I need to let her go.....all because I love her too much.....?

Question

Well, there's this girl... and... I love her.

We got to know each other last March, and in May she was already my girlfriend. But, after four months, her mother found out about our relationship and forced us to break up.

What to do.

But, my love for her was still strong, too bad she didn't felt the same. She goes around chasing some other guy, but yet I still try. I tried to do some stuff, who knows, maybe I could be better than the rest.

Tried to play the guitar till my fingers bled, wrote pages and pages of poems, travel hundreds of miles just for her.

But now.....I think I should face the fact that, she loves him more than me. Well, she doesn't love me now anyway. So I guess it's time I should just give up......


Well, I tried to still be friends with her, but it hurts me so much when I see her going around with some other guy, and me being ever the optimist my mind always seem to stray about plans on how to get her back.

So I guess, it's best if I let her go completely. If I delete all her pictures, her number, her contact from my messengers. Truly forget her. I really can't stay as just friends.

No matter how great I become, or how hard I try,

I guess you just can't change fate. I tried.


Now I wonder.....would this be the right thing to do?

And.....why am I crying?

Answer 1

Some say move on and others say fight for your love both are correct in their own way. Definitely the first thing you should do is move on. Hopefully this will solve your problem if you are open to meeting other girls then one will sooner or later be that girl of your dreams.If this girl cares enough she will return and then your decision will be whether or not she is the girl you want to invest your time in. There is a Country song about unanswered prayers that makes a lot of sense about a guy who prayed for this girl and later married someone else, When he and his wife meet the girl later in his life he realizes that the one he has is the one he would have chosen all along. You will move on and you will find the one for you. God Bless.

Answer 2

(((((Azrael))))) Poor sweetie, breaking up is hard to do, and that means spending some time grieving about it, there just isn't any way around it, but if she's chasing someone else around, the relationship just plain doesn't mean enough to her to be something to fight for. You've made several posts about this situation, I know it is weighing hard on your mind. We all have to go through this at sometime or another, and it happens alot when we are young. I wish I could give you advice that will make you feel better, but really you need to move on. If it is destined that you will be together someday, then she will come back around to you, but honestly, I don't see that happening, and that is her loss. But in the meantime, you may have to spend some time grieving and getting it out of your system, but do try to look around you for new friends, and maybe one day one of these friendships will turn into something better. In the meantime I will keep you in my thoughts and best wishes, and I am sure others here wish the same for you. Take care.... As for the memories, believe it or not, there might be a day when you would like to be able to look back on this relationship, so yeah, forget her phone number, and email, etc. but you might want to put any mementos of her away in a box and put it in back of your closet awhile til such time as you can look at it with a clear mind....

TS: That poem applies to the chance not taken. To one who has kept his feelings to himself and never told the object of his affection how he felt about her, because she thought of him as a friend, or other circumstances. Azrael has taken more than ample chances to get through to this girl.....

Answer 3

well its ok to cry. its painful no doubt if u really love someone so much and u find it hard to let go of them. i won't say it will be alright cos it won't be..its truly painful but u could start of by removing all her memories..emails, pictures, msn etc. if possible try to move out of that town, engage urself in activites that u find pleasure in. once u start to move into a different circle things might get easier for u.

as far as staying friends that may not be a good idea best thing wud be to cut off all the ties and move away. hopefully new environment might give u the courage to slowly forget her n move on with ur life.

make sure u don't look back just keep moving ahead...all the best!

Answer 4

You need to understand that success with girls/women requires pushing and pulling. If you constantly pull (chase her) she will continue to run away. Writing poems maybe sweet but it wont romantically pull the girl into you it is still to much pull. You need to forget about her (maybe she will come back to you) and focus on being more of a challenge with other girls. Just as a rule of thumb: make sure the girl likes you more than you like her, this way she should be the one trying to win you over.

Its ok to cry for a while but at some point you need to gather yourself and your confidence and be strong.

Answer 5

Yes, you have to let her be herself. Even if that's without you.

And I know it's tough. I'm more than old enough to have been there myself. But read my answer to your marriage question too. And don't give up all hope. Just move on with your life and see what happens. That's perhaps the best any of us can do.

I hope you can regain your peace soon. And as for crying? That's you being yourself. Who wouldn't cry?
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Answer 6

You love her sooooo much! aw.... she must be very lovely to you isn't she? I'm sorry for this to happen to you. The only thing there is to do now is to let her go right? If she is not interested in you anymore then trying to make her stay with you is useless because even if she is with you, you'll still know that her love is not there anymore.
Some day she will regret for losing you.

Answer 7

Dear Azrael,

If this is a true story, I advise you to GET HER BACK!

Fight for your love, if you are sincere enough she will love you even more.

So what if she is chasing other man, she is still not attached right.

Until she is not married, she is for the taking...go get her!!!!!

added: my man....don't be weakling, stop lamenting and feel sorry for yourself. Stand up now and pick up the phone and call her. All those crap 'love her set her free' is a croc!

added:Here is something for you to ponder thru,

IF YOU SIT THERE IN SILENCE,
REGRET IT YOU WILL,
SO OFTEN AFTER SILENCE
LOVE HAS AWAKENED STRONGER STILL...

Answer 8

Sir, you've been fighting this war way too long, armor dented and broken, sword's dull and you are tired. The arrows have pierced your flesh and a sword to the heart finishes it and yet you carry on, fighting under the cold rain.

You tried to fight a king for the princess within the fortress. a massive castle. You enter only to discover she is in love with some other prince who needn't fight like you did to win her favor.

Sir, it is time to go home, you're far from it. Time to retire from this war, you are killing yourself with attempts on slim chances. Sir, it's time to go home.....