if an 18 year old girl who is in a steady relationship with someone she loves very much (and who loves her) got pregnant, would you advise that person to have the baby or not?
Also, this girl is planning on going to university in the near future, but the guy is willing to look after the baby while she is in uni.
2007-04-15 10:12:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 18, you are at one of the hardest places of your entire life. The decisions you make now are not only yours but you are making and sharing 2 other lives. Look down the road and at the big picture with your friend, go to a counselor, get more than one piece of advice. Do not think that you have to make the decision on your own or with what information you have. Research the internet and there are websites for unwed mothers, broken homes, and read all you can about people like yourselves that had the same ideas and goals in life and what happened to them. It will give you good information on making the right decision for you and maybe a jump on some of the obstacles in your way. Most of the obstacles, you cannot see till they get here. Just an example, do you know how taxing on your system that 10, 2 and 4 feedings and care for an infant can be. I worked a full time job as a truck driver and did it not once or twice but 3 times. I don't know what I was thinking but it was the most gratifying yet detrimental events in my life. I would do it the same way again but differently now that I know what to expect. If you do not know what is coming it is tough to prepare.
2007-04-15 10:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very kind. It must be tough for all of you. Some people just get into the moment of high school love and take it too far. I'm 17 almost 18 and couldn't imagine if I got a girl pregnant what I would do... I think if they are both devout and loyal to the child they have created it might be worth a shot. I just don't understand how people can be so careless and have a kid at such a young age. I would think most people would just go with the abortion idea because it is definitely the easy way out of that situation. Keep talking to her and stand behind any decision she is willing to live up to probably though.
2016-05-20 23:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by doris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have the baby just to have it. If she (since this is hypothetical) wants the baby, have the baby. If not, terminate the pregnancy. Be aware that having a child will make her university experience very different from most peoples'.
Aborting a pregnancy is taking responsibility. I know this is unpopular, but it is the truth.
If she wasn't on female hormone birth control before (and it was an unplanned pregnancy), I hope she will change her view and start taking it.
2007-04-15 10:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really not one for pre-marital sex but.. if the girl knows for sure that the guy will look and care 100% for the baby (and won't abuse it or anything), then i think she should definetly have it..
it would only be right to have an abortion if there were really bad circumstances involving the baby's birth.. like if the father wasn't up for having a kid, i would probably consider having an abortion.. but since this isn't the case, she shouldn't.
and 18 is still too young! i hope the two get married in the near future, though. ^^;
2007-04-15 10:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by soccrrulz21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends what she wants to do with it.
If it was me, personally, I would keep the baby. I cant even tolerate the fact of giving my child up for adoption or much less aborting it. But that is just me personally.
But obviously it depends on the person.
It serves some people very well to give the child up for adoption. Ultimately its really the mothers decision to be making.
Some questions she may need to ask herself, "Do I want to keep the baby? Am I willing to make the sacrifices necessary? Will this be the best for my child? What is the best thing to do for my baby? etc
2007-04-15 10:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the girl would have used protection she wouldn't be in this situation. But sinse teh deed is done, I wouldn't havean abortion, I would have it and if it was too much for you and your bf then put it up for adoption. Some hope and pray to find a baby to adopt so have it and then just put it up for adoption and don't worry because the adopted parents will all the medical bills. SO think about it and it will leave you and your bf free to go to college or whatever. And next time use protection.
2007-04-15 10:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda understand what da girl is going through, bcos, i hav da feeling i am pregnant(good reasons), and ive always sed to myself that i wudnt have an abortion.
But next year me and my bf are going uni, and we have a lot of expectations and things we want to do, and having a baby wud mean putting those on hold or even forgetting abt dem.
If the girl is going uni and da guy is looking afta da baby? hu is bringing in the money to look afta the family?
its a hard question, but da girl has to think it through....havin a baby, wud bring hard times, and havin the abortion wudnt, but it wud bring emotional and guilt emotions.
Mayb da grandparents can help?
2007-04-15 10:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say things in the heat of the moment, like i will look after the baby while you do what-ever you want to do however as the time comes around, that person may regret saying it.I'm not saying that she shouldn't have the baby, but if she was considering a big life ahead of her.
It would make sense to make sure that her boyfriend was commited enough to not get bored of having to look after the baby while she was away and not being able to go out as much.
If her and her boyfriend think they were strong enough for this then i think they should go for it.
(*And i wish them a happy life *)
x.
2007-04-15 10:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by bessy_1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope that you do not terminate the pregnancy! There are far too many people out there that would love to have children but can't and they would love to adopt a child.
You're very young, yes. But if you are in a loving relationship that will result in marriage and you have a committed father to your child, it's going to be a rough ride for several years but I think you should keep your child.
2007-04-15 10:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by msbluemd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult choice. Having a baby now might make things harder for her if she wants to go to university and/or get a good job. Both she and her boyfriend should be financially secure if they seriously plan to have a child. I'd also recommend to get married first, because being married gives them different rights as to child support than if they were not married.
2007-04-15 10:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋