How should I make sense of this?

Question

a few months back, a guy friend and i flirted about hooking up. the thing is he has a gf overseas and he is actually engaged to her since I helped him get the ring. we exchanged a few words about getting together like where we do it, and if we would use protection, etc. The problem is that I told him i was falln in luv with him and he told me that it was best that i focus on someone else. anyway a few days later, I texted him to wish him Happy New Year's and he didn't text back and i got upset and called him a dog. I then wrote him a note apologizing to him and
suggested that we stop texting each other about sex. A few weeks later, he looked at me like he was angry but still said hi. I emailed him saying asking him if he was still upset and that it might be best that we treat each other as coworkers. he replied back and told me that i was too weird and that he was just jokin and that i should get some friends and a bf. Now we hardly talk anymore and just say hi awkwardly.

Answer 1

Face it: you blew it. Leave him alone now.

Answer 2

What an ***, engaged and exchanging sex messages with you, why did you fall so low? Focus on yourself for a while, stay away form unavailable men. You were just a game to him, sorry. You deserve better and you shouldn't settle for anything less than that, the problem is that YOU need to know it. Good luck! By the way, he is an *** for sure, but you acted WAY weird, you should solve your issues.

Answer 3

Unfortunately I think originally what was a bit of fun for him, harmless flirting turned serious when you stated you where falling in Love. He was not looking for anything of that sort.

As he seems to be a co worker my suggestion is that you learn from this experience and avoid co workers in the future. You should try dating outside your office. I am sure if you leave him alone in time the awkwardness will disappear and he will be like any other co worker.

Answer 4

You are asking to be part of a world of confusion. He's engaged but he's still looking for a good time since he can't get it from his girl overseas. Your falling for a guy who will never love you back due to his "preoccupation". It would be best to keep your distance.

Answer 5

Well he did tell you to focus on someone else. He is in love with someone else and you took it too seriously. Maybe he was seeing how much of a real friend you could be by respecting his love for another woman and you took it too far. M O V E on.

Answer 6

just know u ruined what u had in the beginning. why would u say u are fallin' in luv with him? are u retarded? that just scared him away. playing around while texting and speaking sexually, well he was having fun cause to him technically not cheating on his gf. then u just turn all psycho chic on him so he figured best to just stop it now before u show up on his door step all psycho crazed stalker on him. he is right u are wierd.

Answer 7

Women do not understand what goes on in a man. You scared him. He's in love with his girlfriend, but you were turning him on and he doesn't trust himself around, you bet he does not want to betray the trust of his girlfriend. That's the only way to keep you away from him is to act the way he does

Answer 8

No sh!t it's weird. You're having feelings for someone who is spoken for and he doesn't want anything with you. You should never have flirted with him. I hope his girlfriend comes back and beats your butt. Get over it. Move on. Why do you care if it is weird now? You're not going to end up with him.

Answer 9

Forget him, he isn't even a good friend. Just leave him alone and go on your merry way. Don't try to go out of your way for him, if he wants your friendship, let him come to you.

Answer 10

Just walk away and write it off as a friendship gone sour. He has a fiancee, Enough said.

Answer 11

it is hard to make sense of it........but i say u just 4get him and like u said act like co wokers there are plenty of good single men out there for u dudette!!