clean, dress right, and get out there! Youll meet the girl of your dreams in no time. :)
2007-04-15 11:24:30
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answered by Anonymous
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It's not really about if you are fat or not. Personality plays a big part. I know for me, I'm not so much concerned whether a person is "fat" or not, but whether they are active or not. I don't know many women who would want to be with someone who is inactive and can't even climb a flight of stairs without getting all out of breath. If you really think you're "fat" and it's impacting you meeting women, then try exercising and changing to a healthier eating lifestyle. You will benefit more from that in the long run, than from fad dieting or just focusing on losing weight quickly. :)
2007-04-15 11:22:52
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answered by Emily D 1
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Why do human beings motel to mendacity at the same time as attempting to bash a race of ladies persons? i'm useful many black women persons persons in Chicago are skinny or elementary. i'm useful there are fat white women persons persons who've undesirable hair days as well in Chicago. you won't be able to be questioning, no matter if some different person is lazy or now no longer... you ought to slightly style a halfway sturdy sentence. Moron.
2016-12-04 02:16:27
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answered by ? 3
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Personality is important, self respect and looking after yourself is attractive. Being fat, or over weight isn't, it's a bad way to be. What you should be concentrating on "now" isn't women, but getting yourself in shape. Go see a personal trainer and nutritionist. join a gym. Start walking everyday for 40 minutes, then progress to running, its the best for shaping up and loose weight, but you have to eat well, no fat!!! etc. When you loose all that weight, and get fit, you won't have to "get" someone to go out with you, they will "want" to got out with you because they can see the huge change in you. Now that's attractive!
2007-04-15 11:34:48
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answered by Purity 4
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Get women to see who you really are: your personality actions etc. Basically keep it real. Many people are fat for many reasons If they really have a problem with your fat because they're shallow and not of your health, than that's a personal problem.
2007-04-15 11:35:40
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answered by MARIE D 1
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If you don't mind me asking how big are you? I used to talk to my partner before i even met him on citizen band radio so i had the means to talk but not see. We spoke for about 6months and even though me had never met i fell for him. He made me laugh,smile and i couldn't wait to get in from work so i could speak to him when he finished work, we decided to meet and in the months that i was talking to him i never thought about what he would look like,i just prayed he would smell good and have clean teeth lol. When we met he was a big man and it never even crossed my mind that he was big i had fallen in love with the person he was and the size issue did not bother me. He treats me with respect and he loves me and i love him like i have loved no other. He is my sole mate so at the end of this i will tell you SIZE DOES NOT MATTER MAYBE YOU COULD TRY HIS TACTICS TRIED AND TESTED AND SUCCESSFUL. Email me if you fancy a chat I'm a good listener and i hope my advice was helpful
2007-04-15 11:29:31
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answered by Anonymous
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There are a lot of woman out there that would choose what a person has on the inside. Personality says a lot. I would love to meet a person who made me laugh, happy and who I enjoyed to be around. It would not matter what they looked like on the outside. If you fall in love with someone for there personality then physical attraction seems to follow this.
2007-04-15 11:25:10
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answered by Anonymous
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It's all about personality, man. With me, looks are definitely a bonus, but if a guy is hilarious and makes me laugh, that totally wins over good looks. So get people to laugh! Crack a few corny jokes and be witty and clever.
Also a lot of my friends like good dressers who know what they're doing when it comes to clothes. Furthermore, we all like a gentleman. A guy who opens doors, smiles a lot, is polite, and does those small things that make life so much easier is really appreciated.
Despite your physical appearance, have a vibrant and noticeable personality with a gentleman-like streak and you've got it down!
2007-04-15 11:23:53
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answered by Anonymous
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You like yourself...you have confidence in you and know you are a kewl person and worth being with...confidence shines out no matter what someone looks like...and will attract people moreso (and hold their attention longer) than a pretty face for cute body.
If you can't imagine why someone would want you...then no one else will see a reason to want you either...y'know? If you don't like you, why should anyone else?
2007-04-15 11:22:48
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answered by . 7
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