I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have a 2 yr old daughter. We are in the middle of buying our own house and recently got engaged. When we went up to the in laws house (my partner having told his mother on the phone our good news) they didnt say a word. His father never congratulated us. His mother didnt ask me a thing and didnt even see my ring. I was in tears when we left. Do you think this means they dont want us to marry. I have to admit they are a bit odd. I was never quite sure what they thought of me. We were young when we first started dating. He was 17 and myself 19. We dont expect help financially with our wedding. We have always found them quite mean anyway (they are millionaires who never seem to buy anything not even for themselves) I cant help feel hard done by as I thought I would be gaining a family. I just think if they werent so rich maybe we could have a decent relationship for myself and our daughter. I dont care about their money. We do fine on our own
2007-04-15 09:29:35 · 13 answers · asked by Teresa M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first of all how do you think they became millionaires not by buying things for themselves and or for others either secondly looks suspiciously like to me that they either think you are a gold digger and you have smelt money and are with their son for what u can get out of them or they just have a plain dislike of you but my guess would be mr and mrs money bags just dont think you are good enough for their son and think he can do better im sorry its not nice and im sure you are a lovely girl but that is what i think you are probably all the woman their son needs but they dont see that just the pound signs in front of their eyes i dont think its you who has anyhting to worry about its them they should be grateful their son has a nice girl and they have a beautiful grand daughter and you two are happy together
2007-04-15 15:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by driver_man37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being silly at all, to expect them to be interested is what NORMAL inlaws do. But it sounds to me like they are weird and that maybe they dont approve. But who cares if you cant get married with their approval, then do it without. I also suggest not inviting them if that is all the interest they show on the topic, and when you mention that u got married already mayby, just maybe, they will realize they have missed out, I am 100% serious. They dont deserve to be invited, and it is not money that is stopping the relationship, its their choice to act this way. Deep down you know this which is why u cant let it go. If ur partner dosent mind, I suggest leaving them out. If not, then I suggest you give up the ideal of u all getting along because it aint going to happen, and at least stop worrying urself over their reaction and dont try so hard to please them if they are not going to play ball.
2007-04-16 02:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Zinc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats most prob they wasn't shocked (soz to say) cos u've been seeing ur partner for 7 years ur just goin a step on thats all maybe thats it. plus u have a 2 yr old daughter so really u only in thier eyes ur al ready marrid?
it doesn't matter what his family thinks as long u and ur partner is happy thats ok, they sound be happy for u?
maybe as the "big day" comes they'll maybe be happy,
2007-04-16 05:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a little hard for them to get excited about their son buying the cow after having the milk for 7 yrs already. Anyway, why should you care what they think?
2007-04-15 21:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they think you are after their money. I would talk to them face to face.
Tell them you was a little upset of them not mentioning your engagement, And tell them how much you love their son.
If you dont want to do that get your partner to speak to them. It is rude of them to ignore the situation and not congratulate you both.
They will have to learn to like it or lump it. But speak to them soon or the longer u leave it the worse they will get.
By the way CONGRATULATIONS to you both.
2007-04-16 07:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for 7 years, lets face it what have they got to be excited about ?
time will tell if you will really get married
they may even be worried that you might tap them up fpr some money, don't ask them , get married as quickly as possible and show them you mean business
2007-04-16 06:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end off the day,you are marrying the man you love and want too spend the rest off your life with,let them get on with there stupiness its there loss,just you be happy with your future hubby n daughter......good luck too you both xxxx
2007-04-15 20:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you've been together a long time so maybe they just expected it. who cares what they think tho, as long as you both are happy with each other, your not marrying them after all are you? o and ppl with money are always tight with it. its why they have it. cos they dont spend it you see!
2007-04-15 17:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont sound like happy acting people but maybe they are happy for you.just keep being yourselves and love them and dont worry so much about how they act toward things.Congratulations on your engagement.as long as you both are happy then thats what counts.
2007-04-15 19:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs..Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is why do you care so much if it is apparent that they seem so self centered? if it were me i'd try to explain my feelings to them in a letter or face to face. don,t try to be confrontational just state your feelings and leave it at that. good luck.
2007-04-15 16:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by nick s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋