I have this step-mom and she is mean to me. She has been married to my dad for 2 years and i don't like her. I have known her for bout 6 years and we are always getting in fights. She always says i love you but i don't say it back. I don't love her i can't stand her. When i have a friend over she is all nice and i hate that. And after she yells at me she comes in my room and hugs me and says do you understand or somethink like that. It drives me crazy. What should i do?
2007-04-15 09:52:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have two beautiful step-daughters and it pains me that you would feel unloved by your step mother. Is it her or are you mad at her for marrying your dad? Do you feel like she is trying to take your moms place and you do not want her to?
The best way to help any relationship with by talking. Can you tell your dad that you want to talk to her and him together and bring this up? Sometimes finding out rather everyone is on the same page helps alot.
Good luck :)
2007-04-15 09:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by liberalady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the oldest and even if your step mom is mean your half sister is still your sister, So try and except this is something you cant change and have to deal with at least till your 18 and able too move out. by not saying any thing and letting it go you will be acting and showing maturity and that will help make life better for you, trust me.
2016-05-20 23:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by nakita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should sit down and have a talk with her about y shes so mean to u. Then i think u should have a talk with ur dad about it and let him him know even though u dont like her ur trying very hard to respect that. Then if shes still being a b**** i guess theres nothing u can do but give her the same treatment shes gives u then maybe she will back off. good luck with this one if it works email me rogerstracy@yahoo.com would like to know
2007-04-15 10:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by tracy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your step-mom really mean to you or is this just what you want to believe. Do you think that if it wasn't for her then your dad and mom would be back together. look at your own behavior first, are you mean to her or show her disrespect, are you purposefully pushing her over the edge. Sometimes kids don't really want the step-mom around so they see things how they want to get their way. If she truly is mean to you then talk to your dad.
2007-04-16 00:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by dreamgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are not really giving your step-mom a chance. You've said it yourself you don't love her and you can't stand her. I've been in your situation before. Remember, your father and how he feels. It is evident that he loves this woman and is part of his life. Don't make him choose between his wife and the daughter he loves? I know things are hard right now but from your statement I don't think your step-mom is intentionally trying to hurt you. Sounds to me like she is reaching out. She obviously love you and is trying to connect with you so please, give her a chance.
2007-04-15 11:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to like you...
Talk to her, get to know her better. Tell her -"Could you act normal when my friend{s} are here?"- "I don't like to fight, I understand your my new mom, but can you just let me learn my way?" Questions like that.
If you want her out...
This depends on your dad. Tell you dad, - "I don't like the way my new mom is treating me." - "She doesn't act normal" - She's more of a friend that I don't want to get to know."
If your dad doen't put thought into this, move with your mom. Dad's should think about the situation.
2007-04-15 10:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by ladiesman27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be understanding that it's hard for her to get you to like her and if you rlly don't ant to be fr4einds it just makes it even more harder tyr to not get in fights and talk becuz you'll never get nething done if all u do is yell then stay shut up in ur room or something or you could just talk to ur dad u know???
2007-04-15 09:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by helendear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same deal you are in. What I did was move in with my grandparents at age 16. I took alot of crap from her for years and now we get along good.
I would do the same, find someone to live with.
2007-04-15 14:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad how you feel. He might talk to your Step-Mom. Then she might back off. My dad is going to get married to0. I am going to get a step-mom.
2007-04-15 10:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father about it ,not when your stepmom is around tho ,wait until you and your father are alone ,then tell him you need to talk to him about somthing that is really bothering you .hopfully he will understand and take care of the problem for you .
2007-04-15 09:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by keri g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋