we've been going on 9 months now and we love eachother. Ive been offered a job in another state. She wants to come with me. is it too soon?
2007-04-15 10:23:56 · 7 answers · asked by ninjuggalo182 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I want to say congratulations on your job offer. Nine months is a decent amount of time to be together. But you really do need to put things in perspective before you make the serious decision of asking her to move with you to another state. Do you really love this woman? Is she the one? If you like her, but you don't think that you are ready for anything serious, then don't even consider asking her this. Honestly, if you don't feel very strongly for her, then I am even going to suggest that you end the relationship. Love doesn't pay the bills either. Does she have any monthly payments that she has to make? Car payments, car insurance, etc? Are you willing to make these payments for her until she can get a job? What if she has a hard time getting a job? Can you support the two of you on your wages? What kind of house habits does she have? Does she keep her place clean or is she a total slob? Does she have animals that she would want to take with her? Does she really care about you or is she using you? Only you can answer all of these questions. You need to take some time to think about this very seriously before you make any decision. I hope that things work out for the best. Good luck. Take care. Congratulations again on your job offer.
2007-04-15 10:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too soon in my book since you do love each other. This'll speed the process up - see what the relationship is really made of - mature you both - move toward commitment, etc. etc. Long distance relationships seem wrought with their own stress that is NOT normal unless you are over in Vietnam (I mean Iran or Iraq or wherever we/US are protecting our INTERESTS).
2007-04-15 17:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by JonPool 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nly you know the answer to this question...can you bear to be apart from each other do you share common things are you getting on alright me and my partner moved in together after 3 months in the same kinda situation as you and we are doing fine so long as you feel comfy the fact that you have to ask makes me think maybe not as it should be an instant reaction yes or no. sit and talk everything through and i mean everything and you will come to the right choice
2007-04-15 17:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by donna k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily it is too soon. But if moving to a different state is the only reason why you'd do it, then it is possible that you're not ready. Sounds like she's ready.
2007-04-15 17:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not too soon if you dont feel its too soon. if you both feel you are ready to make the commitment, then go for it. but if your not sure, than i wouldnt do it. since your posting this question up, your probably not sure.... theres no certain time for 2 people to be together to say its been long enough to move in together - you just have to feel when the time is right.
2007-04-15 17:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by CURiOUS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It never too soon. how many times you will find a girl like her? and how many times will have a relationship like you have now? answer this and you will get the answer.
It might be still too soon if you still in dating level. otherwise you evaluate your relationship stage with her and see.
2007-04-15 17:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its ok, for me it takes me a year, but its agood thing so you will find out how you two connect and how to share the responsibilities in one roof. goodluck! don't forget to put the toilet seat up before you use it and put it down after. Just a rminder ;)
2007-04-15 17:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋