My Nana ????

Question

My nana died about 6 year ago she meant everything to me i sort of never left her side she died of a stroke and well basically i still cry and think about her so much and a few weeks ago me and my step dad were on about my nana and he said that she wouldnt like me now if she was still alive as i have a nasty attitude it really hurt me

by the way the nana im on about isnt my dads mam as shes still alive

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about your loss and the hurtful thing your step dad said, but what exactly is your question?

Answer 2

I'm pretty sure that your Dad was trying to help you. My grandmother died on my birthday more than six years ago. What a way to begin your birthday! With a phone call that grandmother passed. Knowing how you feel, I think I can safely say that you are stuck in a grieving phase. It's been six years and still so many tears? What your father was trying to tell you was that your grandmother would not like that you still grief for her instead living the life you were meant to live.
I lost my father in 1990 and miss him still but it's a different kind of sadness now. Grandmother passed in 1998 and I lost my baby brother last June. Death makes life even that more precious. Sweet girl, do not waste more of it with tears. Celebrate your nana by remembering her with laughter and smiles.

Answer 3

Ok, your dad really needed to think before he spoke to you in that way, sometimes we all say things the wrong way, maybe you do have a bad attitude, if you do then that stinks, so change it. with regards to what your nana would think of you, rubbish! your nana would love you and hug you and be as proud of you as she always did. She might tell you off a bit for for having an attitude, but she would still be your best mate...I bet you have many of her qualities and you'll grow up to make your dad very proud...Oh and your dad still loves you by the way, hes just a bit upset at the moment....Sorry is a very easy word to use...

Answer 4

Your step told you that bec. he knows how much your late nana loves you ,a nd maybe you listen to your nana.
They just your nana so you will feel worried , y don't you change and throw the bad attitude so that nana will be very happy for you , you just don't that she's always around watching you and she missed you as you do .

If you want nana to be proud of you and everybody do it for your best and no more crying . Do it slowly coz it's not easy to change.
Peace

Answer 5

Your step dad is WRONG TO TREAT YOU LIKE THIS. You have every right to feel how you do right now, it's normal. You are still attached to your Nana, and you love her very much. If your step dad does not see this then he does not know what he is talking about, as you have every right to still cry and think about her. If your step dad keeps making you feel bad then stop talking to him about this stuff, he will not help YOU feel better, because only YOU can get over her loss. I feel your pain in you situation, and people like your step dad will not help you. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you find a way to gain peace in your life.

Answer 6

Well the people we are closest to always know best how to hurt us.

He might feel really bad for what he said to you in the middle of an argument. But only you know if there is any truth in what he said. Do you think that your nana would be a little bit dissappointed in you if she saw your current behaviour?

If not then just try to ignore what your step-dad said. He was wrong to do it. But if there is some truth in it then let this be a turning point for you and grow into the young woman your Nana would want you to be.

Answer 7

Your Nana would still love you if she was alive today - the great things about Nanas is that they love you no matter what - they understand that as you grow up, you change and start to have your own opinion and ways of doing things. She would be very proud of you. Not sure she would like your step dad's attitude though!

Answer 8

Aww I'm so sorry to hear about your nan,i work on a stroke rehabilitation ward,and having a stroke is probably the worst thing to happen to you,especially the family.Your dad may have noticed your attitude has changed and doesn't like it,so he's said this to make you stop and think,I'm certain he didn't mean it,and was probably said without thought,so you may both be in the wrong a little.Talk to your dad and let him know how he made you feel,im sure he will feel just as bad when he realises how much he hurt you.Good luck hun.xx

Answer 9

I think that was a very hurtful thing for your dad to say. If you and your nana were so close then I am sure you would still be close now.
Was it something that he just said in the heat of the moment when you were having a disagreement. Were you quite young when nana died, if so of course you have changed over six years and she would still just love you for who you had developed into.
Just keep your memories of her love for you alive and in your heart.

Answer 10

Your step dad could have said that in a nicer way. Has your behaviour or attitude changed since your nan passed away. Maybe thats what he meant,He wants you to be like your old self again "a good girl". I s that how your nan knew you??
Just think of all the good times u and your nan had,that will make you smile,And you never know it may make your nan look down and smile too!!

Answer 11

It sounds like you really love and respect your Nana. If your step dad told you that then maybe it is time to re-evaluate your life. Is he right? I know that it is hard to step back and be honest about who you really are but if it bothered you that much then you need to do just that. Your step dad should have weighed his words out before he spoke but it has already been said! That is too bad, he needs to grow up a little bit himself and find compassion. I hope that you find some peace and direction in your life! Good Luck